me and my husband have been together for 8 yrs we just got married in november, last year we sepereted for 7 months and now that we are back together he always wants to leave me and says he don't love me, i don't understand why he is doing this, could he still be hurt from me kicking him out last year or does he really just not love me please help i am 16 weeks pregnant and can't do it on my own please please help
2007-04-09 12:41:53 · 14 answers · asked by Kayla B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In your situation, I`ld simply suggest you to forget the past and look to the future...If he says he don`t love you, that is not from his heart, but he simply tries to control you..in fact, he loves you that is why he`s hanging around even after you`re pregnant...he just wants you to be polite and cooperative to him. When you have his baby, you should try to change yourself so as to suit him as his life partner. I know this is difficult but no choice, for the sake of your unborn kid and your future...Life without a good family is like a ship in rough sea..Have courage.
2007-04-09 13:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Fir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What disturbs me about that, is this saying; If you continue to do what you've always done, you wll get the same results.
Who can make this decision better than you! You will have to now bring the baby into an enviroment that will be emotionally unhealthy and God knows what the H E double hockey sticks else this dude wants or will unitentionally introduce into the enviroment of your child. You are a mother now, so lets dispense with all the I need this man B.S. And do the best you can til an opportunity arises to do better, or meet and be with someone whowill treat you better!
No more playing games with this nuckle-head, take charge and say no more coochie or free room and board til you do right by me and our child.
2007-04-09 13:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey kayla sorry you have to deal with this. perhaps in that time off he realized he could go solo. or maybe he is now playing the power player meaning did you call him back? if so he is taking advantage. he needs to realize he has a kid on the way and you 2 cannot be selfish on this issue. let him go for a few weeks & tell him you will raise the baby alone but you will never forgive him for not being there and the child will grow up without him. (which i do not wish) but hey we need the daddy in the picture right. so the harder thing let go and let him come or sit together and communicate of whats going on. he needs to do the right thing and support you. best wishes.
2007-04-09 12:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tony M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you kicked him out he probably found interest in someone else. Maybe he loves you but are no longer in love with you. Alot of people confuse the two. You can either have a serious talk with him and ask him where he stands and you both agree to work things out or seperate. Whatever you do please don't stay in a relationship just because you're pregnant.
2007-04-09 12:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by wisdom_women 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are your pregnancy was an accident. Happens though.It sounds like he came back after the seperation to be sure of his real feelings for you and there was nothing there for him so he really does want out and probably thinks the pregnancy is your way of keeping him. Hes feeling trapped and just wants out. You can sue him for divorce, which the courts willwait to make a finaldecision until after the baby is born and sue him for everything legal youre entitled to. Good luck
2007-04-09 12:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you that he sounds as i f he has genuinely given up on you as a person and now sees you as a means to an end. What I would do next would be to seek out a good marriage counselor and have the both of you go. If he won't go, you would be better to seek legal counsel instead.
2007-04-09 12:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby don't worry some men are like this when a woman is pregnant .Don't worry he will be back .Its just something that happens to men at this time .See ur attention is not focused on him now .
2007-04-09 12:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Millo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you can either do this on your own with your child or you can subject him to a very unhealthy life of comings and goings prob vverbal abuse to HMMMMM hard decision thell him to hit the road.
2007-04-09 12:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by Clays mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't love you why did he come back? What matters is that you do what's best for you and the baby.
2007-04-09 12:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by charliecizarny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a hard question but i would say that dump him if he says he dosent love u u can find one much better for u
2007-04-09 12:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by JOE B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋