Marriage & Divorce - 25 June 2007

I am 36 and I got married to a 41 year old woman a year ago.She was a wonderful person when we first met(she still is),but embeded in her is this 'been there done that' attitude which is driving me nuts.She has four kids,the oldest being 28.I also have a two year old from a previous relationship.

My problem is,ever since I started working(day and night) my wife thinks I should give her all my paychek which I did not object to.But don't I have the right to know how each dime is spent? She gets upset if I ask.
I drive a truck at night and I drive part time in the day also.My theory is; if I die in an accident,she will just move on with her kids.Right?
We have been arguing over finances for a long time.
She also does not want to let go of her numerous male friends.She does not cook for the weekend,she does not cook when she comes back from work and she sometimes treat me like one of her kids.
This woman has been good to me. Can I stay or move on???

2007-06-25 12:52:40 · 7 answers · asked by titicaca 2

2007-06-25 12:45:49 · 9 answers · asked by John D 1

Is there any reason that my husband should not want to me to track how much time he spends having his alone time as compared to mine. This has been an argument only because he always says I do stuff and always want to go do stuff. When I offer to track both his side and my side he is saying I am just playing games and shouldn't be so childish. Should it be equal - we have 3 kids - we both work but I work at home with the kids. I don't want anymore time than I am getting just tired of hearing him say I do soooo much when he does more. We do have time together as a couple with the kids and without the kids so that is not the issue.

2007-06-25 12:44:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

wife cheated 8 years ago with guy, he moved out of state. this is burdened me, because it was 1 month before my son was conceived. imagine how that is wondering everyday if im the father. now hes back and i find secret phone and calls for a month to this p.o.s. wife claims only talking, nothing else. the p.o.s continues to call after 6 months. if i didnt want to loose my career, there would be 2 people hurtin. we have 3 children and im tired of the crap. if we divorce i miss alot of time with my children. but living in a untruthful relationship isnt healthy. ive thought about leaving,therapy,even getting even. 2 wrongs dont make a right and not "christian" of me. i'm not perfect i havn't "been there" at all times, but her family crap and everything else im only human. should i say oh well and walk away and enjoy the time i do get with my children or make a third try at it..cheating is more than physical.

2007-06-25 12:44:35 · 44 answers · asked by robert a 1

2007-06-25 12:38:11 · 21 answers · asked by ? 6

You go to a once a year party your company has. You don't leave your wife's side only to get the coats to leave. If you see others you don't work with you don't even say hi. Everyone around you knows your wife wears the pants in the family. You usually act very shy but when you get too know someone you joke around with them and they all know you flirt with just this "one" women at the job because she gives you attention. Are you not leaving your wife's side because #1 you are scared of her and #2 what she might say to your coworkers and #3 are you afraid a coworker might tell her about the real jokester and flirt you are?

2007-06-25 12:31:15 · 9 answers · asked by h 4

...she got mad at you for cheating on her?

2007-06-25 12:23:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-25 12:19:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

when your your young and and know everything there is not too many problems to deal with, there is always time and the future is too far to see but what if your 55 and something from long keeps tugging at you heart strings. Of course there is no chance of a reunion or any thing like that she is happly married and has 2 grown children. I am married and have 2 grown children and a grand child. Really weird huh? the pain is real though. what to do .....

2007-06-25 12:16:33 · 12 answers · asked by lek 5

2007-06-25 12:03:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

How would you react to your spouse if they went to the store to buy some thing you asked them to buy. They think the bought the right thing, they come home and it turns out to be the wrong thing. It was in the wrong spot but spouse thought it was in the right spot. would you call that person a idiot because they bought the wrong thing?

2007-06-25 12:00:09 · 35 answers · asked by sassylassy2876 4

my husband and i split recently after a pretty nasty incident. I have seen him since and he says he has sorted himself out and that it has taken something like this for him to realise what he was doing. Up until I saw him today (for the first time in a month) i was dead set on a divorce. But today he seemed like he was really sorry for what he has done and i now have mixed emotions. He has promised me so many times before that he will sort himself out but it's never happened . Will things be different now? We have been apart for a month- the first time apart in 7 years. Do people with drink problems ever sort themselves out really?

2007-06-25 11:39:03 · 21 answers · asked by dianita 1

My 6-month anniversary is on July 6th, and I am going to pop the question, but I want something memorable, not the traditional dinner. I was thinking something like dancing, or maybe a bed and breakfast.

2007-06-25 11:28:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is a great guy, but when it comes to the bedroom it like boom-boom, roll over, kisses then goodnight. His idea of foreplay is standing in the doorway with his pants around his ankles saying "Do ya want to? Hu?" HELP ME PLEASE! I want some spice in the bedroom, can you help?

2007-06-25 11:09:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have asked this question to many people who are still happy together after 50 years, and the answers have ranged from being best friends with your spouse to never go to bed mad. What advice could you give to those about to be married?

2007-06-25 10:59:45 · 23 answers · asked by 2 Happily Married Americans 5

would you stay in a marriage where your partner is good to you but there is no sex or passion involved?

2007-06-25 10:56:22 · 35 answers · asked by mmm..whynot 3

I talked with my ex wife today.She says she forgave me along time ago .She lost trust in me,accused me of having and emotional affair two years ago.I didn't want a divorce,she took it to far and i begged her to go to counseling with me.She says she forgives me but can never forget.If she really forgave me then why divorce.Is this just a play on words.

2007-06-25 10:51:41 · 9 answers · asked by Rodger M 1

I'm dating a man that is 10 years older than me that I have a lot of fun with. he is a nice guy and we have a lot in common. Problem he has been married twice in his past and has a child be each woman. They also live in different states. I have been married once before and have one child so I'm trying to be understanding. The only thing is that he brings the ex wives up and says things that compare me to things they used to do like one used to get drunk and act crazy in which I don't. I'm confused about dating him. I don't like drama and he has to travel a lot for his job going to each place that each one lives. has anyone been through this. I really like him but I don't like the being married twice and him talking about it. I have talked to him and he apologized but i don't know if this will cause drama in the future. He says he loves me so we are serious. should I stay in this?

2007-06-25 10:49:59 · 18 answers · asked by Venus 3

2007-06-25 10:47:54 · 16 answers · asked by pancakes 2

2007-06-25 10:47:44 · 26 answers · asked by Bailey B 2

to do anal anymore.Can a man get use to the fact that a woman is no longer willing to do something she never enjoyed doin in the first place?

2007-06-25 10:09:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

After they all hear about my huge Johnson, the cat fights start.

2007-06-25 09:59:11 · 13 answers · asked by Harry 1

If given the choice between three men with similar personalities, financial standing, and likes and dislikes. Only major difference the these men is that one is 35, one is 45 and the other is 55. Which would you chose and why?

2007-06-25 09:55:45 · 13 answers · asked by Brian 5

Ive been with Matt for 5 years. We've been together since high school. We are in our early 20's and we both have good secure jobs. I want to get a condo and I asked Matt if he wanted to move in with me. He said No because he's not ready and he cant leave his mom behind. Matt says he loves me and he wants to marry me someday.( His mother hated me since the first day I met her.) Matt and I will make plans to do something and he cancels them to do errands for his mom.He cant stand up and tell her anything. He's otherwise the most perfect man in the world. What should I do? Should I give him a ultimatum or what? I'm seriously tired of being 2nd to his mother and family. Should I just give up and date other people?

2007-06-25 09:54:12 · 18 answers · asked by Miss CaLi GroWn 3

somewhat tame. I have a lot of "hang ups" due to past abusive relationships. I know he loves me but I sometimes worry that I am boring compared to the women he used to date. He has done things in his past (sexually) that I would never dream of doing. I think he's seen all of his friends wifes breast at some point in time, has been to a lot of hot tub parties where anything goes, has had threesomes, and has been to parties where people are openly having sex with each other. I could go on but I think you get the idea. Sometimes I worry that I'm so uptight about things that I don't know how to have a good time. I would never give up my morals and values but I also realize that I need to relax and enjoy life a little. Lately when we go out, I've been trying to loosen up a bit and my fiance doesn't seem to like it. Why??? I would never do any of the things he's done in the past. I'm not exposing myself, just not being so inhibited and more outgoing. I don't really understand it???

2007-06-25 09:47:27 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 23 and he's 26--- we've been together a long time and we enjoyed smoking weed together, but now that I'm 23 and we're both thinking about marriage, I stopped smoking and he's still doing it. I told him I don't like it that it's time he grows up, I threatened him and all he says is "There are things that I don't approve of you doing either but I wouldn't break up with you over it because I know it makes you happy and it's not like i'm hurting anybody". But I think this is different. When he's high, he just lays there and it's boring like he just had the life sucked out of him---and he smokes like 4-5 times a week.

I love everything else about him. Should I let him go cuz of this after 5 years?
I really don't want to but I don't know what else to do? He just doesn't seem to get it... he thinks I'm making a big deal out of this and he doesn't think this is a problem at all.

2007-06-25 09:26:24 · 27 answers · asked by marycotter5678 1

i am totally in love but he has a wife

2007-06-25 09:15:07 · 38 answers · asked by Sonja D 1

My dh & I have been married for over 5 years & are both in our 40's (me early 40's - him late). He used to be SO considerate & sweet, but things are different now.

He used to talk bad about men that walked ahead of their wives, now HE does it if he's preoccupied. He used to call me pet names, rub my feet every time we were sitting down, make candle lit baths for me, & hold my hand when we were walking or driving. He'd do 1/2 of the housework. He made me feel like a princess.

Things are changing. I don't consider myself spoiled, but sure loved the way he used to treat me. Now I do most of the housework, all the laundry, help work in the yard, pay all the bills & run errands. Plus, I have a fulltime job like him.

He's home right after work every night though & says he's happy (I asked him recently). Is this what happens when things 'settle down'? Is the friendship part of the relationship starting ALREADY? I love him very much-should I be worried? Is he just spoiled now??

2007-06-25 09:13:12 · 18 answers · asked by nite_angelica 7

i've been in love with this man sience i was 12-13 years old. when i turned 20 we got together (he said he prayed to God for me). now, 8 years and 2 kids latter he doesn't want to be with me. his new girlfriend has 3 kids by 2 diffrent fathers. I gave him all i could give as a women and he just ups and leaves just like that. as time goes on i'm realizing that almost every man that comes accross my path is out for one thing. i'm not a your girl in junor high or high school i''m a women with goals and responsabilities. I don't see anyone offering me anything i can't buy in a store for myself. How do i get past the hurt, pain and confusion of this situation with out losing myself in the process.?

2007-06-25 09:07:37 · 16 answers · asked by miss_g2300 1

2007-06-25 09:05:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous