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I'm doing a paper on how child development is marred by their conflicting parents. i found studies on how it affects infants and small children but not much on adolescents. I wanted to put how it affects children at different age groups but not many studies have been conducted on adolescents. Does anyone know how adolescents are affected, like how it affects them and what they do when their parents are constantly fighting around them? Even if it's just an idea, one that makes sense, it would be appreciated. thx:)

2007-04-17 10:33:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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This is the age that whatever happens most at home effects the kids the most and this is where teenage traits develop and follow them into adulthood. Young kids hate when parents fight but dont fully understand why, they just think mom and dad are hurting each other, like kidsfight. In older kids they are more observant and began to understand more why adults fight and how and see what happens afterwards. Like if a teenage male observes dad fighting with mom, hits her and then later they make up and everything is normal again soon learns that this is how a man is supposed to treat his girlfriend/wife and then make up and everything should return to normal like it did with mom and dad fighting. A female teenager thinks that no matter how dad mistreats mom, she is supposed to always stand by her man and love him no matter what. Now with the high divorce rate, that same female teenager now a woman sees that as not true and society tells her this is now abuse and sheno longer is supposed to take it. Divorce the abuser and lose him forever thus breaking the old fashioned idea of standing by her man that her mom once did. The teenage boy now a man learns that today one of two things will happen, his macho abuse actions will scare the woman into staying (intimidation factor) or the woman is weak and leaves him (scaredycat factor). This is why so many drs blame ones parents during their teen years for their current problems. Also since teenagers are more secretive about their own and family lives, its really hard to do studies on teenagers when they wont be honest or talk about their problems. Hope this helps

2007-04-17 11:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0 0

Be adolescents they are at the age and with the fightings going on it's likely to affect how they would think when they grow up as men and women. It may lead them to think that it's okay to fight which may bring on a violent future for them.

2007-04-17 10:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1 0

WELL MY HUSBAND WAS A YOUTH LEADER FOR MANY YRS AND WE HEARD STORIES OF KIDS AT THE AGE OF 12 -18 AND HOW FAMILY CONFICT MAKES THEM FILL SOME SAY WHEN THEIR FOLKS FIGHT THEY GET PUSHED TO THE SIDE AND FILL LEFT OUT CAUSE THE PARENTS ARE TOO BUSY FIGHTING WITH EACH OTHER SOME FILL AWKWARD WHEN THEY GET UP IN THE MORNIN AND FIND ONE OF THE PARENTS ISSLEEP ING ON THE SOFA THEY DONT KNOW WHEATER TO ASK WHY ARE JUST MIND THEIR OWN BUSSINESS ITS HARD BEING THE THIRD WHEEL IN A CONFLICT NO MATTER WHAT AGE YOU ARE I HEAR HOW SEEING THESE THINGS MAKES THE YOUTH NOT WANT TO BE MARRIED OR THEY SAY MY WIFE WANT BOSS ME AROUND! OR MY HUSBAND ANT BE SUCH A CONTROL FREAK ! IT DOES PLAY A ROLE IN WHO THEY LOOK TO MARRY LATER ON IN LIFE /AS FOR ME AND MY HUSBAND WE RAISED 3 SONS AND THEY DIDNT SEE US FIGHT MUCH 1ST OF ALL WE JUST DIDNT DO THAT MUCH AND IF WE DID IT WAS NO BIG DEAL THEY USE TO LAUGH AT US CAUSE I WOULD SAY WHAT EVER AND MY HUSBAND WOULD SAY WELL GOOD AND THAT WAS ALLTHATWAS SAID IN THE SUBJECT THEN A FEW MINT LATER THEYWOULD SEE US KISSING AND HOLDING HANDS AND MAKING UP I HATE STIVE

2007-04-17 10:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 1 0

My son started backing down from confrontation with other kids and other adults. My husband was very domineering and I guess my son saw me backing down all the time. It could go the other way, I suppose, where he woudl try to be dominant all the time, but now that we're gone, I hope he'll learn to deal with things fairly and rationally.

2007-04-17 10:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 1 0

I think children around age 5 and up are more anxious and nervous. They're more alert when they hear a raised voice. They feel as if their world isn't very secure at home.

2007-04-17 10:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Di Di 3 · 1 0

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2016-10-22 10:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

well I can tell you that from personal experience, my father was always yelling at my mother and being an @ss to her, and it made me very mad and made me come to the point where I hated my father, and my mother says that the experience just made me a meaner and angrier person

2007-04-17 10:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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