My husband has been in Iraq since Sept. But we haven't been intimate since Aug. How do I cope with the hormones! A women has needs too! It's been 8 LONG MONTHS.
2007-04-22 11:51:21 · 17 answers · asked by Army Wife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a chastity belt would do wonders
2007-04-22 13:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm a mature woman. I currently don't have a partner. It has been over a year. There is nothing wrong with me and I attract more than my share of men. I have needs too. I just refocus. Some other options that you are well aware of are too private for discussion. However, you know you know your own body better than any one.
You have a husband to look forward to having rejoining you. Treasure that. You could be facing the uncertainty of being single with temptation like I am, and all the unknown ahead of you. For you the question is settled. I don't know that I'll ever be that fortunate.
* didn't say, "again" because the marriage I had was an abomination to my sensibilities that recalling makes me experience a strong urge to retch, repeatedly. I am actively working on repressing all memory of ever being married. Talk about wedlock! Ugh*
Count your blessings. It is great to miss someone sometimes. Much better than not having anyone at all.
2007-04-22 12:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My technicolor electronic plastic vibrating lover.. I call him Jacque he is "FRAAUUNCH" (french with a really bad accent LOL).... If Hi-Tech isn't your thing there are also very effective sexual urge relievers at the end of each of your arms..
Visit an adult store or shop on line at adamandeve.com... merchandise from a&e comes discreatly packaged and they have a huge selection of electronic lovers...
Be sure to read the care, cleaning and storing instructions and you are set to relieve those urges....
When my husband was recently away for 12 weeks training I gave him a phone sex treat with Jacque's help... I also sent him some e-mail pics of me using Jacque... Hubby loved it.....
Maybe you can do similar for your husband...
P.S. Duracel batteries work better than Energizer... Avoid rechargables they don't last long in a vibrator...
If you can find one with an ac adapter or wall outlet power source you will save a fortune on batteries...
2007-04-22 12:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not religious, but I do have heavy sociological / anthropological background. If you feel the need to "fear" your God, then it's because you feel guilty for something, or you want to feel victimized. Most folks don't fear their God. They love their God. God is like the ultimate leader. As Machiavelli said, a good leader must be both loved and feared. If he is just loved, then people will still do what they want against his wishes at times. If he is just feared, then they won't love their own lives, only doing what he wants out of fear of ramifications. If they love and fear him, then they will do what he wants out of love and respect first, and out of fear second. Let me try to use a different analogy for God... God, in most peoples' eyes, is like a good parent. A good parent uses 2 parts love and 1 part discipline to ensure people lead a good life. 1 part love is unconditional. God loves you unconditionally, because you are his creation. (Just as a parent loves their child unconditionally). 1 part love is for positive reinforcement. God shows you love to reward your good behavior. This is what most folks call "blessings", "miracles", etc. Parents do the same with them children; give them hugs when they succeed. 1 part discipline is used for negative reinforcement. God punishes people when they've been bad. Parents do the same to children. Now, most people will follow a Godly life simply because they respect and love God due to 1 part unconditional love, and 1 part positive reinforcement. If that doesn't work then they fear the 1 part discipline. However, what's "blessing" and "punishment" from God is subjective. Different religions, and even individuals, may see something as a blessing while others see it as a curse. Everyone can see whatever they want into something. When a mother hugs a child, it's pretty tangible that it's a hug. But, when a person finds $5 on the street is that a blessing? What if it just enables them to do something bad? I think the better way to look at God is that he gives people chances. The $5 is an opportunity. How the person chooses to use that opportunity dictates whether it's a "blessing" or "curse".
2016-03-18 05:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's only natural for you to have this urges when it comes to intimacy. Lots of military wives are in the same place like you, all you have to do is find you something that will occupy your time while his gone. And for me not to be blunt here, if you know what to do while your husband is away, it might help you because men does it regular while they don't have contact from female companionship.
8 longs months is a long time but just imagine your husband, think of what he feels every time he takes nap or go toy sleep. it is also hard for those troop not having contact but they know how to please themselves. It sounds dirty or nasty coming from me but its better to do this than looking for someone just to have physical connection because your husband is not here. For my own experience, I did manage and most of all I kept myself bust with everything that i can do while we was away. Not sure if this can help but I manage mine and i think you can also.....
2007-04-22 17:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is NOT a need, but rather, a want. In the Indian philosophies, from India, they have a Chakrah system, where energy centers are located. Interesting, the sexual chakrah is the same one as the one for creativity. Therefore, do creative thinks: Write, volunteer, learn and instruments, write poetry and attend readings, Take an acting class or act in community theater, make up children's games, sew, jog, work out, write songs, stories, novels, books. form a business's, learn how to draw, to paint, to act. Learn Tai Chi, Yoga, cooking. Make up new recipes, and write a cook book,. These all will satisfy the sexual urge tremendously.
2007-04-22 12:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you don't want to go to the store to get a toy then get one on;online and it's shipped to your home in a nice private box. It's OK that you have urges just don't act on them. Tell you husband thank you for me and my family. And a big thanks to you for sharing your husband!
2007-04-22 12:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by jhardinmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy some sexual aids, and maybe some porn. If that doesn't do it, then try will power. I feel for ya, that's gotta be rough. But imagine how he must feel too.
2007-04-22 11:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
go to the nearest adult store get yourself a
B attery
O peratated
B oyfriend
your husband will apprieciate the fact that you didn't cheat while he was gone and he might even have fun with and your toy when he gets back on leave.
2007-04-22 18:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by windwalker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him a thing about it. Let him focus on doing his job 100% and that everything is perfect and fine at home, and will be waiting for him to come back. Then go to wikipedia and look up "masturbation" and take it from there.
2007-04-22 11:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Toys toys toys!!! just pleasure yourself ... get videos if you need it...but by all means ... Stay true to your man. he deserves that much..he is out there putting his life on the line and he doesnt need to be distracted by a horny wife...
take care of your business in your room .. by yourself...
enjoy
2007-04-22 12:00:50 · answer #11 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋