Why do men think that will work?? I KNOW my husband had an affair...Yet he still denies it......WHY IS THIS!!!
............If he tried honesty we might have a chance.....
2007-04-22 11:47:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
relationships are based on trust, honesty, respect and communication...without this you have nothing!!
guys seem to think if they dont admit it..it didnt happen...they just dont understand that its not that simple for us.
it sounds like you need to move on with yourself..
remember this: guys arent worth crying over..and the ones that are, wont make you cry ..
2007-04-22 11:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems the larger question is not "should I confess" but "Why" am I having an affair? Are you looking for some fulfillment that you are not getting at home? Is there some defunct paradigm from the past that is driving you. Is it the excitement? You should have a discussion with your wife about your relationship with your wife, and why it is not exactly the honeymoon. When you pledged to her, you thought this was the path to fulfillment, will she help you find this path again? Make it clear that you are willing to explore such a path if she is. Seek the mystery and love that drove you to her in the first place. If she is unwilling to pursue a relationship renewal with you, why? Has she been wounded by you? This can be healed and you can find true fulfillment with your wife again. Contracts in relationships are ok, but sometimes we forget that the contract was that we would act in specific ways to fulfill our mates needs etc. A marriage contract is not the finale, as some are prone to think, it is only the beginning, and if a marriage contractual relationship is not nourished, almost on a daily basis , the enterprise will wither..
2016-05-21 03:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, men don't like when they have to face up to the reality that they made a mistake. That's being vulnerable. That's a no no in men's minds. That's showing weakness. That a big step to take for some people to admit that they aren't perfect. That they don't know everything. This is not an excuse but that, I think, is the reason.
I think it's possible for him to honestly try to work on things. I sincerely hope so.
2007-04-22 11:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only person that is in denial is YOU, if you think your husband is going to admit to anything. Baby, you just about have to catch them with their drawers down, and even then some will deny. Instead of concentrating on how you can get him to admit this, concentrate on yourself, and move on. Honesty is not part of some people's life.
2007-04-22 12:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds harsh, but I'm a firm believer that once someone cheats, they should not be given a second chance. It means that they have a complete lack of respect for you. That's the reason he'd deny it too. They are all different aspects of the same basic problem.
2007-04-22 11:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are asking the wrong question.
The right Question Is:
Why Do YOU think it can work?
It's really about what you expect from yourself and you are only as good as your options.
Look at your hubby and truly figure out if this is the man for you. Take time for yourself and figure out what you want to do. Do it/ step by step.
Then and only then you can move forwarded, and remember, if your life partner will not be honest and trusting with you, there is no way your relationship is valid.
Good Luck.
2007-04-22 11:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It goes both ways........I remember when me and my wife first got married, man was I madly in love, infatuated, all of the above with her. Well, she started lieing to me about co-workers (she said no males worked with her, man was i stupid in love). Anyways, alot of things factored into it, I eventually asked her if she would tell me if she was having an affair or of male friends....SHOCKINGLY, she replied, NO because you would get really really mad and probably get violent....WTF?? how can a marriage ever work when lieing and deceit is an option?? I've learned to deal with it, but it's a vicious cycle, so snooping, investigate, just find the solidifying answers, and you'll have the results that are well deserved....i'm still waiting.......
2007-04-22 12:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I deny that men always deny things.
I also deny that men think denying will work.
Okay, maybe it works once in a while.
But I still deny that I did anything.
2007-04-22 12:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by Toeless_Joe_Jackson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are notorious for using complete deniability. Business as well as govts use it so its kinda brain washed into them. This is no excuse and a real man would never do this but men are taught that when they gt caught use complete deniability. Its a male thing
2007-04-22 12:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he had an affair? How can you be so sure?
Maybe he's denying because you're a nut who sees things that aren't there.
2007-04-22 13:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋