I was never married to the father. I left him once I found out I was pregnant and he refused to stop the drugs. I am now married to a man who has raised and supported my son since he was 4months old. He would like to adopt, but since I have married the father has now decided to take me to court. First it was for visitation, now he has put a contempt charge against me for not allowing him to see my son. I have tried reporting his drug dealings to the local police and Crimestoppers with no avail, the father moved to another residence and the investigation on him stopped. Not only does this man deal drugs out of his home, he was also physically abusive to me when we lived together. The only person that was his abuse was his 6yr old daughter who I'm sure will not testify against him. I am desperate now because my son has serious heart defects and is autistic. I live in Texas, the father lives in Oklahoma. If anyone can help me I would be very appreciative.
2007-04-09 12:31:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have had two attorneys so far. Both were bad choices as they have not helped my case at all. I was told by both I would have to have proof he was dealing drugs (which I do not have since he has never been arrested for a drug charge and the local police were never able to catch him since he moved from the address I gave them). The only person who saw his physical abuse was his 6yr old daughter. I know she will not testify against her father. I could only recruit people who would be testify on hearse, no one actually saw the abuse other than his daughter. Surprisingly the courts have been on his side completely. I am at a loss on how to protect my son. I am going to try getting the Child Welfare and my son's Dr involved and see if I can get anywhere
2007-04-09 12:51:28 · update #1
go to child services
2007-04-09 12:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because hes going to court doesnt mean hes won anything yet. Get copies of any police reports you can get hold of concerning this guy and his drug dealing and /or abuse charges to prove him as an endangerment to his son and ask the court for at least supervised visits if he must have them. If you can prove your accusations without hearsay then you have nothing to worry about. I would contact your local legal aid assoc.for help in form of free attorney. notify the authorities again of his new address and his drug dealings. Maybe this time theyll find something and once behind bars he cant do any damage to you guys. Worth a try. Good luck
2007-04-09 12:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where its going to be hard on you not having any evidence. If you knew how to do it I think getting a cop to go under cover acting as if he wanted to buy drugs from him would help. Without solid proof its going to be hrd for you to win this one. You could have all the money in the world to get the best attorney but if there is nothing to go on its just hear say. I cant imagine having to go through this myself. If he has this kind of life just imagine what kind of life your son would have living with him. As a mother you are doing what you can just keep looking for resources there has to be something you can do. Good luck and I hope you win.
2007-04-09 14:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what the laws are concerning your issues, try a law librarian in the legal law liabrary. THat should begin you on a very long and tedious journey, there's nothing unattainable, knowledge is the first key in opening any door! At the risk of quoting a very famous animated american, Knowing is half the battle. Goooooo Joooooe! lol lol lol I wish you the best with this....
2007-04-09 12:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mind the alleged abuse, unless you have pictures w/ dates of any bruises he may have caused you as a result of the beatings. What you and your new husband may want to try is getting some evidence of the baby daddy's drug dealings. Pictures, etc.
Having a child with Autism ( my son is 3) I strongly recommend you alert the school your child attends, they may be able to also assist you as far as government agency regarding Autism. It's awful to harm any child, they law really cracks the whip when you put children w/special need in harms way.
God bless.
2007-04-09 12:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i only will not be able to have confidence that if all of this particularly surpassed off, that this guy continues to be available doing his ingredient. You knew that guy replaced into dealing drugs once you laid down with him, now you want to portray it as in case you knew not something and from the gate needed not something to do with him, the drugs or the money the drug dealing extra in. You observed something in this guy. Now here we are, you have been abused, so which you're saying, you left him, so now what, why do you care what he does, he isn't under the comparable roof as you and your son. so a procedures as visitation, enable the social worker or whoever works this report understand this, in case you are able to desire to place it in writing to the administrative decide, in case you particularly needed all of this to be customary, it may well be. in case you are able to desire to, get an criminal expert, get one which will handle the case with the understanding that your infant's daddy may well be responsible for particularly some the fee or seek for criminal help, it is not as undesirable because it variety of feels, you do have ideas, and extra so because of the fact of your son's handicap, so which you reside reliable and carry on on your weapons, do not sit down and await an result, make one. You and your son would be ok. God Bless.
2016-10-28 07:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happend to mom and dad when i was 9 so i think you should really tell the father that if he ever does anything to the child that he cant but make sure that you talk to the father before your son over ther
2007-04-09 12:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure dear daddy knows there is money attach to this child he doesnt need him if he has special services take him to court and prove that boucning this child and changes in his life are not good for him. that he needs more steady and consistent life. If that don't work threaten dear daddy with major child support see if that can get him to sign away his rights.
2007-04-09 12:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Clays mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey - take him to court ASAP! Have him declared unfit, doesn't sound like they'll be too hard & have his paternal rights taken away. If you have to, go to the police & get a restraining order. Good luck & God Bless.
2007-04-09 12:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the courts should appoint a law guardian or something similar to represent your sons best needs. perhaps you need to retain a lawyer to help you settle this. by no means let this man get ahold of this child
2007-04-09 12:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Not only does this man deal drugs out of his home, he was also physically abusive to me when we lived together."
Prove that in court. Don't say it in court without backup. PROVE IT. You win. Fail to prove it, you'll be seeing a lot of bus stops and airports.
2007-04-09 12:36:36 · answer #11 · answered by Erad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋