What should i do as a teenager in the middle of her parents divorce?

Answer 1

Just love them both and be there for them.......

Answer 2

I am so sorry you have to go through that.

I would advise not to be a part of any of their spats, just let them do their thing and to try not to take it personally. I know you probably have heard that before, or maybe allready stayed clear of them, but what they do is not about you, even though both of them love you very much.

If I were in your shoes I would nudge my mom into forgiving dad, and kinda get dad to take mom out every once in a while. It sucks, divorce sucks, not only for the parents, but mostly for you, the children.

You can't really take sides unless you want the inheritance disallowed,,,,,etc, it is just ugly with divorce.

My advice is to learn from it and to make it a point to not only understand why it happens, but to not letting it happen for YOU!!

Here is a fact for you: Over half of all marraiges in the US will end in divorce. For married couples that pray together, only 0.9% end in divorce.

Answer 3

Find a hobby or a sport something to get you out of the house and away from the tension. Its impossible to avoid the stress if its a bad divorce, my parent's divorce happened almost without me realizing it. Just realize that people change constantly and they may still love eachother, but are different people, and realize that you are going to change a lot as well. Just find an outlet.

Answer 4

I was twelve.

1 don't blame yourself
2 keep an open mind
3 care about them
4 ultimately they need to like themselves before they can heal enough to like others be patient
5 it is better to come from a broken home than to live in one
6 All the money stuff means nothing
7 Child custody changes alot (hopefully not for you)

I wish you and them the best of luck

all of this said not knowing the facts of divorce.

Answer 5

Just don't play your parents against eachother. I know kids that have and it makes it hard on everyone. Just tough it out and one day you will be grown and on your own. Marriage is the hardest thing to do. So don't take it out on your parents about getting divorced. Sometimes people just don't want to be together anymore.

Answer 6

Listen to your heart dear. I just got a divorce and this has been very difficult to both of my teenage sons. Its hard yes but just bear through it and it will all work out.

Answer 7

Try to remember that it is a difficult time for your parents, and you going off the rails isn't going to help matters.

That being said, don't let your parents bad mouth each other to you. Make it clear you love them both equally.

This is bound to be tough on you, but hopefully you will have 2 happy households instead of one that isn't.

Answer 8

The best thing you can do is communicate with both parents. Let them know how you feel and if you have any questions. Parents forget sometimes that their children are also involved whether they want to be or not.

Answer 9

let ur parents know that u still love them both equally. Try to take ur mind off of it by finding something else to do. Know that none of it was your fault and that by them separating...they're one step closer to being more happy. Divorce can be a great thing.

Answer 10

I was caught in the middle of that a few years ago. Basically don't choose sides, don't try to get into the middle of it, and stay wherever you feel the most comfortable.

Answer 11

Try to stay out of the cross fire and don't get dragged in as a middle man or a pawn to be shoved around.