I have a one yr old son. His dad is having a gf right now. We're not married so its ok for me if he have a gf right now coz i know I dont have the right. I told my ex-bf that while i am alive and my son doesnt know how to decide her new gf cannot play nor touch my son. Is it ok? Do u think im so rude?
2006-11-16 18:18:21 · 16 answers · asked by gandache19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cant stop the new girlfriend from playing with your son if he is visiting dad...Even the courts would say you cant say anything about it unless there is abuse going on...
2006-11-16 18:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not rude! i would feel the same way i have a 3 year old now. he is your son, u dont know the new gf and whether she is not psycho or what. so you are being rightfully protective. she has no right to come in contact with your baby if you dont want her to. and even though it is a bit young for him to realize a person coming in/out of his life once he gets to be about 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 he will start realizing that there might be an extra adult in his life from time to time and not know what to think or who to trust and why do people i like keep leaving?
2006-11-16 18:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think you are being rude. It sounds like the ex has moved on. He will be bringing new people into your childs life as you will. I think it is okay to have boundries put on who can have an influence on your child. So maybe she can be with the child playing etc but not alone. I think that is important for all young children to be supervised by a trusted adult until your more comfortable with the gf
2006-11-16 18:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by debblw2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are right. If this is your ex new gf and your son sees your ex than why would you say his gf can't play with your son. You should be happy that she wants to. This is only going to cause problems with you and your ex. And make things worse for your son.
2006-11-16 18:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it's OK. Because she just only want your bf not your son. But the problem will occur if your son becomes closer to her than to you. Then you will not able to close to him again. So, you can let your son close to somebody but you have to sure that your attention and loving care with him are more than others.
2006-11-16 18:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u are rude but correct in ur place. but all this is going to create problems for ur son. so be clear with ur bf first. then only u can take some firm steps
2006-11-16 18:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today we have to protect our children as never before. So if you don't know the new girlfriend then l feel you have the right to say who touches your son.
Maybe if you met with her you would be able to relax knowing your son is around her.
2006-11-16 18:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by cailieco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always, and I do mean always think of your child. I got divorced and was gripping about my soon to be ex-husband. My seven year screamed from the back sit....."Please Mom don't make me choose between you and my dad, I can't do I just can't." I swear to you from that moment on.....my feelings took a the back sit. I never spoke bad about my children's father. If he was dating someone....I would watch and listen....to make sure they were being treated right. I also raised three step kids who's mother did the same. We managed to raise 7 kids who all felt loved and cared for. No matter how bad you feel..........remember our mistakes...divorce, wrong boyfriend, girlfriend or whatever, should not be the shame of our children.
2006-11-16 18:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by texasue77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless, your ex boyfriend marries his girlfriend, then she will become your child's step mom so then she has the right to baby or mother your child.
If your ex-boyfriend doesn't marry his girlfriend, then make it clear to your ex, that your child will not be around his ex girlfriend because children can be emotionally attached. If your child visits your ex, make sure that your ex is the only person that sees him and not his girlfriend.
2006-11-16 18:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way, yes. that woman may, one day, become a permanant part of this boys life, as well as the man you wind up marying. so, why not, just dont allow her to play too much, the child will form an attachment. it's all phsycological. just allow her to see him once in a while, nothing too serious. WAIT!! why is SHE in YOUR house??!! That is not where your ex belongs, especialy with his new girlfriend!! (sorry, change of heart)
2006-11-16 18:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋