is going through a mid life change he is at the gym all the time he says he is not having a affair he is on paxil so his sex drive is down he said hes leaveing her they have two children at home what should i do i dont want them to split,,,help should i talk to him only or both i am praying for them
2007-04-09 11:34:06 · 9 answers · asked by kris b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to them both. He sounds like he's going to a mid-life crisis, and I doubt seriously he is having any affairs from what you describe, but I also think it's likely he doesn't feel loved or appreciated at home and feels the need to overcompensate at the gym. There may be ways for the wife to save the marriage, if she wants to. And he could use a friend willing to talk to him honestly about how crazy his choices seem and make him realize he needs to slow down and make more careful decisions.
Both of them need to understand that a divorce will hurt their children and turn their children's lives upside down, and if it has to happen both need to do as much as they can to shelter their children.
Your a very good person and friend for doing what you can to help them not make a bad decision. Don't get caught in the middle or feel like you have to choose sides though.
Best of luck
2007-04-09 11:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can do anything. If he's deciding to leave, then his mind us made up, unfortunately. This is real life, it's not a movie or an after-school special. If he's fallen out of love with your sister-in-law, then that's that. And it does sound like he's seeing someone else. You should just be there for your sister-in-law and the children. They need a good support system.
2007-04-09 18:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by MADS1228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldn't that make him your brother? You can pray for them but there is nothing you can do. You cannot stop them from separating, as much as it may hurt you. If they are having trouble in the relationship then you have to look at it as being better for both of them. You don't want them to be un-happy with each other.
2007-04-09 18:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by imissrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it youll just get blamed or stuck in the middle or put in a position you dont want to be in just be there emothionally for your sister in law or better yet your wife its her sister and let her deal cwith it you can help by being there for her
2007-04-09 18:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by angela C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do, unfortunately. Be there for her if she asks for help, but stay out of their business and let them work things out.
2007-04-09 18:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would not hurt to talk to them both seperate and together.
2007-04-09 18:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your brother right? Talk to him;itsn't the gym or something; they have problems;if you know something about it;your opinion is OK.
but first,listen to your brother
2007-04-09 18:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do to help them is "STAY OUT OF IT" do not try ti INTERFERE" it will only make matters worse
2007-04-09 18:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your place, just be there for them, they have to work this out themselves
2007-04-09 20:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋