2007-04-22 13:51:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because one or both (people) are not really wanting to work on it, their heart may not be in the right place to work it out.
2007-04-22 13:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by jamie s 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that a useful analogy is someone signing up for a gym membership to lose weight and be healthier... for some people, it works, and for some people, it doesn't... why? Here are some possible reasons:
1) It's a poor fit between the gym and the person - perhaps the gym is a good one... but the client doesn't like the classes, the atmosphere, maybe they wanted something bigger or smaller... whatever, but it is a poor fit. This can be the same between the therapist and the couple... perhaps there is just a difference in style and it was a poor fit.
2) The person isn't ready to make the necessary changes to lose weight... Perhaps they give up on going to classes, they decide they don't like them, they just don't persist... Similarly, people have to work on their relationship outside of therapy, and if they don't really want to make the changes... then their marriage will not survive.
2007-04-22 22:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by thedrisin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess when the love has gone completely not even the best marriage counseling would work. Just before me and my ex husband separated we went to a really really good marriage counseling, I stop loving him way before that, and even though I tried ...there was nothing that could give me the love I felt for him back. I think you try and try, and you want to be together but there are somethings that aren't just not supposed to be.
2007-04-22 20:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because one of the people involved are already done with the relationship. They are just going through the counseling so that they can say "we even tried counseling and that didn't work". There is such a stigma with being the person who wants a divorce that some people attempt counseling just so that they can say that they tried it.
2007-04-22 20:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Counseling only works if both parties are completely commited to listening and trying to change the things that brought them to counseling in the first place.
If only one person is trying then it does no good, it is basically a waste of time and money!
2007-04-22 20:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One of the partners have moved to another partner and does not want the one at home.
Too many harsh words have been said to mend.
The "love" just isn't there anymore.
One partner wants one thing and the other wants something different and neither can give.
Money problems can split a marriage very quickly.
Many reasons.
2007-04-22 21:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because both the husband and wife don't give in to the counselor....both genders want to be superior than the other that they won't admit their own mistakes and they never actually follow what the counselor has said....
2007-04-22 20:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by Leigna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either or both parties are lazy or thinking that the relationship is not worth saving --- i would suggest in most cases the lady has had enough of the male and is not prepared to put up with any more --- at least that was in my case
2007-04-22 20:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually one of the couple have issues with the counselor..because they are guilty of wrong doing? well, it rarely works but it is worth the effort..but both people have to agree on the counselor or it won't work
2007-04-22 20:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because either the husband or the wife doesn't really want to make the marriage work.
2007-04-22 20:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by leapyrangels 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋