2007-06-25 12:03:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. A while ago my husband had an affair. It was the first time anything like it ever happened to us. I decided to give him a second chance but, not a third. Even though it hurt very bad and my life/ mental state pretty much got messed up. We are working thru it with therapy and lots of meds...lol.... Things are ok now, but will never be the same. I believe in second chances but no way will there be a third chance. It's a horrible feeling and experice to go thru, but if you love your bf/gf/spouse, you may find it easier to handle.
2007-06-25 12:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jejo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i have had 3 of those. For 2 of them, i took them back and tried again, only to get cheated on again. with the 3rd i found out he was cheating and i dropped him like a bad habit. I felt stupid, betrayed, angry and very foolish especially with the ones that i took back. Now infidelity is unforgiveable there will be no more second chances. My experience has been that no matter how good of a woman/man you are, no matter how good you look, if someone wants to cheat, they are going to do it. Life is too short, there are too many diseases, and I refuse to let someone touch, kiss, or make love to me if he has been with someone else. And i do believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater."
2007-06-25 12:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by lwomar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had it happen to me with almost every g/f i had. It hurts, it hurts real bad. And now i have sometimes trouble trusting my wife. Its not my wifes fault, but as life goes on and things happen to you. You learn. And from learning you build yourself some defense walls.
It is the most horrible feeling i have ever felt and i wouldnt wish it on anyone. Read all the answers in this site to ppl who ask if they should. All the married ppl try to persuade others not to do this, and to leave thier current partners first then go and do what you want. I totally agree. If all my old g/f had left me first then did what they wanted i wouldnt have given a sh*t. But the other way hurts to many ppl, just to get off on someone else. PPL need to respect one another and try to give love out by trusting and loving thier partners, not by cheating!
2007-06-25 12:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It made me feel really bad. I even started to blame myself that I wasn't good enough and that's why he needed another girl. In the end, I realized I'm not the one with the problem, in fact, he's the problem. I dumped him and didn't take him back even when he cried. He even tried to get my family to help him, too bad for him they don't like him too though I wouldn't have changed my mine anyway. Once the trust is broken, it can never be fixed.
2007-06-25 12:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by piscesvision 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out that my husband was planning to leave me for his ex. There are no words to explain the hurt that I felt and still feel. I find it hard to completely trust my husband because I fear that he will do this again and maybe is still seeing and speaking to the girl he was trying to leave me for. I feel like I am not what he wants and like he regrets marrying me. I am still with my husband, Its hard with the whole trust issue and sometimes I feel like I am not the person he really wants to be with.
2007-06-25 12:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had a boyfriend cheat on me. At first I took him back. Then he started controlling me as to trying to "make" me dye my hair blond, "make" me wear prostitute clothes, he decided I DEFINITELY wasn't going to college, etc. Shortly after he started that nonsense I dumped his hind end. I got married 11 years later to my husband. I was 29 when I got married.
2007-06-25 12:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes , but i knew he didnt worth me so i felt ok , it was like nothing really, its natural for u to feel heart broken , but move on life goes on u cant spend time being sad at one boy u will be amazed how u can find other better guys that will treat u better
2007-06-25 12:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It was the most traumatic thing I've been through. It's been 15 years and it still affects me.
2007-06-25 12:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have had that befor and let me tell you if you really really love that person it hurts so bad that my life was really like over but as time went by and my friends were there for me i went on with my life
2007-06-25 12:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by amandaluvsphill19 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well...its a good sign that it ain't gonna last forever. You can either move on, or; make it an open relationship.
2007-06-25 12:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋