...Do you have any tips for me for my first session of marriage counseling?
2007-04-09 04:11:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, two cars.
Agree not to discuss anything that was discussed in the session after its over for at least 24 hours. That will give you both time to think things over AND will make you feel more secure about opening up when you're there.
Think about the core problems you want to address, not details of some stupid argument you had yesterday. You don't want to waste your hour going over something that is indicative of a larger problem.
Agree to not discuss anything that happens in the counselling with anyone else.
2007-04-09 04:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
1. It's about COMPROMISE. Everything wrong between you two is not all his fault. He may feel some things are, and that's OK. What ruins the counseling attempts are the attacks on the other person.
2. It's about AFFIRMATION. As long as you're honestly taking the stuff to heart, you're taking marriage seriously.
3. It's about LOVE. When was the last time you made love? Spoil him if he's feeling cold or bitter. Most people marry because the dating/courtship was aces. Serve him another ace. Remind him why it's good.
2007-04-09 04:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just listen and leave the anger outside the room. It will take two to make this work, you go in with the idea that you want a divorce and these sessions will never work. You will be wasting your time and his .
2007-04-09 04:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to understand why you go for the counseling....
If you understand that... then be positive at your end.. try to make up at every opportunity.....
If you are not ready to make up.. you can forget about counselling it does not help since you have made up your mind already...
take care
2007-04-09 04:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by trymejames 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Open completely up and expect him to do the same . Make the sessions count put it all out there !
2007-04-09 04:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be open and honest. Make sure you lay everything out on the line. All your feelings and issues you are having need to be dealt with then and there. Make sure and listen earnestly and with an open mind. Good Luck!
2007-04-09 04:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by JCaton 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have the cash or check book ready and a pencil available to pencil in the future appointments.
2007-04-09 04:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and dont judge anything that comes out of his mouth bec thats y ur there, 2 open up and get the problem out
2007-04-09 04:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by dirbe22 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with tj. The ride home can be uncomfortable.
2007-04-09 04:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to say anything. If you are...then there is no point in being there...you don't stand a chance.
2007-04-09 08:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Chad S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋