I couldn't handle it, she is remarried but still called my husband when she needed anything. My husband says they are friends. I know nothing sexual between them, but still couldn't deal with her being a part of our lives on a daily basis. We divorced because I couldn't deal with it, other than his relationship with ex we were pretty much perfect together, was I wrong? We still love each other and still "date"
2007-04-09 04:02:03 · 25 answers · asked by hi_stk_n 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is his "X" for a reason. There is no way a woman would put up with that crap. She is not moving on with her life, because she is co-dependent on your husband and he is an Enabler. He is encouraging her behavior. You are correct to get away from that. If there are kids involved, then I could understand a certain amount of communication on a friendly basis, but your husband and her were going wayyy over board. Move on with your Life and allow your X to think about his actions in his relationships.
2007-04-09 04:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cards say.....calling the ex is not ok except when it involved the kids or a death...and your ex husband never severed that relationship at all. The cards say that he did have a physical relationship with his ex even thought he was married to you and that this will not change as long as you're willing to settle for second best. The cards say...gain your own self-respect and break off with the "dating" completely. All you are doing is prolonging the inevidiable...he will move on. At this point, gain the upper hand and move first. If you do, after a couple of months to gather your thoughts and emotions, the cards say that your new love interest who has brown curly hair and a dazzeling smile will appear when you least expect it. It will be a super fast romance!!! Be prepared. Godloveya.
2007-04-09 04:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost dumped my bf becuase of his ex. I coudlnt handle that they talked. I found out that they were writing love letters actually. I made him cut her off completely. I know his password to everything (he doesnt know that) i scan everything daily. She still writes me nasty email sometimes saying how im in the way.. and i'll never compare to her. A guy involved with his ex in any way is a bad thing in my books. An ex is an ex for a reason.. move on!!! lol
I would have done the same thing you did. Im sure if your ex husband re-marries then he will have the same problem with the new woman. Some women don't seem to be bothered by it.. i dont' understand. They claim it's confidence.. but confident or not.. i dont want my man having a close relationship with anybody he used to kiss goodnight. :p
2007-04-09 04:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Becca319 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not normal to communicate that many times a day with an ex.
Only you know in your heart if it was the right choice to divorce him(did you talk to him about how this affected your relationship? If so then I feel he made the wrong choice by continuing to keep the conversations flowing by picking her over you.)
Of course your going to always love each other you were in a relationship and the good memories will always be treasured...as in any other relationship.
2007-04-09 04:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that much communication is ridiculous. even for me. i know when i was with someone, i had lady friends that i spoke to as well. but there was never any one person who could get that much attention from me - not even the one i was with. i have good relationships with my exes as well but i would never have even a quarter of that much convo, not even a 10th. 5-7 calls a week would be too much. that's average of every day.
5-7 calls in a month is more like it. but not in a week and definitely NEVER on a daily basis.
were they at least short calls? regarding kids or something like that. it would make SOME sense to keep in contact but even then, 2 a day tops and that would be to speak with the children 85% of the time.
2007-04-09 04:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony Taurus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation. I was with my X for 8 years. We were best friends and as close as friends can get but we had no romantic relationship to speak of. Sex was maybe once every 3 months, but we loved each other so much that we thought we could stay together anyways. We've been split up for almost 2 years and remain the best of friends, talking on the phone sometimes 1 -2 times per day. We hang out, go to nightclubs, play the same video games. I am now in a relationship of 16 months. My fiance had a hard time dealing with my friendship with my X in the beginning. It caused many fights, alot of jealousy etc. But we made it through those hard times and he now accepts my friendship. He would even like to be friends with my X, but my X hates him. Hopefully, when we're all old and grey we will look back on these times and laugh over coffee. Because I love both of them, but in different ways. I think you should give both of them a chance and know that he loves YOU. She may need him in her life and her life may fall apart without his intervention. It's very hard to accept, but I AM that woman you speak of. Oh her behalf, and his, I plead for your patience and understanding. We are all human and need people. Myself personally, I have no family. That is why I cling to my friendship with my X. I also consider his mother to be MY mother. His whole family are MY family, and I am theirs. My fiance and I ended up renting a full basement apartment from the immediate family of my X. We are all connected including my fiance. He finally feels like a part of that family but it took a year. My fiance feels sorry for my X because he cannot accept his presence in all of our lives and because he hates him so much. Hopefully this helps you gain some perspective.
2007-04-09 04:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ruby Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have good instincts and need to pay attention to them. It sounds to me that he still has feelings for her and holds out hope they will get back together. It seems as though there was a break up but it was not whole hearted on his part and that they are dancing around the idea of a reconciliation. He does not mention you while he is on the phone with her because he feels that may mess up his chances with her. Let's face it. Even two female best friends do not talk on the phone that often.
2016-05-20 23:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is never ok! If she had a husband, then she should have been calling on him and let you and your husband move on! And since your husband let her come between you two, then i would assume he wanted something more than just friendship w/ her! I say dont even date him anymore, b/c that just gives him what he wants, to have both of you w/o the complaining.
2007-04-09 04:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your Ex husband talked to his exwife and they aren't getting personal as in sexual it should be okay. But no she shouldn't be calling everyday! Perhaps you and your ex can patch it up with him knowing not to talk to his wife everyday. Get counseling and have him cut all ties with ex unless emergeny!Also sounds like he still loves and cares for ex. You should be first. I will say it makes no sense to date him unless you're marrying him again. Other than that end it and move on!
2007-04-09 04:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Bizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just grow up and start being an adult? Unless your husband or ex isn't being unfaithful or doing anything behind your back you shouldn't be causing any problems. In your defense though I would talk to him civilized about why he is all of sudden talking to her so much. It is possible that he has just become friends with her again. Find out the whole picture before jumping to conclusions because it is possible he is doing something rediculous as he has in the past but find out.
2007-04-09 04:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by sg300c 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋