push for a ring of any kind?
2007-04-17 08:30:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have known eachother for 2 years and have been dating for 1
hes 20 and i am 17, almost 18
soo yeah
2007-04-17 08:42:50 · update #1
basically i know that this sounds bad but
my life is based on love and being a good wife and good mom.
i would love to get married at any second.
i love my boyfriend and we are closer than any copuple i have ever known
we have talked about marriage before but hes a guy and they dont really like to talk about that stuff to long and i never really get anything out of him
once again hes 20 and im 17 almost 18
2007-04-17 08:44:53 · update #2
why would you want to push for a ring. Either they do it naturally or not at all.
2007-04-17 08:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie Pie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't push at all.
You're both young, and guys are more scared of commitment than woman are.
Maybe he has thought about marriage, but he could also be thinking about all he could be missing out on by marrying young.
If you truley love him, and want to be with him the rest of your life, you'll be able to wait until he's ready.
And if he feels the same way, he'll want to give you a ring.
I think you should sit down and talk to him about what a ring symbolizes for you. Tell him you love him, and you're willing to wait until he's ready for marriage, but an engagement ring would make it seem more real for you- even if you have to wait another year or two for a matching wedding band.
I know a couple who had gotten together when they were 17/18, and knew they wanted to get married, but decided they should finish college and be financially secure before they tied the knot.
Maybe this is how he feels. Just talk to him. Good luck.
2007-04-17 16:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Downtown Addiction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you don't push for anything. Engagement rings mean so much more than exchanging class rings and you are too young to know how monumental a step getting married is. You have a childish, idealistic outlook that means you really haven't the experience to make such a decision. How about going to college, learning more about yourself and life, being on your own away from your parents? Then you may be better able to make a marriage decision.
2007-04-17 16:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear, but I am not on your side in this one...you are far too young to get married. At 17, you romanticize what marriage means, and the reality of marriage is a far cry from what you think it is. And, at 17, you are just starting out in life...why would you possibly want the baggage of marriage tied around your neck. If it is right, it will happen when it is supposed to...stop with the pushing, or you will push yourself out of his life, OR into a divorce should he have a weak moment and say yes. Be very careful of what you wish for.
2007-04-17 15:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, you wouldn't have to "push" for anything; it's ok to bring up marriage when you feel comfortable with the person - hopefully, they will be honest with you, and let you know where they stand on the issue. My personal feeling is that if we don't have marriage plans after a year - year and a half, I'm wasting my time.
2007-04-17 15:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should ever push for it. If it's not offered, stay in the non-committed relationship as long as you can and when your tired of the lack of committment, get out. I've known people who have dated for 30 years and remained living in seperate homes. that ain't for me either. If it hasn't occurred to him to take it to the next level on his own, he just may not be the type. Maybe talk about the next level and see where he stands on that.
2007-04-17 15:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some people don't date at all and other date a lifetime and never get married.
You need to focus on your life and if he wants to marry you he will. But if you are having sex with him, why would he want to marry you? Why buy the cow when you'e getting the milk for free?
2007-04-17 15:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by wisdom_women 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can start right now if you want to run him off OR you can talk to him about where your relationship is going.
IF you have to push him into the ring then you will probably have to push him into the marriage and everything afterwords right up to the divorce he will probably go freely on that one
2007-04-17 15:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by superwomen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him very sweetly if he does want to get married you would like to wear a ring - and look for rings together. It scares men, for some reason. but it's been long enough I guess.
2007-04-17 15:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't want to push for a ring at all. If he doesn't want to give me one, I'll move on.
2007-04-17 15:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋