Marriage & Divorce - 22 April 2007

2007-04-22 15:57:07 · 5 answers · asked by Gringa_uno 5

I find myself stuck in the past in my relationship and i dont get over things easily....I hold grudges and its just really hard for me to let things go..how can i solve this problem and is it a disorder or something?

2007-04-22 15:48:31 · 12 answers · asked by Trezdons Mommy 3

It happened with a girl in my workplce. She was considerably younger and lasted for months. What was supposed to be a one time thing turned into a nightmare. She became an addiction. When i didn't have her it was like a drug addict going through withdrawal sympoms. All the lies to get out of the house. Lies to both my wife and my kids. I couldn't deal with the guilt anymore which began bringing on anxiety attacks. I got everyone to lie for me and just couldn't do it any more. I told my wife everything. The news of course devastated her,the family and our friends. I have now sought counselling to deal with not only this matter but with personal issues as well. I ask myself everyday why? how? who have i become? I can't stand to look at myself. I am so embarresed about this and don't know if i will ever recover from this or shall i say we. I risked everything and now stand to lose everything. Please help me find myself again.

2007-04-22 15:47:49 · 32 answers · asked by rudeawakining 1

I have been married for 20 years been with the same man for 27 years. That is more than have of my life. Our life has been very good. We have had a good marriage. The past six months have been a nightmare! We fight, argue can't seem to communicate. We have had many changes in our life lately. Major life changes they have been that is for certain. But I thought our marriage was stronger and could handle them. Anyone else have this 20 year curse!? Any suggestions

2007-04-22 15:42:58 · 29 answers · asked by Taja44 1

Have you ever think about cheat on the person you love in a given circumstance? a trip? a work? with a beautiful/handsome mate you meet daily?

2007-04-22 15:30:08 · 10 answers · asked by MS 2

women are so freaking aggrevating!!!!!

2007-04-22 15:21:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

husband doesnt only put down his wife which he says he is only joking but he is always making fun of other people on tv,etc. Like big women,when there are soap shows on he always says stuff like their going to do it something sexual all the time,he says remarks about other ethniticities and his son has already picked up on some of the remarks he has made. This goes on everyday if he was my husband I dont think I would be able to handle him criticizing people all the time. If your husband was like this would you stay with them?

2007-04-22 15:19:46 · 17 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1

I think the charge is felony child support, he owes my children 32000 dollars in arrears. I can't find out for sure if that is the charge that they are holding him for. He also has a felony charge in another county for embezzelment. He was arrested in Florida on April 7 and has been there for 2 weeks now. I just want to know if he will be extradited and when. Even if the charge is not for the child-support I may be able to at least see him in court if he is brought back to Virginia.

2007-04-22 15:13:44 · 5 answers · asked by levichaz 2

with despise, very disrepectful, want talk about anything even about our child, gets angry all the time, sabotages any conversations, refuses to even talk, announces by email an engagement then follows up 2 weeks later of upcoming marriage and moving 2 hours away and taking our son, flaunts the guy in front of me at her place, he shows up when she knows I am arriving to pick up our son (in the parking lot after she demanded this in court) - I find out that she was seeing this guy when she was still with me, started asking me about other women (I didn't know she was seeing the guy and she denied seeing anyone after I asked because she kept asking me) all of a sudden one day I can no longer go to her place where I practically lived for two years off an on during and post divorce - we had two homes 500 yards apart sharing both places together and with our son then all of a sudden she creates a scene, the cops are called - no arrests - she made false claims - I spoke to the police officer,

2007-04-22 15:05:53 · 3 answers · asked by RealEYES 1

My husband always blame me for everything wrong or bad thats happen to him, ex, when he bumped his head accidentally,he was mad because I did not baby him, or when something wrong happens he is quick to blame me even if it is clearly not my fault or I have nothing to with his decision? What is going on????

2007-04-22 14:59:46 · 14 answers · asked by jinky l 1

2007-04-22 14:45:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a stay at home Mom of 3 kids. He goes to work, punches a time clock, comes home to a nicely cooked dinner with a tidy home. I live in a neighborhood with kids, who pretty much live in my home where the bills are paid and the home is neat and welcome. How do you feel about this?

Richard, your input is the only male input I will accept, since you are open minded, unlike the rest of the male generation.

2007-04-22 14:41:11 · 21 answers · asked by Blue Eyed Angel 6

As tradition would have it, your partner should come first, then your family, then your friends. Should spouse, family, friends all have their separate but equal places in your heart, or should there be a hierachy? What are your thoughts?

2007-04-22 14:22:47 · 32 answers · asked by Lois 3

And even if the man did the pursuing, why didn't she just say no? Can a woman have a best friend? What made her betray the only friend she had in such a devastating way? i.e. tear apart a 25 year marriage, and break the hearts of 4 children, including her own.

2007-04-22 14:17:28 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and his wife had been facing divorce for quite sometime he finally left. Shortly afterward we strted dating. Of course the ex blames me and that he cheated on her. NOt the case at all. Anyway, his parents really didnt care for his ex-wife much while they were married, but somehow she lied and twisted things to turn them against him. Including his 16 year old daughter. they also have 2 sons who get along with me well, but they get put int the middle by their mom and their grandparents. His parents and his sisters have alienated him for leaving her. His ex wife made the statement that she would make sure his parents never accepts this divorce and your new wife. she has set out to destroy his relationships with his family and has succeed.

2007-04-22 14:14:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a guy 37 years old, married for 9 years, you wont believe this, it was an arranged marriage!!!!!!!!!! I spoke to her for about 10 minutes before.......................don't ask. It was a wreck from the beginning, but I kept denying and tried for 4 years until at some point I gave up, now I have 2 kids out of about 10 times of crappy sex in all.
Now 9 years later I met this woman on a chat site and since have been as happy as I could be, problem is she is married herself and has 2 kids, and in a crappy marriage as well, we are totally utterly in love we are of different race, I am mentally and physically happy, I plan to get out of my marriage soon and so does she, in fact she has already moved out of her home and will be filing for divorce in 2 days. Just wanted to know what you all out there thought of all this, although it would not change anyhthing..................thanks folks

2007-04-22 14:14:07 · 16 answers · asked by arnold s 1

2007-04-22 13:51:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husand and I are on both on our 2nd marriage. No kids between us, just his and mine, all grown. We have been together for 11 years, married for 8. We have only had sex 3 times in the last 19 months. We dont argue, we dont fight.. we just dont do anything. We both work, but I come home and do all the meals, all the laundry, all the house cleaning, all the shopping. Most nights one of us makes an excuse to sleep on the couch. He claims his bad back, or I claim insomnia. When we do sleep in bed together, we dont even touch each other. Neither of us are cheating , he is a good man, doesnt drink, gamble, womanize or beat me. He has a steady job and doesnt hang out with "the boys". Its just like weve moved apart. I told him once it was almost as if we were room mates. I have no desire to fool around or cheat, I dont really want a divorce, but I'm lonely too. He is content and doesnt see a problem. Does anyone else live like this?

2007-04-22 13:11:36 · 6 answers · asked by grapelady911 5

my boyfriend's best friends is a girl, and a fairly attractive one at that. He insists they're like brother and sister, but he spends hours on the phone with her once or twice a week. I think he has a crush. Am i just being insecure? Thanks for ur opinions!!

2007-04-22 13:10:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

The (now) ex-husband was addicted to gambling. Long story short, I walked away with a 30K 401k plan, a 12 year old car, and the burden of bankruptcy. Six months later, I met a man that has loved me back to life. He was on disability, owned nothing but a '75 pick-up, and a sincere desire to find a type of work his disability would allow. While he looked, I used the majority of the 401k to earn my teaching license and am now finishing my first year in the classroom. Problem: we live paycheck to paycheck, his truck isn't working, and neither is he. He remains the kindest person I've ever met, but we're both feeling the stress of making monthly bills (no frills lifestyle, trust me). I'm working 65+ hrs week and am beginning to feel 'used'; he cooks & cleans and also feels 'used'. After a 22 yr. marriage, I'm wondering if (again) I'm blind to the truth. We talk of splitting up, but need to save $ for the physical move. We're beginning to resent each other. Do I hang on or let go?

2007-04-22 12:23:21 · 5 answers · asked by monkey jacket 4

So my girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago so that she would be able to go on a summer vacation with her ex boyfriend (let's call him Rick). I was a little heartbroken at first, but I had seen it coming (she had been dropping clues the whole time we were going out), so it wasn't that much of a shock.

Anyway, she hasn't really talked to me much since she confirmed her plans with Rick last week. However, I saw her last night at 1:00 AM. I approached her and asked "What's up? Where are you headed?!" She went on to tell me that she ditched Rick at his apartment 'because he's boring'; she had told Rick she was going home to sleep but she was actually going to meet a guy at a bar she had only met through Facebook.

She was drunk (I have never gotten drunk before), so I tried to talk her out of what was surely a bad decision. She wouldn't hear it from me, so I walked with her to the bar. I waited there for an hour till she left, then I left too.

2007-04-22 12:15:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has been in Iraq since Sept. But we haven't been intimate since Aug. How do I cope with the hormones! A women has needs too! It's been 8 LONG MONTHS.

2007-04-22 11:51:21 · 17 answers · asked by Army Wife 1

I've been married for 16 years. My husband has hit me for the first time, I kicked him out of the house and he still hasn't said sorry. He's attitude has been very aggressive because he's pist off that i told him to leave. And he hasn't accepted he hit me! He is very mad because i kicked him out of the house. Don't know what i should do, need help!

2007-04-22 11:50:24 · 20 answers · asked by Lola V 1

Why do men think that will work?? I KNOW my husband had an affair...Yet he still denies it......WHY IS THIS!!!

............If he tried honesty we might have a chance.....

2007-04-22 11:47:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My stepson used to live with us. His Dad made him leave our house because he was abusive, messy, inconsiderate and possibly on drugs. He stole from me back then, and he stole from me yesterday.

He has been living with friends for the last 10 months. We found out he was kicked out of thier house and has been living on the streets. On Thursday he called his Dad in terrible trouble. seems that there was an altercation and he was almost stabbed. My husband showed up and the police were involved, so he brought him back home. He looked dirty, unkept, fidgety & angry. It scared me!

On Saturday my husband and I went fishing and left him at our house which I didn't want to do. My husband said I was being paranoid. I decided maybe he was right so I went. My mistake.

We returned, my bedroom had been broken into. My diamond earrings money stamp coin collection & luggage was GONE. We looked for him to no avail. Wanted to file a police report but my husband said they can't do anything.

2007-04-22 11:42:59 · 42 answers · asked by LORI G 2

My parents were married 61 years!

2007-04-22 11:37:11 · 27 answers · asked by Eudora 4

2007-04-22 11:35:58 · 9 answers · asked by Eudora 4

and didn't admit to it (she's married) until 6 months after you got back together and you and the children were settled into a new home...what would you do? If you told him up-front that if he had been with her (she's a known skank)...you didn't know if you could be with him again and he lied to get you back? Married 15 yrs...4 children at home.

2007-04-22 11:25:21 · 3 answers · asked by luvofrosalitas 2

He won't buy himself anything, so I want to suprise him. Which one would you want guys? Money is not an issue here.

2007-04-22 11:17:20 · 13 answers · asked by Ellyn 5

2007-04-22 11:07:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous