What the heck should I do? I don't even know what Jesus would do in this case...?

Question

So my girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago so that she would be able to go on a summer vacation with her ex boyfriend (let's call him Rick). I was a little heartbroken at first, but I had seen it coming (she had been dropping clues the whole time we were going out), so it wasn't that much of a shock.

Anyway, she hasn't really talked to me much since she confirmed her plans with Rick last week. However, I saw her last night at 1:00 AM. I approached her and asked "What's up? Where are you headed?!" She went on to tell me that she ditched Rick at his apartment 'because he's boring'; she had told Rick she was going home to sleep but she was actually going to meet a guy at a bar she had only met through Facebook.

She was drunk (I have never gotten drunk before), so I tried to talk her out of what was surely a bad decision. She wouldn't hear it from me, so I walked with her to the bar. I waited there for an hour till she left, then I left too.

She left with the guy going one way, and I went home to go to sleep (I figured I did everything I could... it's out of my hands now).

So today she sent me an email telling me that I'm creepy for going to the bar and how she can make her own decisions. She also told me that I would look like a psycho if I tell Rick because "Rick already knows about this guy". I'm thinking... does Rick also know that you called him boring, lied to him, and went off to sleep with someoen else?

I really have no feelings at all for my ex other than the same feelings you'd feel for a drunk who tries to drive home. Question is, should I tell Rick about this?

The reason my ex and I broke up is because she would always lie,so this isn't anything new.

Answer 1

just leave it along, and move on with your life, get away from the drama

Answer 2

She is now Ricks problem not yours...

Going to the bar and trying to talk her out of a poor choice was above and beyond the call of duty...

She sound like less than a winner and you should be relieved to be rid of her..

Do not tell Rick whether he knows or not is not your affair... If you see her again don't allow her to pull you into her twisted drama.. Say hi... ask how you doing... if you want, then head out...

She is right about one thing she can make her own decisions whether they be great or abysmal is her problem not yours... She made her choice to leave be greatful she did so before destroying your life along with hers..

Also go to the dr. and have a battery of std tests she doesn't seem the type to have been doing this find a guy at a bar thing for the first time.. Best to get yourself checked out becaus you can never be sure what types of diseases she might have brought to your relationship...

Answer 3

Be thankful to God that this girl is out of your life. Leave her and anything that has to do with her alone. Stay out of bars you will only hookup with someone else's problem or an alcoholic. Go back to church and get involved in the singles group and meet a nice girl who has morals and values. Remember who you date can turn into who you marry and that girl can also become the mother of your future children. Be choosy and shop carefully. Make a shopping list of what you are looking for that way as you meet girls you can see if you are compromising what you really want or not. Don't impulse buy or get caught up on the fancy packaging look at what the real contents are read the label(get to know her heart).How does she treat her family, kids, elderly...this is all key to what you may get stuck with later in life if you don't use wisdom in choosing your mate. Don't be afraid to go it alone for awhile waiting.THe best relationships come when you are not"needy" for one but have something to offer back. Until Ms. Right comes be the best you that you can be and do not sell out in order to not be alone. I do believe that is what Jesus would have you do.

Answer 4

Tell Rick. You don't really care about your relationship with you ex anyway, so it wouldn't damage anything much. Don't let the poor guy fall even more for this creep before he figures out what a creep she is. Good luck! :-)

Answer 5

No you shouldn't tell Rick anything and you should leave that chic alone too. She's bad news and Rick needs to find that out for himself. If you tell him he'll just think that you're a hater and are just jealous of their relationship so just let it go.

Answer 6

Let this die and move on nixing all contact with her. Sounds like this is what she wants anyhow so let her have her way. You dont need her so move on and find someone who is mor suitable for you without all the lies and bs. Let Rick find out about her in his own way. Nothing to be gained by telling him anything so let it die and move on and put this way behind you. Good luck

Answer 7

LET HTAT HOE GO. I DON'T LIKE TO CALL A WOMAN OUT OF HER NAME BUT I CALL THEM LIKE I SEE THEM. I WOULDN'T CARE IF SHE FEEL OUT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE STREET. SHE HAVE NO MORALS ABOUT HERSELF AND NO SELF RESPECT AND HAVE THE NEVERS TO TO IN SEND YOU AN UGLY E-MAIL AND YOU WERE LOOKING OUT FOR HER. AS FAR AS ''RICK'' I WOULDN'T WASTE MY TIME TO TELL HIM NOTHING. REMEMBER SHE LEFT YOU FOR HIM. AND SHE WILL DO THE SAME TO HIM. I CAN ALMOST BET YOU $100.00 THAT SHE WILL BE BEGGING YOU BACK SAYING HOW SORRY AND WRONG SHE WAS FOR DOING YOU THE WAY SHE DID. BUT DONT BE FOOLED BECAUSE YOU NOW SEE HER TRUE COLARS. MOVE ON PLEASE SHE DOESN'T EVEN DESERVE SOMEONE LIKE YOU

Answer 8

He will figure it out on his own, just stay out of it. If he asks then tell him the truth, but if you offer the information she will just lie and make you look psycho. Be glad you are rid of her and go find someone who is nice.

Answer 9

No, what she does is really none of your business. She doesn't sound like anyone I would want to be friends with. If she calls you creepy for caring about her, lose her. She'll continue to think you are creepy if you keep bothering her.

Answer 10

nah, let rick find out for himself. she's no longer your problem.