husband doesnt only put down his wife which he says he is only joking but he is always making fun of other people on tv,etc. Like big women,when there are soap shows on he always says stuff like their going to do it something sexual all the time,he says remarks about other ethniticities and his son has already picked up on some of the remarks he has made. This goes on everyday if he was my husband I dont think I would be able to handle him criticizing people all the time. If your husband was like this would you stay with them?
2007-04-22 15:19:46 · 17 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This has become a problem in this couple marriage. She has told him this bothers her but like everything else he says she is nagging.
2007-04-22 15:20:50 · update #1
That's a symptom of a deeper problem, which he either wants to fix or not, since he chooses to ignore the damage it is doing. If he continues to not want to fix it, time for him to be single.
2007-04-22 15:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. When people are that critical, it's usually because THEY have issues and are feeling insecure. In the meantime, you find yourself living with an unsupportive, passive-aggressive spouse who's a bad influence on your children and can't show concern or compassion for anyone else. If they were willing to go to counseling to figure things out, I would consider staying...and I might still end the marriage. The behavior is especially troubling since he's infecting his son with his biases and attitude.
2007-04-22 15:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it was me I would have to "get honest" with him. By that I mean, pointing out every flaw and mistake that this man has until he cries. And not in a nice, sweet and friendly way. In an in your face, aggressive sort of way, that lets him know that I am sick of his bull sh*t and I am not going to put up with it for one second. I would then tell him that if he says one derogatory thing about me, people we know, or strangers on TV, I am going to knock his teeth down his throat if I have to use a baseball bat to do it.
I would remind him that I'm the one that cooks the food, and he falls asleep before I do. I've reached my limit and "if you want to find out how pissed off I can get, push me!"
Anytime he says anything remotely criticizing, I would point out his biggest insecurity in front of whomever is nearby.
By the end of a week, he'll be crying in his coffee and walking on eggshells.
I have no patience for people like this. You would be surprised at how quickly they cower.
2007-04-22 15:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I couldn't stay in any relationship like that. The son is picking up on this behavior so it means she is either going to have to stop the cycle or let the cycle continue. Being that I'm a big girl I would be offended by my partner doing this to me.
2007-04-22 15:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. This is obviously a man who is so insecure that he needs to put others down. Not a healthy situation. The joking excuse does not excuse him. No one should have to deal with that. But since it is not your husband, there is little you can do. Be thankful and know what kind of man you want to avoid.
2007-04-22 15:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This man has insecurity issues. He puts other people down to make himself feel big and important. He actually feels like a loser inside. He needs counseling. If he won't go, she should go to learn to deal with this. No, I wouldn't stay with a man like that if he refused to go to counseling with me and try to change. It's verbally and emotionally abusive.
2007-04-22 15:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why dont she just don an aprin run around barefoot and get him a beer so he can watch sports and scratch his well you know!!!?????????? What an idiot he is and for her to be stuck in this place with him and not have a way to change it. She needs either a backbone and a kelly clarkson cd(breakaway), get some encouragement somewhere or a louisville slugger(for the furniture and windows till she gets his attention) HER WAY OR THE HIGHWAY!!!!
2007-04-22 15:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by cricket s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The wife must have known how he acted before she married him and accepted it. In marriage, peoples views change and what was acceptable back then, isn't acceptable now. It's up to the individual what they want out of life and if they want to deal with the other persons faults.
2007-04-22 15:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by onebugone 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure he was like this before they got married, this can't be a new behavior. So if she married him, she needs to try to work it out. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors. As obnoxious as he sounds, he must have some good points. Maybe she should just never go out in public with him so he can't embarrass her! :)
2007-04-22 15:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The wife is definately being abused, poor thing. First comes pleaing for him to stop, then comes counseling, then comes SSSSSSSSSSSSeeyalater. The poor son...
2007-04-22 15:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by dealerschool2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋