Marriage & Divorce - 25 June 2007

My husband is constantly comparing our sex life to his coworkers and I am sick of it. He hears the story how everyone got extrmly "busy" over the weekend and he feels we should have as well. first of all he is comparing us to barely 20 something kids and second their wives do not hold a 9-5 job (I work in the insurance industry) and then come home and take care of the kids and cook like I do! (one sits at home and plays on the internet all day and the other one is a cashier at a tire shop). If he doesnt "get lucky" then he acts like a 4 yr old and pouts for the rest of the week or he comes at me like some friggin horn dog. like its his married right to get it when he wants it and if I don't give it to him (and I DONT) then i have to deal w/ his attitude. i am at the point where I want a divorce because i am sick of his childish behavior and dont get me started on what he thought he should get when i was pregnant thanks to his coworkers!!! I love the dumbA** but he just doesnt get it!

2007-06-25 09:02:15 · 43 answers · asked by lou 2

I have been with my boyfriend/fiance for over 6 years. The first 2-3 years were good. We had alot of rough patches but I tried to put them aside and focus on the love we had for eachother. It was alot of rumors about him cheating on me, my dad didnt like him, his unwillingness to open up and his constant picking on me. But I thought my love was strong enough to get past that. He moved into my house around our 3 year anniversary.

Then his grandmother passed away a couple of months after our 3 yr anniversary. He was really close to his grandmother, she practically raised him. So it really broke him down. His life took a turn for the worse, he got really depressed and started drinking alot. I tried to be there for him as much as I could but he kept pushing me away. I never gave up and held up hope that he would eventually let me in.

He finally gave me some hope that he was coming back to me when he proposed on Christmas morning 2004. Of course I accepted.

2007-06-25 09:00:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Question is not about whether you did or not but about if you have been in a situation where you seriously thought about it in the last year. I would just like to know how common it is. I am 34 and married with kids. I have been working with a lady over the past 8 months and have had real thoughts about having an afair for the first time in 12 years of marriage.

2007-06-25 08:57:32 · 13 answers · asked by Brian 5

Why is it that Men who are so lovey dovey while courting, so understanding, charming, caring, passionate, affectionate, loving, flexible, polite, humorous, life-of-the-party suddenly change couple of months into the marriage?

All their charming attributes goes puff!! Before marriage they kinda encourage their lady to take on the world, be career oriented, be trendy, chic and fashionable. After marriage - ?

What brings about this change? Marriage? Just by getting married everything changes? Just like that? So does the argument favor live-ins? Will romance be kept alive if the couple didn't marry?

Why does the woman suddenly appear to be from Venus after marriage? Till then she is the apple or diamond of his eye. His heart thuds and pounds the moment her thought flashes by. He continues to converse with her even in her absence. He understands and tunes in to her very soul. Then?

Not logical at all. Is it Men? Women? or the Institution of Marriage?

2007-06-25 08:55:07 · 11 answers · asked by Preacher 1

My husband has a dual personality that's very confusing. On the one hand, he could be very affectionate, other times emotionally disconnected.and insensitive. He kisses me good morning, good night, before he goes to work & when he comes back. He takes care of the 2 boys, 5yrs & 18 mos old, bathes them, feeds them. Does housework, dishes. But theres a side of his personality that's very cold & distant. he pretty much lives in his own world. Has no friends and no interest to have any. I don't think he needs people really. He's even cold & distant w/ his immediate family.He doesn't go anywhere except work & back. Goes out w/ me & the boys. After sex at times I feel used, because I don't feel that were close. We dont spend enough alone time w/ each other w/out the kids, they even sleep w/ us. He finds me attractive sexually & physically & enjoys sex w/ me but mentioned a few times to go somewhere to watch other people have sex. Sexual deviant? Doesn't like anybody. Social deviant? Sick??

2007-06-25 08:51:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married almost 2 years. We went from 1-2 times a week to 1-2 times a MONTH. We talked and she asked me to be more romantic and less touchy-feely (I thought she might want that before we had sex. WRONG). I have done those things and I've been patient but it hasn't improved. Am I doing anything wrong, and if not, what can I do to fix this situation? Do I threaten cheating or moving out? Do I stop doing chores around his house? Need advice.

2007-06-25 08:45:59 · 18 answers · asked by gardener411 2

I have heard of a book called Men are Just Desserts.

I guess the idea is, to get women not to be dependant at all on having a man.

The idea seems to be, after a woman has already solved all of her problems and basic hurdles in life, getting along socially, getting and keeping a good job, finding an adequate place to live etc...

Than! The reward is - She gets a man, because then she is the most capable to have the relationship. She then has enough independence ( her car, her own job, confidence, etc ) to be happy within the relationship.

What do you think of this book? is my question.

2007-06-25 08:21:59 · 9 answers · asked by smoothsoullady 4

My ex of 3 years ago is now married, every 10-12 months she contacts me.
Last time she was away on business and said she was bored so she thought she'd contact me.
I know it's not flattering but why contact me when her husband was at home, and why does she bother contacting me anyway?
I could really do with some good feedback on this please.

2007-06-25 08:15:36 · 13 answers · asked by Smoking Joe 1

It is very important for the well-being of my family.Thank you.

2007-06-25 08:08:24 · 13 answers · asked by Seal_over 2

We have just been in a bit of a rut lately, and I want to let her know I still find her attractive. I would like to bring up ideas of how to spice up our sex life (role play, different positions, stuff of that nature), and am wondering what would be the best way to do this?

I was thinking of picking up something from victorias secret for her and leaving it out somewhere she would see it when she got back from work with a little note saying something to the effect of i cant wait to see you...but afterwards how would you suggest me bringing up the idea of role play, or handcuffs, or games of some sort?

any advice would be appreciated, thanks!!

also, sorry if this question is offensive to anyone

2007-06-25 08:02:33 · 15 answers · asked by n_d_metcalf 2

What would be the reason for my husband to have mulitiple emails? One is specifficaly for work and job searching.
Found him on another website I had to idea he joined. And he had no reason to join.

2007-06-25 08:01:07 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-25 08:01:06 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been together for 6 years, engaged for 2. What can I do? He's agreed to see a therapist, but what do I do in the mean time? I have to see him every day knowing he doesn't love me...

2007-06-25 07:56:54 · 20 answers · asked by Rayne 2

2007-06-25 07:55:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

..venue if your bloke was mad about his football team? ie; Upton Park!

2007-06-25 07:54:23 · 31 answers · asked by cockneyboy 2

I have been married for 6 years now.My wife and I have no kids and we just purchased a home.Lately, my wife is always calling into work.She says shes sick(Which she sometimes is but wont try to go to work).She has been fighting with me alot lately.Her attitude has changed .I know there is no one else but I feel as if she is growing apart from me.I tell her this and tell her if she isnt happy in her current job to look for another.She wont.She promised to work hard and put all of our money into our house but It hasnt been going that well.I dont know If I should try a different method or what?It feels like Im raising a kid.She hates being called a kid but hey, if the shoe fits?Im open to suggestions?

2007-06-25 07:53:26 · 16 answers · asked by jmillhimes 2

My wife of four years has pushed me to pursue my ultimate goal in life and go after the Border Patrol. Now she is playing this game of "I refuse to move or teach in the valley" Basically shes playing this , Sacrifice game, where she thinks she was given up more than I have. What do I do, I have put my goal on the backburner for a couple of years now and if I put it off any longer it'll be too late.

2007-06-25 07:52:40 · 26 answers · asked by tysonberry8669 3

as I have been capturing mine in ziploc bags to sell. Kind of stinks, but I'm sure I can sell it, right?

2007-06-25 07:50:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Am I wrong for getting irritated that my husband is like this? IT seems that he has to act cool for his friends. By acting cool I mean he has to show that even now that he's married, he is still in control of his own life. He still does his own thing. He can still go like he was going before, because after all, nothing has changed except his marital status. For instance, we are on a tight budget but he would rather spend money we don't have picking up the tab for his friends when they go out for drinks. No, he doesn't do it all the time but when he does do it he doesn't check our account so ensure there is adequate funds. He and a co-worker may go out for beers and drinks (no food) and the bill will be almost $40. We have talked about this and he said he doesn't feel like he is sharing the wealth since they pay for his bill sometimes. I understand that he wants to treat his friends sometimes and I have no problem with that. I treat my cousin at times. But if I tell him ...

2007-06-25 07:38:09 · 11 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

As in, why aren't men expected to pay an amount like 50 percent of their income to their exwives that they abandon in order to help the exwives get back on their feet?

2007-06-25 07:30:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-25 07:30:19 · 10 answers · asked by Ms Durr 3

I had a romance with this married man. He swears he loves me and he says he has been married only to give his son a home, he says that he doesn't love his wife and that they haven't have sex in months. I'm married too and I have a son too. And I know it's not right but sometimes things happen that way in life, so don't answer if you want to accuse me please, it's a long long story. I was just about to leave my husband for him, but when I told him about it he just said "I can't leave them, I have to protect my family, it can't be that way". The problem is that he still says that he dreams with me and that I am his true love. He doesn't matter if we never see each other, and only talk by mail or phone. He says that he just want to know how I am, how I feel. He says he just want's to be around. I still love him, miss him, and I don't know what to do. In addition, I feel very bad because he is still with his wife, I feel a little humilliated. Why men do such things?should I believe him?

2007-06-25 07:21:39 · 27 answers · asked by kitkat20 1

I've heard alot of guys say that if he REALLY likes a girl (or admires her and can possibly love her), the more he doesn't tell her as much things and doesn't reveal his true self because the more he'll lose her?


I don't understand this at all - i always thought the more he'd be more himself, the more she'll be there and vice versa...you'd lose her more if you weren't being completely yourself....

can someone break this down for me, please?

2007-06-25 07:17:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am working at a contract position which will be ending soon. I am looking for a permanent job.

I don't know if I should focus on looking for a permanent job or setttling things with my ex-husband.

He has custody of our 15 year old daughter and they are both moving to a different state because of his job change. He has been there since Feb and has now sold the house.

I live in another state. I am willing to have my daughter come stay with me.

However, my ex-husband has not been able to move on and feels that we should get back together for both of our sakes and our daughter.

Should I be talking to him to negotiate things or focus on settling my own life?

2007-06-25 07:04:02 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I love my wife. But I love that other woman also. Ethically I know that I am going wrong. But my heart is asking of more of that other lady. It something like I like a home dish and I would like to eat at a good and decent hotel also. My home dish is excellent. But would like to eat another healthy dish from a healthy joint too. Please somebody make me understand what is happening to me. It is something like daily I have my food at home and week ends would like to go outing with fammily and dine out at good hotel. I would like to know, whether I should go ahead with a healthy extramerital affair

2007-06-25 07:00:24 · 18 answers · asked by HEMANT S 2

My wife and I have been having problemd for a bout 6 months.

We've been trying to conceive or adopt, have had many stresses and generally have not been getting along on this subject.

Recently, I 've noticed her becoming secretive, distant, our sex life has suffred, we been bickering and I became suspicious. So, I installed a spyware program on our computer and was able to gain access into her e-mail.
I discovered correspondances with a couple of her girlfriends where she was discussing a crushon a married co-worker.
I admitted what I had done and how I gathered the information and confronted her. While there has been no action on this crush, there has been a flirtation that has gone on for a coupe months.
She feels that she has done nothing wrong by having this crush/flirtation and feels I have crossed a line. I contend that while my behavior is certainly worthy of an apology, I fear for my marriage (which is in trouble) and am just trying to gain answers.

Am I over reacting?

2007-06-25 06:59:51 · 17 answers · asked by ? 4

I started seeing a new person a few weeks ago that i met at a deli. She's right on the edge of age that i would consider dating. I'm29 and she's 23. So, with that i have told her a little about my past and have introduced her to some friends and family. (We spent the entire day sat. joy riding on one of my families boats.) I however didn't tell her i was once married and that i had 2 kids either. I didn't think it was any of her business b/c i didn't know where this would go. Ex. Friends or Girlfriend. She lives in a different town and has just moved from a different state. She found out about the kids and that i was married through my niece this past weekend. She asked why i didn't say anything so i told her that i didn't know where we stood and i don't put my business out there for everyone. I consider that i'm not looking for some to replace their mother at all- she could never be replaced. So i didn't want her to have that impression either. I love my kids and aren't ashamed.

2007-06-25 06:23:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have not lived together for 6 years I know the city where he is at, but cant find a address he lives with anyone who will let him stay,mainly girls. any help would be appreciated

2007-06-25 06:21:06 · 15 answers · asked by Pearl P 2

2007-06-25 06:20:47 · 6 answers · asked by rae rae rae 1

also some other benifits
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2007-06-25 06:02:27 · 29 answers · asked by howsitgoingeh2003 2