why are my parents so hard on me at 20, are they right?

Question

i'm 20 and live with parents. i think it's normal my parents want me to be a doctor or lawyer and i have my own website business which is doing pretty good and they tell me it's not a career. i know that but they are telling me if i become anything else than a doctor or lawyer they wouldn't want to have anything to do with me. i'm going to lawschool in 2 years but i don't want to be a lawyer or doctor. they don't have any faith in my business even though it's doing soo well i'm getting paid like $70,000+ a year with it but i stay home a lot because i do it all from home. they tell me it's not living because i'm working at home. they would rather see me working a $30,000 job at a bank because it's not home. why are they doing this to me? i don't want to do what they want but they keep pushing me and telling me if you don't we don't want to know you. it's killing me i don't want to be a doctor like my parents or lawyer. they want me to make a legal contract saying what i'll do with life

the contract they said the ywant it within the next few weeks.

Answer 1

Wow I really feel for you. Your parents expectations are unfair. You are making a liveing doing something you love. Why should it matter you are at home a lot. That is where your job is. If you were my child I would be proud of what you have accomplished. :You are 20 years old making something of yourself and staying out of trouble. What more can anyone ask of you. Good luck with the business. Edit: Everyone says move out. Why should you your parents should love and respect you for what you have accomplished. I dont know you and I am proud of you.

Answer 2

Is your website business in the gambling arena?? Your name is 'poker pro'. If it is that realm, then I would have a problem as an adult too. Poker depends upon the gullibility of addicts who are using valuable money to play and then loose so that other family members are at risk.

Gambling is ill-gotten gain, and IMHO I do not agree that it is a wise choice for anyone as a career.

Now, if the website is NOT a gambling site, a different scenario is involved. If I made that kind of money regularly, I would move out of the home and go to an apartment, buy furniture and live there.

Are you mature and an adult? An apartment will solve all your problems! Learn how to cook, how to budget and how to make your own bed. GROW UP.

Then you can have the career choice of your own and leave the lawyer and doctor stuff alone.

Answer 3

Why? Let's go over the list.

1. i'm 20 and live with parents - LAME

2. i'm going to lawschool in 2 years but i don't want to be a lawyer or doctor. - LAME

3. i'm getting paid like $70,000+ a year with it but i stay home a lot because i do it all from home. - REALLY LAME

4. i don't want to do what they want but they keep pushing me and telling me if you don't we don't want to know you. - IF THEY ARE FINE NOW, THEY'LL BE FINE LATER.

5. i don't want to be a doctor like my parents or lawyer. - THEN DON'T

6. they want me to make a legal contract saying what i'll do with life - WILL THEY PRESS CHARGES IF YOU BREAK THE CONTRACT? IF SO, I ADVISE NOT SIGNING.

K, that's sorted out. Take your 70k a year, get an apartment for 1k a month and don't give them a forwarding address or phone number. Set up an email account specifically for them to communicate with you and give them the address to it.

Live your life. Stop crying about mommy and daddy, you're over 20 for chrissakes.

Answer 4

OK first, parents always want the best for their kids. Let me ask you one thing, if your making 70k a year with your on-line business, why are you still living at home? Why would you go to law school, rack up major school loans if that's not what you want to do? There is no such thing as a legal contract with what your going to do with your life. Move out and live your life! They and either choose to be a part of it or not, that's their call not yours.

Answer 5

so move out of the house and into your own place. You say you make around 70,000 and you are only 20-I surely would not be living at home with your kind of money. Your parents just want you to do well, however if I were you I would go ahead and get my law degree, then if you have legal paper to handle you can do it yourself and save one hell of alot of money on lagal fees.

Answer 6

If you were my son I'd be jumping up and down with pride and joy.
If I were their kid, they wouldn't know what to do with me.
If you were my brother, you would be the Good Son and I would be The Problem Child.
It all depends on the lens you see through.
You should be going to school to study what you want to study. I don't know many grown ups who rake in 70 grand a year!
Clearly, you'll be fine. They can't be worried about you. It sounds like hubris.
SIgn nothing!
When you move out reccommend the name of a good psychiatrist, and then say YOU'LL have nothing to do with them!
Yeesh!

Answer 7

If all you've said is true, why aren't you already out from under their thumb. Get a place of your own, and don't worry about your parents. It's pretty obvious they think they own you, make it clear to them you are not property and you have a right to your own happiness.

Isn't a legal contract giving them control of your life kind of like selling yourself into slavery?

Answer 8

wow that's harsh. well i think if ur making that much from ur website business and ur parents are threatening u to move out if u dont become a doctor or lawyer then maybe u should consider moving into an apartment and do what u wantt.

Answer 9

Well i think what you are doing is great because it sounds like you enjoy it. Too many people get into careers and they are miserable. But if you are making 70,000 plus a year, I say move out!

Answer 10

A legal contract saying what you are going to do with your life? If you have any legal experience, you would find that contract is rediculous for several reasons.

If you are making so much, and they are so hard on you, then move out. Do what YOU feel is right in your life.