About a month ago a good friend of mine came to me and tried to talk me and my wife into swinging with him and his wife. My wife didn't want to at first but eventually she was a liitle interested. Well we all got together at his house and at first we still weren't sure about it. After some drinks and some time in their hot tub we were switching partners. Now here is were the major problem is. He only lasted about 8 to 10 min with my wife. So for what seemed like an eternity my friend and my wife watched me and my friends wife go at it. My wife said she got nothing out of it and didn't even come close to finishing. Well since then I have slept with his wife 7 times. His wife says he can't satisfy her. My wife doesn't know about the 7 times with the other woman. How do I approach my wife about bringing my friends wife into our bed. How do I let my friend know what is going on.He's the 1 that wanted to do this. Sex with my wife is great but it's also very good with the other
2007-04-09 11:58:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude, your the man! Freakin tell the guy, this was your idea, dont get mad I satisify your wife better then you! Have him warm up his wife with the 8-10 min session and send her over to your house, to finish the job! Right on!!!!
2007-04-09 12:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The seven times with the friends wife was cheating NOT swinging, Swinging involves being totally open and honest with your partner. The goal is to bring something additional into your relationship not to find something instead of. It can be a fantastic experience for a couple have together, as soon as your wife was left out you crossed a line and I really doubt that you will be able bring it back. You should NOT try to hide this from your wife and attempt to bring this woman into your bed. You have also betrayed your freind and his wife has betrayed him.
2007-04-10 09:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONSENTING TO BE WITH OTHER PARTNERS WHEN YOUR MARRIED IS REALLY A BAD SITUATION ALL AROUND. WHAT SOUNDS LIKE A FUN IDEA, USUALLY ENDS UP BEING THE WORST MISTAKE THE COUPLE CAN MAKE. THE QUESTION TO YOU IS WHY DID YOU CONTINUE TO SLEEP WITH THE OTHER WOMAN? DID YOU THINK YOU HAD PERMISSION BECAUSE YOU WERE ALLOWED TO DO IT ONCE? THIS IS REALLY MESSY. BRINGING THE OTHER WOMAN IN THE BED WITH YOU CAN BE TRICKY. SHE MAY NOTICE THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WAY YOU TOUCH HER OR WHATEVER AND MAY SENSE SOMETHING IS GOING ON. EITHER WAY, THE REALATIONSHIP WITH THIS OTHER WOMAN NEEDS TO STOP. ITS NO LONGER SWINGING WHEN YOUR HIDING IT FROM YOUR WIFE. SHE MAY NOT BE SATISFIED WITH HER HUSBAND BUT NOW YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR WIFE THAT YOU CONTINUTED SLEEPING HER, AND WELL, YOU HAVE YOUR OWN MARRIAGE TO DEAL WITH. LEAVE THIS WOMAN ALONE. YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF BY ASKING YOURSELF WHY YOU CONTINUE BEING WITH THIS WOMAN, BECAUSE DEEP DOWN YOU KNOW ITS MORE THAN JUST SEX. THERE IS TROUBLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. THE FACT YOU BOTH FELT YOU NEEDED TO SWING WAS JUST THE BEGINING OF THE SIGNS. YOU TWO NEED TO CONCENTRATE ON YOUR MARRIAGE AND WHY YOU FEEL YOU NEEDED TO DO THIS. MAYBE YOU TWO SHOULD CONSIDER COUNSELING TO REALLY TALK ABOUT WHAT'S GOING ON.
2007-04-09 19:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by 3whiskerbiscuits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should stay within marriage. However, to each their own. Since you have gone behind her back 7 times...you have pretty much just cheated on her. Let her know....and you need to really think about what is more important to you. Your wife and her feelings or sex for you.
2007-04-09 19:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Boo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd settle with good sex with wife and end this swinging...unless the wife says she would prefer the other women instead of her husband...then do what you want..I'd tell him he has to stay at home and pleasure himself.
2007-04-09 19:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why you and she should never have agreed to it, now your wife will feel as if you like the other woman better. Also, you will have to contend with her husband. Makes for a messy situation.
2007-04-09 19:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a very touchy subject... and i would feel horrible if i was your wife.... more so after u came up to me and told me about the 7 other times and that u want her in bed with us.... it would make me feel as though i wasnt good enough by myself.... that u needed another women to help u you.... and possible u should all be tested....
2007-04-09 19:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by babs335123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not going to agree to it. You need to stop sleeping with the other wife. You're cheating.
2007-04-09 19:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by twinmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new job in a new city/state. get a new house. change your name, take your wife, and pretend none of this EVER happend. your on track to RUINING your marriage and the marriage of your friend. quit sleeping with his damn wife! that will solve all your problems!
2007-04-09 19:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by beautifulbunny0286 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
''Swinging'' is only swinging, when the spouses know about it.
Therefore, the other 7 times that you got together with another man's wife......that's no long swinging.....but rather it's cheating.
Continue to please your wife, and stop pleasing the wife of another man.
If she's not getting what she wants sexually out of her marriage, that's something she'll have to deal with.
2007-04-09 19:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋