and didn't admit to it (she's married) until 6 months after you got back together and you and the children were settled into a new home...what would you do? If you told him up-front that if he had been with her (she's a known skank)...you didn't know if you could be with him again and he lied to get you back? Married 15 yrs...4 children at home.
2007-04-22 11:25:21 · 3 answers · asked by luvofrosalitas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a hard one, not only him lying but it being a family member he had sex with. If I could not find it in my heart to forgive him then it wouldn't matter new home or what I couldn't stay. You asked and he decided to keep it from you so that he could get you back. But, let me be the first to tell you don't allow what someone else has to say make your decision for you. If you love this man and really think you can forgive, you don't have to forget, then do what you think is best for you, not the children, but you.
2007-04-23 08:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of he's being unreasonable and would desire to have fessed up initially. Lies are constantly found out, it in basic terms relies upon on how long it takes and being deceived hurts the longer you understand somebody has been keeping that lie going. in case you experience there is any way you may desire to attend to the two the lie and the intercourse with your sister, you may desire to attempt counseling. i comprehend i does not experience excellent (actual all of us yet my relatives for God's sake!) having intercourse with my husband if he had intercourse with my sister regardless of if we have been separated. I recommend what became into he questioning! reliable success to you and God Bless.
2016-12-10 08:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were separated and he did finally come forward to tell you, so you should give him credit for that. i would be hurt but I wouldn't hold it against him.. If you want it to work, both of you have to agree to drop the matter and not bring it up again especially when you are angry with him and you want to throw it in his face, you just got to let go and try to make the best of what you have!
2007-04-26 06:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋