Why do I need to dress up for him???

Question

Why is it that I as a woman have to get my hair done, have my nails done, put make up on, and get dressed up and my husband doesn't?
I can't get even get my man to trim his freakin nose hair! He used to care how he looks and now he's just there...he has a ton of confidence but I'm not attracted to him anymore.
Has anyone ever had this problem?

Answer 1

It sounds like you want him to dress up for you. Not that I blame you. Tell him that when he doesn't clean up for long periods of time he starts looking old to you and then that makes you feel old and every now and then you want to feel good and young because it makes you get horny. Then he may be cleaned up but then get ready for the dirty, dirty. Have Fun.

Answer 2

Um, let me guess. To land this great guy you got all dressed up didn't you? I will assume that he was a prince before and turned into the ugly guy your describe right? And I will assume you are a typical woman and you clearly saw this guy as a project of someone you could change over time. Guys don't change. He is the same guy you married and dated. If you get divorced, will you look all ugly to land your next guy or will you fix yourself up? Then do it for him to keep him and accept he will stay the same. you might might he will tweak it, including his nose hair, if you stay the princess he always saw in you. If is that bad trim it for him and in trade let him trim you (wink wink). You can make it a playful game. Trust me if you are all hairy he will wonder why he can't be. ;)

Answer 3

I don't have this problem... Nothing I do while taking care of myself is for my husband - everything is for *me*. I put on the same amount of make up, wear the same clothes, and get my hair done the same way now that I'm married as before when I was single. And if my husband's nose hair bothers me - I will trim it for him. He has more important things to worry about - like, taking good care of the family.

Answer 4

Reward him GREATLY for behavior that you want. I mean sex him like you never have when he grooms well.

Make the reward immediate!

Here is a fun idea. Tell him you are going to a wedding and make him come. Get him to dress all up... and trim the nose hair. Be very kind and patient while he complains and gets ready so that you don't ruin your whole plan.

Then when you are about to leave... grab him and pull him into the bedroom... rip his clothes off and give it to him like you haven';t in years. Act like a starving dog on a juicy steak... then when you are all done... lean over and say in a casual but breathless way, "You looked so hot I had to have you right now!"

Oh, make sure you don't drag him to a wedding after sex - he will forget how great it all was because guys don't like weddings.

Answer 5

I know what you mean.
My hubby wears dirty old bib overalls to work and I just about have to beg him to put on a clean pair once in a while. He does put on clean ones when we have to go to a store or somewhere.
If he don't trim his nosehair try plucking it with a tweezer, he sould get the message.
If he goes to work and makes a good living you should be able to put up with a little. Maybe his is slobbing out because he isn't attracted to you any longer.
Maybe you don't need to get all gussied up all the time.
Maybe you need to put out his clothes and tell him that's what he needs to wear.
Sometimes men just get lazy and need a little encouraging to keep themselves up, I need to do that every once in a while.
A gentle suggestion should do it.

Answer 6

when a couple are dating they tend to clean up a lot and look nice for the other...after they marry, things relax a little and one (or both) relax to the point of not caring anymore because they already 'have' what they want...
you need to tell your husband that he is not the man that you married, that you want THAT man back...you will need to explain this to him...men don't get the point as easily as women

Answer 7

tell him "no dressy, no sexy"

make a deal with him that is meaningful and you can have this guy in a tux every day, if that's what you want. Otherwise, it's pretty much a "what's in it for me? kind of deal." Why should he dress up if you won't? Yeah, we men are pigs.

Answer 8

Women don't dress up for men. They dress up for other women. Men don't really care what you wear, women will break down every little detail of an outfit.

Answer 9

Sounds crazy but, let him notice you checking out your "ideal hottie". When he sees what has now caught your eye, he'll run home to make his appearance better. If it doesn't work, stop shaving your legs....and when he says something...say "you shave, I shave....you shower, I shower...". I've also heard of girls telling their friends to drop hints that "their man stinks". When its someone outside of the relationship drawing attention or getting attention, guys usually shape up pretty fast.

Answer 10

do the same thing and when he says something tell him how you feel when he does it! Or get really dressed up to a point that yo look so hot he won't be able to keep his hands off you then when he goes to touch you tell him that you are hands off until he cleans himself up and you want him just as bad!!!