would you stay in a marriage where your partner is good to you but there is no sex or passion involved?
2007-06-25 10:56:22 · 35 answers · asked by mmm..whynot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am divorced but there is this guy at work who swears he loves his wie but flirts as i walk by..he gets nervous and sweats a bit..he stated his marriage is sexless and passionless but that he loves his wife but that he is attracted to me.. i dont get it..
2007-06-25 11:09:16 · update #1
Sexual expression is a natural part of being an adult. Exempting priests and nuns from my comments (I'm not going there), it is not natural to be celibate.
You did not say your marriage is good, you said your partner is good. Have you lost sexual interest in your husband or wife, and if so why? Does he or she still want it?
You know, married people do get attracted to others, and that is not by itself a bad thing. It's what you do about it when it happens. From guilt or duty or martyrdom or inertia or other negative reasons, people stay in marriages. Sometimes, a person's true love interest lies elsewhere and rather than divorcing the person opts (for whatever reason) to stay in the second-choice relationship.
I'm Christian. God intends for us to be joyful. Not sinful, but joyful. If you cannot be joyful in your marriage--and that includes sex if one of you still wants it--you need to get out.
Divorce is distasteful to God, but it is not as sinful as rejecting God's instruction to be joyful.
By the way, your pal at work is a cheater. "I love my wife but I'm attracted to you." Oh please. He is really saying "I have no intention of getting a divorce, but I wouldn't mind a little pickle tickle on the side." More fool you if you're moron enough to fall for it.
2007-06-25 11:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
This will sound corny but I have always felt that sex was an expression of your love. Passion is the fire you still hold in your heart for the one you love. Life can take a toll on this and wear you down but it really should never stop. If it has truly stopped then there are bigger issues than the sex. You really should talk and find a way to be crazy in love again. If you can't do it yourselves then I would recommend checking out therapy or counseling. If nothing works, then you both have to ask yourselves "is this enough to be happy"? But I'm guessing it isnt enough or you wouldn't be posting here about it.
2007-06-25 11:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the same situation. Feel for you too. I've tried almost everything. Maybe you should think of why there is no sex. Are you sure you've tried everything you can to help fix this?
If you come up with a answer let me know too!
2007-06-25 11:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, cuz in the church while taking your vows, I dont remember one of things being said " Do you agree to love only if the sex is good and there?" NOPE!! But it does say for better and for worse!! If you are that depribed them ask him why? Talk to him and see if there isnt a happy ground you can work on, and then buy yourself a toy to help you in between.
2007-06-25 11:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by How can I help? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes as the years pass by, people take each other for granted. If your partner is messed up/ angry/abusive then you can easily find reasons to leave, but when you both lose passion, yet get on really well and love each other, sometimes its harder to say goodbye. you can both fulfill passion in other ways (besides sex) discover the world and encourage him to do the same... or leave and have great sex wth someone else and possibly end up with a ******** who you dont love.
2016-05-20 01:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-06-25 11:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my boyfriend and I don't have sex, but I guess we have passion. I think you should stay in your marriage, but I would try to get help with the problem areas.
2007-06-25 11:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i take it the marriage is w people under 45 of age? how sad that sex isnt a important part of their lives... but i guess marriage is not only about sex and who knows if they love eachother maybe 1 day sex will be rekindled...goodluck
2007-06-25 10:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by alangj91761 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess it depends on the reason does he or she have a medical condition that keeps them from performing??!! if not than no heck no i know sex isn't everything but it is a huge part of a relationship. you have to be able to get close intimately or you might start feeling lonely or even tempted to go outside of the relationship.
2007-06-25 11:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by stt143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-06-25 10:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by BERT 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋