Marriage & Divorce - 9 April 2007

Me and my husband of three years had a big fight this weekend which resulted in him leaving. He works outta town so he went back early. We have 2 girls one is almost 2 yrs and the other is 5 months. He called today and told me that he's decided to just leave us all behind and move back to Nigeria. I don't know if he really is or if he's just playing games with my head in order for me to just cave and give into his ways. I've been lied to so often that I just don't know wat to believe anymore. I don't want him to leave the country cuz he won't see the girls anymore but I don't want to be the submissive, passive wife either. I need help desperately!!!!!

2007-04-09 13:52:49 · 16 answers · asked by Aimee B 1

Recieving divorce papers is something that most married, engaged and even single individuals (like myself) hope to never experience. Such a traumatic event can kill the most loving relationship/friendship between two lovers and toss the individual on the receiving end of the divorce into a whirlwind of confusion.

Q 1: For those of you who are divorced, did any red flags and/or warning signs pop up early in your relationship that made you feel that things might not go well in the future?
Example:Your former husband/wife became very controlling at one point or another during the marriage.

Q 2: For those of you who are currently married, engaged, and/or cohabitating with a potential long-term spouse, have you noticed any red flags popping up in your present relationship?

Mature answers are strongly desired and appreciated. Thanks.

2007-04-09 13:50:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-09 13:45:25 · 11 answers · asked by patrick n 1

My ex-wife of 7 years divorce me, and is already married to a 50 year old man in just 61/2 months, his occupation is a janitor, Who has nothing! I was a loving successful self- employed business man, going to church and begging her to go to counseling with me to save our marriage. she was 29 when she left me I was 35 years old. what is your take on that? Help a hurting man.

2007-04-09 13:43:59 · 14 answers · asked by fstmx 3

My girlfriend's mother is a real pain in the ***!!!!I cannot stand this woman!!!The problem is that me and my gfd are planning to get married this summer but the "realionship" between me and her mother is getting worse!!!!What shall I do?

2007-04-09 13:41:49 · 22 answers · asked by DEZ 2

theres this guy right, i dated him for 5 months and he was obssesive, possesive, and kind of controling. okay my sweet 16 is in like 2 months right and he wants to go back out with me, and me and him are kind of split right now. My best friend in the world asked me to be my date and he has a boyfriend okay so yea hes gay and my ex still has a problem with this. What should i do?? please help

2007-04-09 13:38:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

A autisic boy needs a good lawyer, so he can be kept in a decent home with his relatives, instead of being put back into a bad situation with his parents, who have been abusive, both mentally and physcially. This little boy deserves better than that. please help this family

2007-04-09 13:37:57 · 3 answers · asked by Debbie M 1

if your license are suspended because you owe over4,000 in child support will they be reinstated when you pay the back pay in full or is there some type of payment plan someone can get to assist in paying back support, i mean realisticly if a guy cant pay his monthly support how will he be able to come up with back pay in full? serious answers please with knowledge of the child support law preferably a social worker or lawyer.

2007-04-09 13:30:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

There is this man that I believe is interested in me. I like him too and when he flirts I flirt back with him...nothing major, nothing sexual. Somedays he will see me and not even speak but just look at me. So I do the same thing bc I don't know what to do. It is very awkward. Then with nothing ever being said the next time I see him he will be back to his flirting self. This has happened several times and I don't know what i need to do when he acts this way. Am I sending the wrong message or something on days when neither of us speak or tease each other?

2007-04-09 13:22:29 · 5 answers · asked by Caroline 1

Could she be off her meds again!?

2007-04-09 13:12:56 · 28 answers · asked by gregdean 1

Alright so my boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. and during this time period I was still calling him and letting him know how upset it made me. He would never come right put and say he didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore, he just needed time to figure things out. he said something just didn't feel right. So I quit calling and he started calling. He called me last week one day twice and then the next day and every time he just wanted to know how i was and what i was up to. he never said anything about getting together. I never called. But then he waited a day then called me on saturday to say he wasn't gonna call me anymore cause i wasn't calling him. he sounded sad. then we went on to tell each other that we mi8ssed each other and then i asked him to come and see the next night. and he did. Things went well and i was very happy to see him and he was very happy to see me. and he said other things regarding that hes been thinking about me and missed me.

2007-04-09 12:58:59 · 32 answers · asked by alice 1

me and my husband have been together for 8 yrs we just got married in november, last year we sepereted for 7 months and now that we are back together he always wants to leave me and says he don't love me, i don't understand why he is doing this, could he still be hurt from me kicking him out last year or does he really just not love me please help i am 16 weeks pregnant and can't do it on my own please please help

2007-04-09 12:41:53 · 14 answers · asked by Kayla B 1

married 12 yrs. a few times there was physical violence. at the end emotional abuse. alot of arguing, resentment and lack of respect. at the end i had a relationship with another man. I always think of how things could be if we could make things better. but how do you stop wondering what if and start seeing things as they are. I want my kids to have parents that live together, that are happy and in love, but I don't think he and I will be happy together.i don't know why, i've tried to fix it for years.I just don't trust that things will get better. they haven't in 12 years so why now?but I can't help but have doubts and worries about my kids unknown future pop in my head. my anxiety is over the top trying to adjust to this new situation. and i know if i take him back alot of the other worries would go away.I know its normal to have ambivalence about ending a marriage.or so i hear.I'd love to hear from others who have been there and tell me how they moved past the doubts and what if's

2007-04-09 12:41:42 · 18 answers · asked by Kat 1

2007-04-09 12:40:33 · 2 answers · asked by sheila 3

Susan, thank you! I don't know how you did it, but I feel like you really got me. Your words touched my soul. I am risking to sound melodramatic, but any help means a lot to me now that it's in a "crisis mode". Please stay in touch- I can't email you, but there is my email address there. Take care!

2007-04-09 12:37:16 · 5 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3

I was never married to the father. I left him once I found out I was pregnant and he refused to stop the drugs. I am now married to a man who has raised and supported my son since he was 4months old. He would like to adopt, but since I have married the father has now decided to take me to court. First it was for visitation, now he has put a contempt charge against me for not allowing him to see my son. I have tried reporting his drug dealings to the local police and Crimestoppers with no avail, the father moved to another residence and the investigation on him stopped. Not only does this man deal drugs out of his home, he was also physically abusive to me when we lived together. The only person that was his abuse was his 6yr old daughter who I'm sure will not testify against him. I am desperate now because my son has serious heart defects and is autistic. I live in Texas, the father lives in Oklahoma. If anyone can help me I would be very appreciative.

2007-04-09 12:31:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

...he can't stand the guy - he's 8. "What's weird dad is that he acts like there is nothing wrong when he's around when I can't stand him. When he comes over all of a sudden mom is acting like everything is great but before he's there there is nothing special. When he comes around mom makes these special dinners but when he's gone it's just normal dinners. I feel like he is more special to mom than I am" - she was hiding this guy even when we were supposedly trying to patch things up - on my part obviously now but being blinded by her lies and appeasing diversions...so is she lying to him also? Defrauding him - all of a sudden when I challenge her actions of allowing this guy to sleep at her place while my son is there in a small one bedroom apartment claiming inappropriate behavior and threatening his moral wellfare - he was not raised this w...she's engaged and a week later they're getting married and buying a "new nice home where we all intend to live". Any comments on this scenario

2007-04-09 12:28:47 · 7 answers · asked by RealEYES 1

We where married on the 29th of May in WV but our marriage license says we where married on the 19th of May? This is 10 day earlier then our actual wedding day. So we are now wondering are we even legally married????

2007-04-09 12:28:23 · 23 answers · asked by Wondering in WV 1

That your actions speak louder than your words?

2007-04-09 12:28:21 · 19 answers · asked by GoodGirl 3

2007-04-09 12:21:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm 20 and live with parents. i think it's normal my parents want me to be a doctor or lawyer and i have my own website business which is doing pretty good and they tell me it's not a career. i know that but they are telling me if i become anything else than a doctor or lawyer they wouldn't want to have anything to do with me. i'm going to lawschool in 2 years but i don't want to be a lawyer or doctor. they don't have any faith in my business even though it's doing soo well i'm getting paid like $70,000+ a year with it but i stay home a lot because i do it all from home. they tell me it's not living because i'm working at home. they would rather see me working a $30,000 job at a bank because it's not home. why are they doing this to me? i don't want to do what they want but they keep pushing me and telling me if you don't we don't want to know you. it's killing me i don't want to be a doctor like my parents or lawyer. they want me to make a legal contract saying what i'll do with life

2007-04-09 12:20:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

The 7 years we were married I was her sole provider. We never had children. Now, she is working 2 jobs (and I couldn't get her to work one). I willing gave her $400/mo and now she's trying to get 1500/mo in alimony. Can she do this????

2007-04-09 12:16:23 · 13 answers · asked by Dr. FeelGood 1

2007-04-09 12:06:56 · 10 answers · asked by parkdad73 1

Why is it that single men will flirt with you one day and be all in your face, then the next day they may just walk by and look at you and not even speak. Next time you see them, they are back to wanting you around them and flirting, smiling, and talking like crazy. What is the logic behind this? It's so confusing. How can you ever figure something out like that?

2007-04-09 12:06:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-09 12:01:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

About a month ago a good friend of mine came to me and tried to talk me and my wife into swinging with him and his wife. My wife didn't want to at first but eventually she was a liitle interested. Well we all got together at his house and at first we still weren't sure about it. After some drinks and some time in their hot tub we were switching partners. Now here is were the major problem is. He only lasted about 8 to 10 min with my wife. So for what seemed like an eternity my friend and my wife watched me and my friends wife go at it. My wife said she got nothing out of it and didn't even come close to finishing. Well since then I have slept with his wife 7 times. His wife says he can't satisfy her. My wife doesn't know about the 7 times with the other woman. How do I approach my wife about bringing my friends wife into our bed. How do I let my friend know what is going on.He's the 1 that wanted to do this. Sex with my wife is great but it's also very good with the other

2007-04-09 11:58:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it bad to masturbate by watching porn everyday?
if yes how do i stop
pls help and why is it haram in islam?m confused

2007-04-09 11:47:45 · 12 answers · asked by Babysweetangel 1

The thing is... I can picture my life with him, but I can also picture my life without him too. We fight alot, mostly about the past. I know he'd take such good care of me, but I feel like there's something missing. He criticizes our sex life... and whenever I do something to change or "spice it up" he wants something else. There's no romance... he wants me to cook and do all this stuff, but he never brings me flowers or whatever... I don't know.... just thought I would add more info to help with the answers... thank you to all of you who have responded so far!!!

2007-04-09 11:35:19 · 24 answers · asked by SmileyAngel 2

is going through a mid life change he is at the gym all the time he says he is not having a affair he is on paxil so his sex drive is down he said hes leaveing her they have two children at home what should i do i dont want them to split,,,help should i talk to him only or both i am praying for them

2007-04-09 11:34:06 · 9 answers · asked by kris b 3

2007-04-09 11:32:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous