I am living with my parents and my husband. I am desperate to get away from my husband and my parents prefer that he stays with them. He is on parole, holds no job, is an alcoholic, and has agoraphobia. I go to school full-time and work 20 hours a week. I have filled out paperwork to get housing assistance but it could be months before I hear anything about that. In the meantime he is making me crazy and I am becoming mean and sleeping 12 hours a day. My grades are slipping. I screamed at my parents today and almost got thrown out. I've applied for counselling and have an appointment next month. How can I get through this? I can't live like this anymore!
2006-11-16 18:17:18 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for your answers. My parents won't make him leave. They prefer him to me b/c they feel sorry for him. Can one go to a shelter like was mentioned if you haven't been physically abused? I would go anywhere to get out of this house. Yes, I do have a son and this is taking it's toll on him too. He wants to go with me wherever I go but I don't know how to provide for him. If it were just me I would leave this house and never look back, but I don't want to make a child live in a car.
2006-11-16 18:55:43 · update #1
You don't mention if there are kids involved, so I will assume that there are not. Run fast and Far, ASAP..... Your parents aren't helping they are enableing him to be a deadbeat bum, and trying to force you to stay in a marriage, that you obviously no longer desire to be in, (I wouldn't either). If you feel trapped call a local domestic violence shelter or the national hotline number. Psycological abuse doesn't leave bruises, but the scars it leaves on your mind and the damage it does to your self esteem is far worse than any bruise. You ARE being emotionally abused... If you are in a situation that is making you mean, and making you lash out at folks, you are definitely suffering. My advice??? Cut the ties to the husband AND the parents, they are doing you NO favors. Starting over is never easy, but trust me the piece of mind is worth any struggle, any reservations you have. Good Luck sweetie...
2006-11-16 18:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by mlw6366 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb..There's only one thing holding you two together and it's a marriage license..Divorce him,get out of mom and dad's house as soon as you can and make this situation history..
2006-11-17 02:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your marriage is non existent, can you stay with other relatives? It looks to me that you need to get out of the marriage unless you really love him, then he needs to make the decision to get help and get better, all I can say, if you can't stay with other relatives or friends is to tough it out until you get approved for the housing. Sorry if i wasn't any help. good luck. :)
2006-11-17 02:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your parents see what he is doing to you? Can you go stay with another family member or friend? Try to do that if you can. Best of luck.
2006-11-17 02:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET traditional counselors... find a good church with a pastor who does counseling for free.... they do it cause they want to help, and they have the right guidance to help (God)...Good luck and God bless!
2006-11-17 02:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to just tell your man to beat it.
2006-11-17 02:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just give him divorce.
2006-11-17 02:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by rajan naidu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋