My husband always blame me for everything wrong or bad thats happen to him, ex, when he bumped his head accidentally,he was mad because I did not baby him, or when something wrong happens he is quick to blame me even if it is clearly not my fault or I have nothing to with his decision? What is going on????
2007-04-22 14:59:46 · 14 answers · asked by jinky l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not every man does that! Sounds like your man is still a little boy.
2007-04-22 15:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may be very insecure. Deep down he knows your not doing anything wrong, but he blames you because he is already feeling he's failing in some area. It could be the marriage, his job, finances, etc. If he's not happy in the way things are going in his own personal life and everything is going correct in the way things are going in your personal life, not even realizing it, he could be sort of jealous. If that's the case, then he blames you for any problem and he will put you down just so you feel like he feels.
In a case like that, you are the only one that could bring this out of him. All you can do is show your husband how wonderful he really is. Complimenting a man, will only bring out the real man. Believe it, or not you have to build up his ego. If he want's to criticize you, all you have to say is, oh I'm sorry, I understand, I'll never let that happen again. Acting like it doesn't bother you at all and say he's right, watch how fast it will stop happening.
You stay secure and always remind him of things like, why you fell in love, all the things you love most about him. How excellent he is in what he's accomplished in his life. How only he knows how to make love! (That will bring out the man in any man). Tell him how handsome he is, etc. The list could go on. But only you can bring back his securities. It sounds a little strange, but believe me it works. Good Luck
2007-04-22 15:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband was like this. I hope that I don't raise my son to be the same way, but I think it's a parental (especially mom) issue. Little boys are babied by their moms and waited on a lot. Thus, they expect their wives to do the same. Also, parents don't teach their children personal responsibility anymore (this is also why there are so many lawsuits). No one steps up and says "hey, I messed up." It's always someone else's fault, never theirs.
2007-04-22 15:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by babygirlnc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men blame because it is easier to use someone else as the scapegoat. This is based on insecurity. Possibly he cannot face his part in the mistakes in his life because if he did he would feel bad about himself. He does not want to admit that he is a fallible human as that translates to him having weaknesses. He does not want to feel or appear weak or incapable. The next time he treats you in this manner, tell him firmly "that you will not accept responsibility for his mistakes, but that is exactly what they are, and he should not feel bad about it because everyone makes lots of mistakes in life. Life is a learning experience."
2007-04-22 15:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow/ you need to nip that in the bud right now! He is wrong.. he must be really insecure w/ himself. I have been married for 22 years, and I don't think I would allow my husband to blame me for soemthing I didn't do.. ( I will if I did it,, but no way if I did not! )
So, what is going on ? he is insecure!
2007-04-22 15:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Paige 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why your husband blames you for things, who can know? Maybe he doesn't know why.
Some people have trouble identifying, or accepting, the real source of their troubles, so they feel they have to blame somebody else to feel better. Maybe you're just the most convenient target.
2007-04-22 15:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you obviously don't know much about alimony. Alimony is TEMPORARY. It is meant to keep the former spouse off of public welfare and help that spouse transition into support themselves. As for your story, obviously something is missing. Probably a lot of somethings. Alimony is rarely awarded against an "at-fault" spouse.
2016-05-21 03:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by kendra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people always need someone to blame, these same people will never own up to things they do wrong. Tell him to quit lying to himself, and open up his eyes.
2007-04-22 15:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he is not a man he is a coward and cowards like to place blame on others.
2007-04-22 15:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by leapyrangels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start blaming him for stuff...what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
2007-04-22 15:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋