Marriage & Divorce - 16 November 2006

I am getting married to a man in june we have known each other a long time and are really in love , but his ex wont leave us alone , he has 3 children to her who we both adore and everytime somthing dosnt go her way she stops us seeing them , the thing is she ended the relationship with him , she dosnt want him but dosnt want me to have him , she has also got a new boyfriend , we have been together 3 times before this and each time she has played on his feelings and managed to split us up , although this time is very different and there is no chance of him going back to her she is still always trying to get him into her house on his own , which he is completly refusing to do , when we go to pick the kids up from her house theres fighting and when she comes to our house to pick them up theres fighting , nothing is going to stop me marrying him but she is really wearing me down , and if i say anything back to her she will stop us seeing the kids so i just have to take it everytime .

2006-11-16 19:35:01 · 20 answers · asked by swaller_whalen 1

2006-11-16 19:19:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am seperated for 10 months. he is not a decent guy, but he is terminally ill. Should I hang in there, because he says he needs me, or should I go ahead and file for divorce. Our relationship is complicated. He is a great friend, but not a good husband, has cheated, and been physically abusive. We live in seperate homes, but we are still together on paper.....I have guilt, but know that I can never live with him again...What should I do???

2006-11-16 19:19:05 · 15 answers · asked by mlw6366 3

she found out i did before and now found out that i did again, but it was a long time ago, i feel so selfish, and i wanna show her she can trust me, bc i see things alot diff now, she is gone, and our hopes of being married in serious jepordy, i was selfish and i want her to be the only women i ever am w again, women out there especially what can i do, i really hurt her, she was my everything and i messed up. but i have made up my mind to do nething to get her back, so now i just gotta do it, she has heard stories from people that i cheated on her all the time, and some girls have even said i have had sex with them or tried to talk to them, and they are completely lying, so that is making things harder bc she doesnt know what to believe, i love her more than nething, and i have been depressed for the last month and a half, what should u do when u literally cant live wout somebody? please tell me someobody can relate to this

2006-11-16 19:14:05 · 10 answers · asked by gem_city_diplomat 1

My ex and I have been trying to get back together. We divorced three years ago and have a teenage daughter.

He is very controlling and always likes to have things his way. So, when I negotiate with him, I say these are the things in my life I will not change or will only change after we are legally married again.

Now, he is constantly saying (in each and every e-mail) that I am a selfish person. He says that I am the most selfish person he knows. I don't know how to react to this statement.

My child is not doing good in school and he constantly blames me for not being with them. I live about 3000 miles away from them.

I can't sleep at night because of the uncertainty in my life. I also do not know how to deal with his comments.

2006-11-16 19:06:15 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

im in my late 20,s married for 5yrs no kids hav a gorgeous husband hav mindblowin sex and im a stunner. a lady friend has confessed that shes madly in love wit me yes i can have fun but love im not so sure as my husband possesses all of me. my friend and i hav great conversations she is my equal intellectualy which i love. she amazes me in so many ways. shes there for me in every way and i do lov and appreciate her. what are your views do tell

2006-11-16 19:05:02 · 8 answers · asked by anusha k 1

How would you answer him? Give it some thought. I intend to do that very soon & I'm damn nervous about it.

2006-11-16 18:57:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-16 18:56:57 · 15 answers · asked by Martha 1

I have finally made the decision to leave my verbally/emotionally ( has been physical in the past 3 times) abusive husband within the next 2 weeks. I am preparing for my exit with my 2 small children over to my mom's for awhile. We've been married for 12 years and although I feel it's the right thing to do as counseling doesn't seem to be working & he's still abusive. The problem is I keep thinking of the good times when he's being Mr. Nice Guy and downplaying the extreme abuse. I hate to htink of him with someone else and going on happily after I feel like I'm used goods left with 2 kids and all the responsibilty while he lives carefree except for paying child support. I don't know how to stop feeling guilty and dealing with the fact that my so called dream of a family is over. I thought that if I changed for the better he would change and that's just not happening. How do I move on when I still have love for him but I can't take his abuse anymore?

2006-11-16 18:56:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

why do men look when they are married? if the wife has never said no,, then why do they still do it?

2006-11-16 18:50:02 · 6 answers · asked by lilastevenson42 2

Ladies, what would you do if you walked in on your husband, while he was being intimate with his girlfriend?

2006-11-16 18:36:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hate our relationship
I hate her dog
I hate her attitude
I hate our sex life
I hate her lack of emotion
I hate her anal retentiveness
I hate we no longer have fun
I hate that there is no passion
I hate her sarcasm
I hate her lack of supportiviness
I hate her inability to communicate
I hate her frowning
I hate her seconed guessing me
I hate her unloving nature
I hate that she is always tired.
I hate her humor.

I really hate the way I feel about my marriage. I think I have fallen out of love. I want to be happily married. Just to let you know, I am a nice guy. I work hard, pay the bill, dont drink , smoke or cheat. No temper issues either. I am a regular nice guy. She is nice to everybody else but me- Her husband. She is hardworking and honest- she makes and good friend to others and a great daughter to her parents..

HELP!!!

2006-11-16 18:34:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok if your sisters husband was cheating and you knew it and you are her brother would you tell your sister that her husband was cheating on her or would you keep it from her.

2006-11-16 18:30:18 · 20 answers · asked by knowssignlanguage 6

I have a one yr old son. His dad is having a gf right now. We're not married so its ok for me if he have a gf right now coz i know I dont have the right. I told my ex-bf that while i am alive and my son doesnt know how to decide her new gf cannot play nor touch my son. Is it ok? Do u think im so rude?

2006-11-16 18:18:21 · 16 answers · asked by gandache19 1

I am having so many difficulties right vs. wrong choice. My husband, who is army, just got back from a 6 week school, in december he is only allowed to take 15 days leave (vacation) when prior to the school they were told 30 days. Now he has to leave for another 10 days for school and then deploys right after that.

Here is the problem: Under the original planned 30 days his family was going to visit for 10 of the days. Now its only 15 days and i am mad that 10 of it has to be spent with his brother & g-friend, mom and dad with only 5 days to spend= 2 before and 3 after they leave. Ladies esp, wouldnt you be stuck in a hard place because that is alot of planning for extra adults for three meals aday, house cleaning, entertaining and being on the ball so to speak for 10 days that I would much rather spend relaxing with my husband who is getting ready to deploy for a darn year. What do i do??? The travel is already arranged by the way, i just want a cozy family Christmas is that bad?

2006-11-16 18:17:22 · 9 answers · asked by Jessy 5

I am living with my parents and my husband. I am desperate to get away from my husband and my parents prefer that he stays with them. He is on parole, holds no job, is an alcoholic, and has agoraphobia. I go to school full-time and work 20 hours a week. I have filled out paperwork to get housing assistance but it could be months before I hear anything about that. In the meantime he is making me crazy and I am becoming mean and sleeping 12 hours a day. My grades are slipping. I screamed at my parents today and almost got thrown out. I've applied for counselling and have an appointment next month. How can I get through this? I can't live like this anymore!

2006-11-16 18:17:18 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2

2006-11-16 18:15:17 · 1 answers · asked by santosh b 1

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2006-11-16 18:14:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-16 18:13:59 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello.

This summer my husband cheated on me with an ex girlfriend he dated before we met. We were going through a rough time -- fighting all the time, and while I understand we were fighting, we were married and are still married.

To make a long story short, I took him back. I know he has ceased communication with her, but I also know he still cares about her very much. We talk, a lot, about how he feels and while it hurts me to the core he thinks about her, I listen and he feels better afterwards and it makes me feel better he is not harboring any secrets.

I guess my question is -- how do you heal (pesonally) from being cheated on?

2006-11-16 17:54:10 · 27 answers · asked by Eve 2

My wife is at home with 2 little kids (3 and 5), as a result she is at times tested by them. We are going to be visiting family in the Seattle area, I was thinking of leaving the kids with the family and doing something there for one night. Any ideas?

2006-11-16 17:52:56 · 17 answers · asked by nanao56 2

long time ago we did it like rabbits. now i am LUCKY to get it on our anniversary. I make dinner 98% of the time, bring home flowers and all that crap constantly, clean house, i work more hours than her (as an architect) and she NEVER wnats to do anything sexual? she seems to conside it "dirty" even though we have been together 5years???????????????

2006-11-16 17:19:50 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-16 17:11:11 · 33 answers · asked by ahmo m 1

2006-11-16 17:10:50 · 17 answers · asked by benjk4 1

2006-11-16 17:07:17 · 8 answers · asked by t10t15t66 2

Before we came here my wife shutup and did her duties... now she has seen videos and commercials and thinks she has power over ME! i dont want to be arrestes so bsides the obvious beatings what can i do to install fear in her heart????

2006-11-16 17:07:17 · 24 answers · asked by roger po f 1

I want your stories!!! I need more information, to help me better understand these women (& 1 man) in my family who are staying with there abusiers. They come to me & ask for help leaving. I have given money & shelter to these people. No abusier is coming onto my property.
But they always go back (URRRGG!!!!) It's like running back into a burning building!!! I just don't under stand.

Why do you (or did you) stay? Do you have children with you abuser, If you left what was your breaking point & how did you get out?

2006-11-16 17:02:47 · 9 answers · asked by justaskme 3

She says she has her period...which is bullshit b/c her menstral peiod is 26-31.... but how can i prove she lie to me? what else. women help!

2006-11-16 17:02:42 · 18 answers · asked by roger po f 1

I am 15 years younger than him, I'm 20, he's 35. We've been married for 3 years, and we are very happy and in love and enjoy each other's company. My husband works alot though, and even when he comes home he is still on his lap top, and making phone calls, sometimes until 10:00. I think i'm attractive, i don't have that many issues with my body, i work out 5 days/week, lift weights, have done competitive sports for years (it was at one of these races that we met at) I'm not overweight or anything. I know that he likes muscular butts, but, he always says that i have such a nice one, i don't know, he just hasn't seemed attracted at all over the last year i guess. i do have small boobs, and that is one thing that i'm self concious about, he says he doesn't mind though. but, i don't know. like tonight, i shaved everywhere down there, and i'm usually just trimmed, i put peppermint lotion on and was walking around naked, and not so much as a glance. makes me feel awful, whats up?

2006-11-16 17:01:32 · 10 answers · asked by Hannah A 1

A man and woman just got married and it's their wedding night. They're in their suite and beginning to undress for the night's festivities when the husband tosses his new bride his pants and tells her to "put them on."
She gives him a strange look thinking he's kinky but places her legs in them and pulls them up. Of course they're way too big.
"I can't wear these!" She exclaims.
"Yeah, and don't you forget who does!" He says back at her.
The new bride can't believe she married a chauvenistic prick so she removes her panties and tosses them over to him and orders him to put them on.
He tries but can't get them past his thighs and says;
"I can't get into these!"
So she replies with a smirk.
"Yeah and you never will until you change your attitude Mister!"

2006-11-16 16:59:18 · 9 answers · asked by princessslave 2