My girlfriend's mother is a real pain in the ***!!!!I cannot stand this woman!!!The problem is that me and my gfd are planning to get married this summer but the "realionship" between me and her mother is getting worse!!!!What shall I do?
2007-04-09 13:41:49 · 22 answers · asked by DEZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The real problem with her is that she wants to CONTROL everyone and KNOW everything. She wants to arrange the wedding, the honeymoon, the new house,choose our clothes,shampoos, toilet paper etc. etc
She is the female version of Hitler!
2007-04-09 13:53:09 · update #1
First of all- CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!
Second of all- just ignore the future mother-in-law
Believe me -it works!I do the same!!!!
2007-04-09 13:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make most of the arrangements and get them done and finalised without her knowing about it...after all it is your wedding!!! Keep one particular job you can ask her to be in charge of. Tell her you would love her help and advice on the matter and let her concentrate on that. Trouble is, as much as you hate your mother in law, it is your girlfriends mum, and you are kind of stuck with her. Learn to 'play the game,' you can manipulate her to your way of thinking if you are crafty enough. Kill her with kindness, compliment her alot and get her doing things on your terms in a round about way. Let her think that she is boss. You can then sit back and enjoy how you have worked the situation to your advantage. In time, you may even be able to get along with her, and even like her a little. You have also got to consider that, if you make an effort to get along with your mother in law, it will score you some brownie points with your girlfriend. Implement some psychology mate, it works for me....and it doesn't have to stop at just your mother in law. It is all about how you handle people.
Have a great wedding day mate! All the best! :o)
2007-04-10 00:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that when you marry you DO marry the entire family and more than likely any problems you are facing now will only intensify after you've said your vows - unless of course you live half a country away from the in-laws. Good luck!
2007-04-09 21:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the wonderful world of mother in laws or monster in laws as most people would rather call them on here. Just remember youre marrying your gfd and not her mother. You will never be good enough for her daughter so forget about trying t be the perfect son in law as it cant happen due to some unknown Nature law. Also mil cant live forever so just accept thefact she will be around and will always hate you and just deal with it. This comes from experience with mine for about 28 years and it doesnt get better. Congrats on your upcoming marriage and good luck with mil
2007-04-09 20:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your girlfriend should sit down with the girlfriend's mother and just say hey sorry but this is our wedding and we would like to plan our stuff and we feel as though you are being too controlling or something like that. if this is her only daughter then she is probably realizing that she won't really have "control" over her or something anymore. and because of this she probably just wants things to be perfect for you both. good luck and congrats!
2007-04-09 21:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly_chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grin and bear it- its her Mother- pain or no pain. Just smile and try to make some peace, after all is said and done you could end up the looser if you throw out opinions. Be the nice guy here( which I am sure you are) don't let it come back to bite you wahen you least expect it.
2007-04-09 20:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your girlfriend are serious about getting married, you are gonna have to deal with her, a lot. If you truly love this girl you will find a common ground to communicate with her mom. Sometimes you have to be the bigger person no matter how someone else behaves.
2007-04-09 20:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sun R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you lucked out.
My mother in law is mentally deranged (literally) in addition to being greedy and stupid. Pain in the *** is better than having a crazy old woman calling your better half 10x a day.
2007-04-09 20:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by phoenix_rising_28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law is trying to make sure you and your girlfriend get it right , and is using a lifetime's experience to help you
Thank her for her help......and treasure her.
My mother in law , has been our baby sitter , for 32 years , every Saturday night.
(Our eldest daughter is disabled, and needs 24 / 7 care )
Look after your mother in law....she sounds like a gem !
She is also a bit nervous about letting go , of her daughter......but she must like you....as she is helping you to take her away from her !
2007-04-09 21:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you'll have to put up with her. By the way, 'Mother-in-law' is an anagram of 'Hitler Woman'
2007-04-09 20:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by Polo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a happy wife as life goes on try to make peace... ask your self why dont you get along? who started this mess. sit down with her tell you you know there are some hardships adn tlel her you want them smoothed out for BOTH OF YOU LOVE HER DAUGHTER... step and try . Be alone with her and ask Why she does not like you, get this off both of your chests now . One day there may be a grand child
WOULDNT YOU LIKE TO SEE YOUR CHILD bond tightly with their grand parents...... I sure would........
2007-04-09 20:48:29 · answer #11 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋