Marriage & Divorce - 9 April 2007

My husband leaves a big mess in the corner by his bed and I refuse to pick it up. Pop cans, wrappers, paper plates, juice bottles...its horrible. You can't see it unless you walk around the bed so I choose to leave it there, kind of wanting to see how long it will until he picks it up. I clean up the rest of the house and it looks great, I told him I refuse to clean up his corner, he's a big boy and can do it himself. I did however pick up any dishes that were there so they wouldn't mold. He walks by the trashcan on the way to the garage where he goes to smoke so I don't see why he can drop a piece of trash on the way. Its ridiculous. I don't understand why he won't pick up after himself, even a little bit. I've even set a trashcan over there and he never uses it. He'll even leave it on the kitchen counter if I wasn't there to pick it up. Am I wrong for doing this? I mean, he's a big boy, what's the harm in him throwing his own trash away?

2007-04-09 05:13:30 · 19 answers · asked by Koozie 5

My husband very recently decided to leave the home, saying he is not willing to be responsible for the family anymore. He feels that he should be able to see the kids anytime he wants, but he has been abusive, and is an alcoholic. Is it legal for me to keep the kids away from him? And what about changing the locks on the doors since he still has keys and I doubt he will give them up?

2007-04-09 05:13:20 · 9 answers · asked by confused 1

I was going to give the brat a haircut this weekend, but we had another one of our "whaaaaaaaa" sessions. So I put it off until next weekend.

I think I'm going to dye his hair though. Maybe if I do this, he will learn to cooperate better next time. I actually had the hair clipper ready and everything.

He is a natural blonde. However, this is boring. I'm thinking orange. I want him to get attention. He just doesn't have any personality, and maybe this will help. But I suppose he won't want to "think outside the box" or anything. Christ.

Someday, I can write a book about the courage it has taken to raise my son as a single strong woman in a man's world.

2007-04-09 05:01:03 · 37 answers · asked by Mel Dogg 1

However I am married without children. My soulmate now wants more and he wants me to leave my husband. I do not know how to go about telling my husband that I want out. Is it fair for my soulmate to rush me in making a decision.

2007-04-09 04:55:11 · 13 answers · asked by honesty 1

2007-04-09 04:54:12 · 25 answers · asked by T-Man 2

a while. (not cigarettes) I myself am very against this. I have caught him doing this a few times, and it makes me feel like he does not love me. we have been together for 14 years altogether. He did do this b4 we got married, and he said he would quit. I get very hurt every time it happens. i don't think its worth getting a divorce over, but i am not sure what to do.....

Any ideas??? when we get into a fight about it, he says he is sorry, and that he loves me and wants to be with me. I just don't understand. Othe than his he is great. (husband and father)

2007-04-09 04:50:06 · 18 answers · asked by Katie k 1

Hello and thanks to all who answer. I've recently been accused of making phone calls to someone's home and they are false accusations that I received in a restraining order. First how can this person even prove that it was me? Second, wouldn't supplying my phone records be proof? This person is vindictive and will do anything to cause harm. They've made past threats that they'd be after me all the days of my life. Aside from other threats and problems with my computer, I feel like I'm being framed or better yet, lynched. I need some answers fast, as I've got to be in court in less then 2 wks. to fight these false charges.

2007-04-09 04:47:03 · 13 answers · asked by blue2u 1

It's been 6 mo. since my boyfriend and I began. During this time when good - VERY good, but the bad has gone from "we'll get through this" to him being a "depressed, out of work, semi homeless, indecisive bag of emotions". I have tried to be supportive and inspiring, listened to circles of emotions without judgement and only when asked have I offered my advice or opinion. I know that this is a good man who loves me and we want a future together. I'm just feeling latley that his turmoil is all consumming and he is only happiest when around HIS friend's or family. Even when it's just the two of us - he just seems to be "TRYING HARD" & not even faking it well.
Before I can tell him this - I am asking for your advice - 1) Does it sound like the right thing to do & 2) how do I tell him without shattering him - that because of all this, I now need space? I know that I am going to be near death to do this to myself let alone him in his vulnerable state. I do not want to break up...

2007-04-09 04:43:19 · 6 answers · asked by martiek7 3

My husband called me his "Show piece" and he can't understand why this upset me. He said it was a compliment.

2007-04-09 04:41:34 · 21 answers · asked by casey308 2

we have been 2gether over one year before 2weeks he just left me i tried to call him no answer so i stopped called him one week now i just want to him back but dont know what i have to do?just want him back plz guys advice me how to back him what i should do?

2007-04-09 04:40:54 · 7 answers · asked by namuun g 1

Shoudl I proceed with verbal abuse or physical abuse? I heard that if I use oranges inside a pillow case it wont leave any marks? Does anyone have any other suggestions?

2007-04-09 04:39:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got back from afghanastan and Found out my wife had been cheating on me and had moved a guy into the houes. Why in hell do I want to stay with her.

2007-04-09 04:38:48 · 7 answers · asked by thedarkone 2

...Do you have any tips for me for my first session of marriage counseling?

2007-04-09 04:11:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a stay at home mom for my 4 month old little girl. I am only 25 so I still consider myself young and since this situation is new it has been difficult transitioning. My husband is 29 and he works full time. We live with his parents while saving for a house of our own which makes the situation that much harder. My problem is this...I deal with all the problems and he acts like nothing has changed. He hardly ever helps with the baby and when I ask him to he grunts and groans about it. He leaves for work an hour early like before we had the baby so he can play baketball at his shop before work. He sits and watches an entire movie where I'm lucky to get in a half hour show. And worst of al, he's in bed by 8 every night while I am up with the baby until 10 because his family makes soo much noise she wont sleep until the noise stops. How would you feel about this? I just feel that I shouldnt be the only one whose entire life has changed since haivng a baby.

2007-04-09 04:06:25 · 30 answers · asked by Ruby Tuesday 3

I am mean because of two reasons because I am angry a lot of the time and because we had a rough start at the beginning of our marriage. I was to aspire to be nicer to everyone but I want to learn how to be nicer to my husband before I go around trying to forgive the world for having insolent morons sprinkled about it.

2007-04-09 04:03:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I couldn't handle it, she is remarried but still called my husband when she needed anything. My husband says they are friends. I know nothing sexual between them, but still couldn't deal with her being a part of our lives on a daily basis. We divorced because I couldn't deal with it, other than his relationship with ex we were pretty much perfect together, was I wrong? We still love each other and still "date"

2007-04-09 04:02:03 · 25 answers · asked by hi_stk_n 3

sexually whenever you wanted it? (I'm not in any way implying cheating is right for any reason...just curious.)

I wonder how many would-be cheats would rather just be home with a wife who was sweet and accommodating rather than out finding another woman to cheat with.

2007-04-09 03:58:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just had the most incredible experience with a married man. I am single and he was married. Unlike all of the single guys I have been with which has been disappointing this married man treated me and took me places I thought unattainable. He has pursued for months and months and finally I figured what the hell and we did the did. My question is are married better because of their experience and practice?

2007-04-09 03:51:28 · 31 answers · asked by jenny 1

I just turned 19 and about to enter college. I also already have a part time job near my university. Me and my boyfriend of 6 years are talking about marriage he is the same age and we are going to the same university. i dont know if its to early. HELP! I love him and he loves me but people think we are to young and should wait till im done with college. but on the other hand we are both christians so we havent had sex before and were waiting till we get married so its not like were trying to get married so early because im pregnant

2007-04-09 03:43:38 · 60 answers · asked by jcmikayla 1

he signed the paper work for it and it was in hes name .some how it is in my name .i do not sign anything .how can that be

2007-04-09 03:41:13 · 5 answers · asked by bobbie w 1

we have been "separated" for 2 weeks and I was fed up and decided to just file after a really bad weekend. We got in a huge fight on suday.."Easter Sunday" and I didn't even go to church b/c I was afraid I would see him there or his family or anyone. Then he calls and leaves a message that his grandmother passed away while we were fighting. I feel aweful and should I wait to file the papers and how long and I feel like I should go to the funeral or viewing at least I just don't know where I will stand with his family. He is the one who ruined the relation by being abusive but I love his family. I'm just confused please help.

2007-04-09 03:35:19 · 20 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 27 5

I'm 27 and have been married for 3 years. We both have very well paid jobs and would be able to give any child the best of everything. Problem is I don't like children, never have never will and my husband knew that from the start. He told me he was more than willing to give up having children if it meant spending the rest of his life with me. We’ve taken every precaution possible short of doing something permanent which my doctor said was out of the question given my age and the fact that I haven’t had children, to make sure we don't get pregnant but here I am 6 weeks pregnant. I don't want this baby. It’s going to ruin everything, all my hopes and dreams for the future going down the drain. I feel like I'm being punished. He told me that me aborting would be the one thing he would never be able to get past since he considers this baby a miracle given that it was conceived against all odds. What happened to for better or worse? My parents and my best friend who's been trying to conceive for the last 5 years think I'm being incredibly selfish, but they're not the ones who'll have to deal with a screaming baby when it arrives. Adoption is out of the question because my husband refuses to let someone else raise his child when he’s perfectly capable of doing so himself. Having the baby, divorcing him and letting him raise it is out of the question for me because of the way everyone including my friends and family will look at me for abandoning my child when I never wanted it in the first place. Why can't anyone accept my decision? Why should I have to lose everything because of a baby I never wanted in the first place?

2007-04-09 03:30:53 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello everyone, I am a newbie. I mean I just started today. So here goes.
I am married and 28 years old. I love my wife, she is the best to me. I don't want to be divorced cause I love her dearly. So why are these tendencies to visit strip joints and flirt starting to come into my head to where I am actually planning go out and have fun at strip joints. I am also starting to think about doing thrilling things such as sky diving, extreme sports and taking care of my body and exercising, eating right. My mind is changing and I just felt like telling somebody. Anyone else experiencing this early mid life crisis?

2007-04-09 03:26:22 · 10 answers · asked by micah s 1

I am all for child support, but I disagree with the extra non essential things.
My friend has 2 teenage sons who granted are very good students. They are good kids I think.
He pays child support, bought them both cars, pays their auto insurance, gives them a credit card for clothing. pays all their medical insurance and dental insurance, pays all their medical bills and dental bills.
When we go out to eat together, I pay and I drive. I think he is mooching off me to support them. I purposely forgot my billfold the other day, so he had to pay and he said "thats ok, I invited you". I think he needs to pay everytime. His ex looks like she just stepped out of a salon. Always decked out with her nails and hair done. New clothes.
I also dont think it is good for his kids not to have any responsiblity for paying their own bills. What do you think? He wears pocket t shirts old pants and is a food hoarder.

2007-04-09 03:24:19 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6

2007-04-09 03:23:49 · 4 answers · asked by chris b 1

Hello i love my wife so much it hurts. I think im not a real good husband. Before writing this i decided to think of the problems i have, so i dont just blame her and be one sided. My problems are i smoke, I dont talk enough to her, im always running a couple of minutes late and i havnt fixed the kitchen cubourd yet. The reason i dont talk enough is i work a 60 hour week and then after work to pay for the lifestyle she wants. I just feel tired and everyday is the same at work. I always tell her i love her she never does. She tells me things all the time such as your kids hate u, i hate u, dont tell me what to do i dont want another dad, im a pig, u dont help me, u dont make enough money and so on all the time. We go some where she leaves me and goes with her friends. I just want a wife that tells me she loves me, and shows me love. I dont go out at all or see my friends anymore i try to spend time with her. She goes out with her friends alot and worys what they think but not what i do

2007-04-09 02:53:44 · 12 answers · asked by luke52181932 1

My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years and we have a 1 yr old son. It hasn't been the greatest 2 yrs but they say the first 5 are tough. I really think that a divorce is in the near future. We know that it only cost $30.00 at Staples but how do you decide on who gets what. Everything that we practically own we bought together. Also, I'm not sure if financially it would be better for us to get a divorce or just seperate. Anyone that has been is a situation like this your advise would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

2007-04-09 02:37:50 · 6 answers · asked by babe112083 1

My separated wife is falsely alleging that I've hit her four times in four months with a month gap between the hitting. We did have arguments. I am much thinner in built than her. What should I do? Initially I wanted her to come back but now I'm remaining quiet.

2007-04-09 02:34:09 · 9 answers · asked by Darik Smith 1

I just found out yesterday that my husband of 15 years sleeped with my sister a friend of his told me, I am so sick to my stomach i dont know what to do.Can anybody give me some advice.Thank you.

2007-04-09 02:28:29 · 19 answers · asked by catherine 1

For a little more than a month, I have been involved with a woman who I am a bit unhappy with for a few reasons. First, her home is a complete mess, unclean/filthy or whatever you want to call it, and second, her children (two of them, both girls) have discipline issues. Third, she sometimes carries on when she cannot have her way. I've expressed my displeasure with her about these matters, but [to me] it seems like she's not "getting it"? What should I do?

2007-04-09 02:04:20 · 29 answers · asked by Madly In Love 1