I just found out yesterday that my husband of 15 years sleeped with my sister a friend of his told me, I am so sick to my stomach i dont know what to do.Can anybody give me some advice.Thank you.
2007-04-09 02:28:29 · 19 answers · asked by catherine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get the hubby the friend and the sister all together and find out who is lying to who. If the hubby slept with sis time to rethink your marriage. As far as sis goes that is way worse than a friend. She is your sis. Is your Mom still around or same other motherly figure? Ask them what they think.
2007-04-09 02:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by luvhrlysnjager2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh shoot! That is just awful now you loose a sister a husband and a big fat mouthed friend. I would not think of anyone that rushed in with a tale like that as a friend. I would never be able to look my sister in the eye again and hubby bubby boo would be down the road before sun set on the front porch.
Call an attorney and a therapist you have a whole gunny sack full of emotional angst to work out. Good luck and God Bless! You seem to have done many years worth of bad luck in one day you're due some fun expect a miracle of happiness at any moment. Move on though.... anyone that did that to you once would do it again that includes husband, sister and so called friend.
2007-04-09 02:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start divorce proceedings. He was foul for that. Number 1 him cheating is bad. Number 2 he cheated with you sister. That is even worse than cheating period.The fact that he cheated with your sister shows a total disrespect for you. If a man will cheat with your sister the chances of him doing it again with someone not related to you are very likely. It is obvious that you need to give him his walking papers. In this time and day it is not safe for anyone to be out there cheating on their significant others. She is probably not the first person he cheated on you with either. You can't trust him and without trust your marriage is doomed.
2007-04-09 02:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by kwaniar513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would his "friend" tell you this? Is he a close friend you can trust? Or is he simply trying to get you upset in hopes of having you cheat with him in "retaliation?" You'd be amazed the lengths some men would go to just to get someone in bed.
I agree with the other respondents, sit down with your husband and sister separately and gently bring up the subject. Talk to them. If they both deny it, you'll have to trust your gut to tell you what's right or true.
It's never good to go snooping or obsessing over little things he/she does, but be mindful and pay attention to what he does. Is he very secretive? Is he missing for long hours with no good explanation? Just watch out. Once you start playing detective, it is a very slippery slope.
Good luck!
2007-04-09 02:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by am_i_helpful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only imagine how sickening that feels. If it is true, as much as it hurts, get rid of him and strike off your sister. To cheat is bad enough, but with your own sister is so much worse. Don't forget her part in this either - that would have to be the ultimate betrayal. As bad as the situation is, hold your head high. Good luck
2007-04-09 02:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with BOTH of them TOGETHER b/c if you speak apart then they may call each other up to get their stories straight.
But stay calm, this so-called friend may not be a friend at all. People have motives for doing/saying what they do. In this case, you want to be sure and have PROOF of the affair...get as much detail from the "friend" as possible before speaking with them.
2007-04-09 02:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice: if a "friend" of his told you this, he is not much of a friend. Given that, it seems possible that this so-called friend may have an agenda for making up a lie. Stay calm, and talk to your husband and sister separately. If they both tell you the same thing, you can almost certainly trust them.
2007-04-09 02:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what is required in a realationship is trust.....if u trust ur husband then u do not need to worry coz u never know ur fren mite be making a cock n bull story.... besides she is ur sister so why she can do this to u...dont confront ur husband bfore u have any proof regarding it...something which is seen by eyes is not always right.people make u see what they want u to see it only depends on how much truth lies within it....
2007-04-09 02:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by nidhi s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe everything you hear -- get to the truth of the
matter, and I'd start with what is "HIS FRIEND" trying to
accomplish by telling his FRIENDS wife of something that
could very well end a marriage --- most definitely get to the
bottom of the situation, but my money is on the sins of the
"Friend?"
2007-04-09 02:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow - I would really look into the truth of this before doing anything...just because someone says something is true doesn't mean it is. I would look for evidence first, then have both od them together in the same room when I asked/confronted them about this.
Hope this helps
2007-04-09 02:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋