My ex-wife of 7 years divorce me, and is already married to a 50 year old man in just 61/2 months, his occupation is a janitor, Who has nothing! I was a loving successful self- employed business man, going to church and begging her to go to counseling with me to save our marriage. she was 29 when she left me I was 35 years old. what is your take on that? Help a hurting man.
2007-04-09 13:43:59 · 14 answers · asked by fstmx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know you are hurting. As a church-going man, you know what you have to do - worry about nothing and pray about everything.
2007-04-09 13:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't the man for her! If what she needs is a 50 year old janitor you should be thankful you're not it. Is a woman who does that and is into that what you truly want or need? Don't worry! You can do better! Move on and be thankful you're not 50 yet with a lousy job!
2007-04-09 20:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat yourself up cause there are many men out there that can tell the same story.It's hard to figure out why people do these things.It seems senseless for a person to do this when they have a good thing at home and a stable life.My ex did something similar to this years ago and I have yet to figure it out.It took some time but I finally figured out that it wasn't worth loosing sleep over.I picked myself up and started living life again.Don't let it get you down cause it's a hard road back.Emotions are a hard thing to fix once they are unsettled.
2007-04-09 21:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to kick you when you are down, but, you need to get up and shake this one off.
Bottom line, you lost. Move on. So what if he is a janitor! He probably knows how to "handle" her. That is part of the problem. . . your superior attitude. You were concentrating on business and the fox got into your hen house.
Learn from the experience. Learn to balance work and play.
2007-04-10 02:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are the lucky one?
I remember that Adam Sandler movie "Big Daddy", you should rent it. Then go to the Adults singles mixer at your church and make some new friends.
Breath pal, you just ducked a psyco!
2007-04-09 20:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't love you. Although you are hurting, it could have been worse. She could have waited another 10 years before leaving you. Then you would have had even more time invested in the relationship and probably would have been more heartbroken.
You have lots to offer and their are women who could love you and appreciate you. You will find love and happiness, just don't rush it.
2007-04-09 20:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other guy was treating her better, and probably has time to hang out with her. I'm not saying you were a bad husband, that's what I'm getting. Was she respectful to you when you were married? If so, then I think she left to be with someone who had more time to spend with her. If she was a nagging b*tch, then she probably left to be in a relationship where she could be in control. Can you give us more details?
2007-04-09 20:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by SillierKimmie! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because this man is a janitor doesn't make him a bad person. She must have found love and this is what she wants. You can't change that. How do you know he has nothing, just because he doesn;t have wealth money wise he could have everything she has always wanted.
2007-04-09 20:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You gotta move on. Sometimes, it just takes the right person, and you weren't the right person for her. Needless to say, she isn't the one for you as well. Move on and start being happy.
2007-04-09 21:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by phoenix_rising_28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dude, nothing you can do but grab your self buy your boot straps and move on...Who knows what she was thinking, we can help who we fall in love with...
2007-04-09 21:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋