Is Adultery Excusable?

Question

Can those who cheat truly be excused for cheating?

Is it possible to forgive the cheater and move on?

Even when you know the cheater may cheat again.

Thank you to all for your answers,I appreciate it.

And just to clear some things up,I just wanted to hear everyone's opinion on adultery and whether or not it is forgivable or excusable.

Once more,thank you and much love.

Answer 1

No there is no excuse for adultery. If you are not satisfied with the person you are with you should not be with them and if you are satisfies you have no need to be with anyone else. It is possible to forgive the cheater and move on because we all do make mistakes. Some people cheat and then realize what a terrible mistake they made and never do it again. Others are just weak and cannot be with one person; they are constantly with several people. It is up to the person to decide whether they believe it was just a mistake and the person may not do it again or they just got caught at something they do often. Then decide if you forgive them or not. All cases are different but there is no excuse.

Answer 2

You never know if a cheater will cheat again. That's the problem. People cheat and people forgive. Those who have never cheated before are not any better because if the right situation came up they could fall from grace too. The big problem is trusting someone after it's happened once.
Excusing a cheater is a matter of personal choice. You can forgive AND move on if you both really want to. Maybe the person who crossed that boundary learned a lesson and doesn't want to be in that situation again. Anything is possible.

Answer 3

No there is no excuse for adultery. If someone is unhappy in thier marriage and has tried to make it work then they should get a divorce before getting involved with someone else. It is my experience that if someone cheats then they will usually do it again. As for it being possible to forgive the cheater I guess that would be up to the one that was cheated on. If you know that they would cheat again then why would you even want to try being with them again? No matter what committing adultery is wrong.

Answer 4

It never is when you are committed to someone. All your feelings and emotions are involved and when you cheat it changes the world together as knew it. It changes everything on how you look at that person, and it makes you feel differently about him. Cheating makes a BIG statement about his character what he believes in and how he respects everything. If a person can turn his back on the most important significant one in his life how can you count on him for anything? what is marriage suppose to mean for us if we don't learn how to prevent adultery from happening. Cheating is always a choice........you can walk away if you want to. there are always preventative measures people can take.....and you always know what they are..........run don't walk away from it!!!! Get out of the relationship first........because the cheater is done with it anyway!!!! Why should he even go back to what he had and think he deserves to put misery and pain on his other half to make her live with it .........because it will always hurt and never be the same. The cheater created this mess out of his own selfish needs and I guess he can feel better about the marriage now that he's tasted the forbidden fruit and decided he liked what he had better? he should do his wife a favor and just stick a banana up his ***.

Answer 5

once u take those vows, they should be taken seriously. if a partner cheats and the other is willing to forgive, would that partner ever forget? I don't think so. if u know that there is a good possability that it will happen again, how then can u move on with that knowledge? I'd be gone so fast and not look back. I took my vows very seriously. If I knew there was chance that I might want another man, I would have never gotten married in the first place.

Answer 6

Yes, in very limited circumstances, adultery is excusable. As a general rule, however, I would say that it is not.

You can choose to forgive the cheater - that is your right as a human being. However, I would say that if you wish to maintain a relationship with this person, they must ask you for forgiveness first, before you grant it to them.

Just curious, what was the reason for adultery? You can e-mail me if you don't wish to post in public.

Answer 7

It is never excusable although I think sometimes it is understandable. I think you can forgive someone you love for an indiscretion if they are truly sorry, but forgetting is another story. I've been trying to forget for over a year and it still haunts me everyday even though I don't think he would ever do it again.
If you think they will cheat again there is no reason to stay in the relationship.

Answer 8

It's possible, but very difficult. If the spouse who is the one cheated and can prove themselves to be a better person etc..then it's possible. However, the other person who was cheated on, it may not be possible for them to get over it emotionally. Adultery is NEVER excusable.

Answer 9

yes it's possible to forgive a cheater but why be with someone you know will cheat again and break your heart again. is that something you really want to go through again. sounds like you need a dose of self-esteem

Answer 10

I wouldn't say that adultery is justifiable....but I can understand why some people do it sometimes. Because of abuse in some way, being ignored by your spouse. Your spouse not taking care of their appearance, getting fat, etc. Or your spouse not wanting you sexually. Those are things that you can't change for them. They have to do it for themselves. And if they are not willing to change, what happens when you are hurt and someone else shows you attention. Some people just can't take the temptation. I'm still not saying that it is right. But I can see where some people give in.