my boyfriend's best friends is a girl, and a fairly attractive one at that. He insists they're like brother and sister, but he spends hours on the phone with her once or twice a week. I think he has a crush. Am i just being insecure? Thanks for ur opinions!!
2007-04-22 13:10:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well sweet, whether he knows it or not, there is reason for concern on your part. The long telephone calls would indicate a problem. Maybe she doesn't know it either , but in time it will surface. I would be upset if I were you.
2007-04-22 13:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear I think that you are being a bit insecure but it is always better to be safe than sorry. I think that this is something that you have to investigate on. Maybe you should plan a shopping date with her and ask her all sorts of questions without being obvious about her relationship with your boyfriend.
Once you get an idea it is your turn now to make a decision and pick sense out of none sense to the situation. If it turns out to be something innocent then you should not try to break up their friendship because it is very rear to find relationships as such. No matter the situation please keep an eye out for her making a move on your man. I have the same problem just bigger it is his ex girlfriend trying to break up my marriage but as he told her there is nothing stronger than our relationship. She came to him in the same form with some bull **** like we were friends before so they could be adults and friends now. I never trusted her totally and I still keep an eye out. Don't get me wrong I trust my hubby but I don't trust her.
2007-04-22 20:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would he feel if the situation were reversed?
If he is committed to you, then out of consideration for your feelings, he will limit his phone calls with his "best friend."
If he balks at this, then it sounds like he is having committment issues.
At that point, the decision is yours whether to accept this behavior or not. If the answer is "not," then it is time to move on, wish him well and look for a more mature companion.
There's no need for a big fight or drama, this is a simple question on your part. "What is more important to him, you and your relationship or his friendship to the other girl." You are not asking him to give up his friendship, only to clarify his relationship to you.
2007-04-22 20:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by smallbizperson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm
I would be worried. The thing is you can not play it like you are worried, or you will come off as insecure or controlling.
If you have not met her yet, I would ask to. Maybe you can yourself become friends with this girl. It would be much easier to gauge if she is a threat if you are closer to her. Maybe if you two become friends you can even ask her advise.
If you still feel there is sparks between the two, tell your boyfriend that he is already taken, and you don't want to share. Then simply move on.
2007-04-22 20:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal experience a woman can have a platonic relationship with a man but a man usually ends up have romantic and/or sexual feelings at some point in time for female friends. Guys usually don't spend that much that much time on the phone with platonic friends either. Trust your instincts on this one.
2007-04-22 20:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on. I always thought your girlfriend/wife is supposed to be your best friend. Why doesn't he talk w/ you for "hours on end" instead of her. What does she have that you don't. Five'll get you Ten. Nothing. Hey, this guy is lucky he's got someone that "takes control" like you do. He needs to know that. Like tell him. If it really is nothing, jealousy will only drive him away to talk to her. I'd maybe ask him non-chalantly about things. G/L
2007-04-22 20:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that men and women can never be "just friends". There has to be some kind of attraction that keeps them involved in the friendship.
Again, just my opinion.
2007-04-22 20:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother and sidter yaeh whatever, real bros and sis dont even get along that way.
2007-04-22 20:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that they are just good friends
2007-04-22 21:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by shy sureno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋