Marriage & Divorce - 17 April 2007

I thought I could handle the fling without emotion, but now I realize that I cannot. After 7 months, I am in love with her.

Here is my problem, I think she loves me also but does not want to part with her older husband who is a big time bread winner but is very crude. I do not know how Sara and I happened, we just did and we cannot stop. We enjoy each other tremendously, I do give her what she does not get at home. However, I don't think she will leave him for anybody at this time.

So should I break it off? Somehow I do not know if I can, I am madly in love with Sara. I appreciate your opinions and please understand, we have a very strong love for each other and cannot just flip a switch and stop seeing each other.

What are your thoughts?

2007-04-17 11:47:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-17 11:40:24 · 7 answers · asked by I love dooneys 6

I am 22 yrs old and hubby is 24 yrs old.We have been married a 1.5 yrs our relationship was always on again off again mixed in with love-hate.I just graduated from college and he is in the air force currently in England.To get to the point at one of his friends bachelor party's he got drunk and had sex with one of the strippers.Our relationship got really nasty after this he went to England saying he would do as he pleased.Out of revenge i went and had fling with an ex.bf got pregnant .I am 6.5 months pregnant not told anyone and hidding it .My hubby is being transfered and comes home in 2 months he says he wants to work things out but i dont think if he new my secret he would want to.My best friend advised me that since i got pregnant a month after my hubby left to try and pass it off as his since we had sex before he left for england?I am afraid if i lie it will make things worse?

2007-04-17 11:31:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have had a tough time for the last 20 yrs. Three separations, once before the kids and two after. In the last while, I realized that I don't love him anymore. I say it, but I don't mean it. We are together for the kids. Last year I threatened to leave him if he didn't get a job. He got a job, but he hates it and is always looking for another one. We don't do anything together, we don't go anywhere together, we don't even sleep in the same bed. We don't like the same tv shows or listen to the same music. He says I'm selfish if I want to do something I want, but he doesn't want to do anything with me. We hardly have sex anymore, not that I don't try. I'm tired of being in a non-relationship. I'm not interested in another man. That's not what this is about. Do you think it's time for me to move on?
My kids are 14 & almost 16, they'll survive.

2007-04-17 11:31:43 · 13 answers · asked by katie 4

2007-04-17 11:28:24 · 23 answers · asked by scarletsboy 1

what would you do if you found a letter that included that you spouse was chatting but it wasnt in your spouse hand writing.You found it in the trash it said your spouses name and the opposite sex name saying that your spouse will love them forever.Your spouse says that they had nothing to do about it and their friend was joking and wrote that.Just what will you do and say?

2007-04-17 11:22:02 · 6 answers · asked by tweet 1

I have let her down after 5 years of giving her complexes about how I look at her (and how I think she looks, vs. standards of a "hot" woman). She doesn't trust that I am still physically attracted. Yes, we have sex, and it's good for us. The problem is, she feels that she is undesired by me. I am so very attracted to her, and she is the only one for me.

Any women, even men, able to help me to express to her how sexy I still see her?!!! We have two little boys, and spontaneity is hard to get away with. But I still find her irresistible. She just finds it hard to trust. Please help me out!

2007-04-17 11:18:59 · 11 answers · asked by Pachinko Machine 2

My girlfriend and I have just got engaged. We have been together for 4 years and we are very happy. Trouble is I work in a city 80 miles from her and its impossible for me to change jobs as I run a big business there. She can change easier as she is a school teacher. Trouble is all her friends and family live in her city so she doesn't want to move away from them. I can't see the point in us getting married if we can't live together in the same city. Is she selfish? Should she move for our future? Should I do a nightmare commute for her?

2007-04-17 11:17:43 · 11 answers · asked by Simon 2

2007-04-17 11:07:20 · 4 answers · asked by Syed Zawar 2

i recently posted something else today."why wont he stop cheating"i guess i have more questions.it seems that everytime i get strong enough to leave him.He tells me something to make me feel bad foe him.I truly want him out of my life.he causes more pain that love.how do i get over this and be strong?
is it true that you need another man in your life to really be able to move on and forget the past?he makes me feel so bad about myself.i use to model for miller high life and i now feel like the ugliest person in the world.he has took everything from me by cheating.includung my selfesteem

2007-04-17 11:04:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend's ex-husband just past away. They have a 7-year old son together. The ex-husband's name is on the 7-year old's birth certificate. They god married two years after he was born and divorced three years later. My girlfriend and I are not married, but we have a 14-month old daughter together. My girlfriend lives in this country illegally. I know that her son is eligible for social security benefits. Is my girlfriend also eligible for surviving spousal benefits since she is the mother of her ex-husband's minor child?

2007-04-17 11:00:39 · 8 answers · asked by Ti 7

2007-04-17 10:42:10 · 27 answers · asked by melissa b 1

I am Israeli. My fiancee is American. We want to have a Conservative wedding at her shul in the U.S., followed by some sort of meaningful ceremony with my family and friends in Israel (as opposed to just a reception). What are our options? Is there anything that the ceremony in Minnesota must include for the Rabbinate in Israel to consider it a valid Jewish wedding?

On a side note, is there any limitation to getting married on Ta'anit Bechorot?

2007-04-17 10:38:42 · 2 answers · asked by Tal G 1

My husband and I decided to move my 4 year old step-daughter in with us she has been living with us since January '07. We moved her in because her mother refused to put her in school and her mother has a total of 6 kids living in a two bedroom apartment ( with her "fiance"). Her mother is also a professional public aid recepient and has not worked the entire time I've known her. My husband still has child support payments being deducted from his paycheck. I realize he will stay have to pay back child support but how do we stop this. PLEASE HELP

2007-04-17 10:34:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm doing a paper on how child development is marred by their conflicting parents. i found studies on how it affects infants and small children but not much on adolescents. I wanted to put how it affects children at different age groups but not many studies have been conducted on adolescents. Does anyone know how adolescents are affected, like how it affects them and what they do when their parents are constantly fighting around them? Even if it's just an idea, one that makes sense, it would be appreciated. thx:)

2007-04-17 10:33:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband cheated on me i am willing to try and work things out we have 3 kids but he says he needs time to deal with what he has done and cant look me in the face what should i do or how much should i let him take

2007-04-17 10:22:53 · 26 answers · asked by er5199 1

Can those who cheat truly be excused for cheating?

Is it possible to forgive the cheater and move on?

Even when you know the cheater may cheat again.

2007-04-17 09:54:47 · 20 answers · asked by Dead 2

2007-04-17 09:18:29 · 53 answers · asked by sweetmummy 1

i have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 he is almost 26 years old years he is not honest with me or my or his family he does not help me pay our bills maybe still involved in drugs my family does not care for him and his parents are fed up with him he always wants money from them and he is old enough to take care of himself. When we first met he was so sweet and he still is, he would do anything for me but i dont know if i want to live like this or if he will ever change if he hasnt by now. do i leave or try to fix things again?

2007-04-17 09:15:43 · 16 answers · asked by stephanie danielle 1

Ok here it goes..Well been married for 9 and half years.He has cheated at the beginnng of our marriage ,All he does is lie .Someone called him at 2 i the morning like 2 wks ago went outside to talk said it was his boss,so i called his boss he said he did not call.I left him for a day he called crying ,but i came back stuff has gottten worse he talking to his friend from highschool lied about going to see him ,Stayed out all night sat night told him not to even come home so he did not..Now he is ignoring me like I did something wrong .We have children .I don't know what is keeping me here ...I need real advice please thank you ...

2007-04-17 09:09:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i personally wear mines and so does my hubby , but sometimes i see ppl i know that are married and they have no ring on. what do u think ?

2007-04-17 09:02:16 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

push for a ring of any kind?

2007-04-17 08:30:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

In a recent fight with my wife, she was very mad, and told me that my pen*s was too small for her.

Ouch. I know she was mad and trying to hurt me, but ouch.

she said sorry, but I think she really means it.

What should I do to get over this?

2007-04-17 08:28:39 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

This weekend my husband and I went and did diffrent things. He went to his friends house and I went shopping wiht my sister. Before we went our own ways he withdrew $100. The next morning he told me he spent $200 on speakers for his car. Then that night i looked in our check book to see our balance and found that the same night he withdrew $100 more dollars, he spent $400 this weekend on crap. while I was shopping I spent $40. I couldnt say anything to him because I was so pissed. How would you have handled this?

2007-04-17 08:27:54 · 1 answers · asked by ? 4

when she married so,this is her 1st experience being alone.she has 2 kids which they both split custody with them.I think shes afraid of being on her alone,I am living with her til the end of this month and them Im back in california,then she is moving in with a girl who has 3 kids.To me,this spells disaster but who am I to get invlovedIm not sneaking around but did find a napkin with writing on it so,I read it.who knew that personal stuff would be on a jack in the box napkin all raveled up.On it had written ups and downs.Under the downs it said things like selfish,inconsiderate,liar and about 5 more discribing words as such.On the other side said up...good sex,fun,filling a void.I think this is the clown that she left her husband for but he wasnt a price either.Should I say somehting to her.She was always very organized and seemed to have always made good decissions,not so nowShould I leave it alone and go?she doesnt talk to me like she used too.we always were so close.

2007-04-17 08:08:29 · 3 answers · asked by dlbonhomme 1

I opened it up and it was address to my husband (we do not share an email account) It them was asking him to fill out a satisfactory questionair.. When stated that he arrived at 11:30PM (4/10/07), and checked out 11:30 am (4/11/07). At first I was like what the hell is this, and why is it being sent to me! Then everything just started running through my head. So I called the Super 8 and said that me and my husband stayed there a few or so days again, and it was for a business purpose, and we lost our receit, could she fax it to me. I just wanted to make sure that it was really him, and it turns out that it was. I don't know what to do...Our one year anv. is comming up next month.. and he always told me that he would never cheat on me ( and that he had never cheated on any of his gf) that he watched his parents riped apart because of cheating, and his past gf did it to him, and he sees the hurt that it can cause. I have the recite for proof. WHAT DO I DO HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!

2007-04-17 08:00:20 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband seems to call me at the worst times. He called me this morning after our daughter threw a fit when I dropped her off at daycare and when I was in my son's daycare dropping him off. He got mad at me because I didn't answer my phone. When I did answer it he asked "What the hell are you doing?" I was already upset so I said,"What do you want?" I know this was bad on my part but I drop them off all the time. We both work in a different town. Then he called me again at 11 am when I was working and wanted to know what size of pool we are going to buy. I was flustered because I was trying to get checks printed so I told him I don't know right now. He got mad both times and just hung up on me. When I tried to call him back this morning he just ignored my call. We have been married for 5yrs and he does this every now and then but it makes my day hell. What should I say to him to make him understand that it is not fair that he treat me that way?

2007-04-17 07:54:48 · 22 answers · asked by Please help 2

In the past year I found out my husband was having an affair, I asked him to leave and filed for divorce, he changed his mind several times about who he wanted to be with and when I did decide to give him another chance he was faithful for about two weeks. I returned from a vacation and he sat down across from me and began telling me all about a new activity he had started - I find out later with the other woman. He bought a house with this woman 4 weeks after we separated. He moved in 8 months after we separated. He introduced our son to her 4 months after and I had to put him in counselling to get him through that. I have done my best to get past all this stuff and I do believe I am getting there - slowly but surely. We were married for 13 years. Sometimes I feel I am too hard on myself - that I should be totally over all this by now. But I still have my bad days. So I am curious - how long did it take you to get over your divorce??

2007-04-17 07:48:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

So my sister-in-law was over at our house last weekend. I had a late night the night before and was trying to take a nap. Well, she came into the room and got in bed with me...one thing led to another and we had a little too much fun (again). I have a hard time turning her down...she does a lot of things her sister (my wife) wouldn't even dream of doing. We almost got caught this time. I'm thinking maybe I should maybe stop this whole thing but I'm a little worried my sis-in-law might get mad. How can I end it with her and not have the rest of the family find out? Or am I better off now just sticking to the program and sleeping with her to keep her happy?

2007-04-17 07:46:53 · 16 answers · asked by smallpenislongtongue 1

Do ladies night (with the girls) really end when married?
Would you rather go out with your husband or would you rather still some nights just go out with the girls? What's the difference? I mean I know what I would do but I would like to hear your answers...all please...

2007-04-17 07:42:39 · 35 answers · asked by lotsofluv007 4