Marriage & Divorce - 16 November 2006

2006-11-16 03:25:15 · 10 answers · asked by matasanos 1

Most of my questions asked have been pertaining to this matter. (See my archive of questions) BUT ANYWAY, my soon to be ex is home......our divorce hearing is in May. Though I still have love/feelings for my soon to be ex, I will be there in May to end this.

As stated in the question title, while he was away, his cousin and I found ourselves enraptured with one another, and because my marriage was a horrible one, and my soon to be exhusband is not a pleasant or respectable person.........the relationship with his cousin, which started out innocently as ONLY friends, and occasional conversation.....eventually budded into love, admiration, appreciation, etc. Though now that my soon to be ex is back home, he has no idea about his cousin and I.

The first few days were rocky, but now we are able to talk, and be civil. There are still occasional arguments......but more than that is the INTENSE physical attraction we have always shared. I have actually had 'sessions' with him twice --

2006-11-16 03:23:52 · 6 answers · asked by lilac b 3

i am planning to marry but, here lies my major problem

2006-11-16 03:19:07 · 15 answers · asked by barona 1

I have been with my husband for over twenty years, however in the last year I have become increasingly aware of the differences between us. I like to go out, try new things, socialise. I like the cinema and music, exercising and generally life. My husband on the other hand doesn't do anything, won't try anything new, he works away a lot and when he is around we don't have anything to talk about. On one hand I am afraid to leave, afraid of the unknown. But on the other hand I dread the prospect of retirement with him. I do love him but I am beginning to think that is not enough. I am confused. When is it time to leave?

2006-11-16 03:15:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

But about 5 months ago, he left his company and decided to start a business. Well, he actually began 12 companies and is working on a 13th. He is a workaholic, and that is fine if thats what he wants. However, he is using our home as his office and people are in and out at all hours (as early as 7:30am and as late as 2:00am) almost always without any notice. I am stressed as we have two very active twin boys that are in elementary school. I have very little privacy or home life. It is wearing on me that I want to cry all the time. My husband will not listen to my concerns or respect any rules (nobody in home until I get boys off to school). He gets angry and shouts. To make it worse, his employees know everything about us: Whats in our refrigerator, when we pay our bills, who calls, etc. and they gossip about us...which really upsets me as we have been so open and giving. Any advice???

2006-11-16 03:13:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-16 03:10:28 · 6 answers · asked by taylorsmom534 1

2006-11-16 03:07:50 · 3 answers · asked by VIC2 1

My wife and I work real hard and she does not get mush time for herself. Because us boys are always at home when she get home from work about 2 year now I had been setting time for my wife to have some her time away from us kids and I find it very good for my wife and I relationship. Does anyone other then me do this?

2006-11-16 03:07:41 · 4 answers · asked by celticdragon 6

I'm 16 and i just became engaged

2006-11-16 02:58:20 · 23 answers · asked by bigmizener 1

2006-11-16 02:55:06 · 3 answers · asked by e_pauley 1

My wife is a teacher and she does have a track record for infidelity. The other day I was going through the phone bill on the cellphones and noticed some numbers that I was not familiar with. When I did a reverse look up on the net it was the number for one of her students mom. She is notorious for calling parents to talk to them about their kids grades, but I casually asked her and she said she had not called any parents this nine weeks.I have tried to forget the past and not be some jealous husband but her actions keep causing me to wonder.I heard this boys name mentioned at the end of last year in a message one of her female students sent her saying "kez wants to see you". Her reply was "tell him I will see him at his work". I can forgive her for being with another man when it happened in the past, but to me this is a kid and I feel like she should face the rath of the legal system if she is screwing one of her kids, it is not right. Help me! how can I catch her without her knowing.

2006-11-16 02:53:56 · 27 answers · asked by Best answer 2

This is just something I have often wondered about.
We know mens first is sexual. Is the same true for ladies.
Some might say that my statment about guys is not always true so to test it guys what do you think when you see an attractive ladie?

2006-11-16 02:51:57 · 29 answers · asked by Brian 5

2006-11-16 02:46:18 · 21 answers · asked by Sarafriday 1

My wife had an affair; first it started emotional then turned physical then turned into a big mess. She claims she got caught up in the moment and stopped thinking about the family and was acting selfishly for a few months. I am also man enough to say I can take fault for particular things, but by no means condone or justify what she did to me and our family. To start off with we became partially detached for a while we worked different shifts, only seen each other for an hour or two a day, the times we did spend together I was buried in books trying to finish my degree, and due to financial constraints we rarely got to go out. With that being said I always remained faithful and committed to our marriage. I am very conflicted because I still have feelings for her and she still says she loves me, but this is very hard to deal with. We also have a daughter together she is seven. If that was all of the story I probably would still be at the house now working on the marriage, but as they say the plot thickens… She is pregnant and most likely it is not mine. I feel like I am so helpless right now, I cant seem to make a decision either way. I want to remain a family, but will it ever be my family again? Will I ever be able to be happy raising something that is not mine? Will I ever be able to fully love my wife again? Will I ever get over the fear of her cheating again? I am so weak right now and cant seem to find the answers.

2006-11-16 02:43:40 · 17 answers · asked by cheeks230 3

im sorry i did not specify that my husband and i had so many
problems at our appartment that we moved into when we got married we had to end back up at our parents house and were
are going to buy us a new home in january so thats how my mother comes into my room and barther me. but all of your answer were the best! and i thought that in the first place but
i did not want to be mean and rude to my mother. all of your
answer are good and i can take critisms im weak to my mother
but this is the first time my husband has ever been mad as
hell with me because of what i confronted him with. he has
always talked to me no matter what our problem was. i have
no problem with admitting that im wrong. i want to appoligize
to my husband now but he will not listen or answer my
call or text i really feel bad and i did not mean to hurt him
i will make a vow today and i already have when this mess
started to not listen to my mother about my husband anymore
we have a good life .

2006-11-16 02:40:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married to my husband for 4 years and have been faithful. He is serving a life sentence and may never come home. I love him, but I am very lonely and need companionship. I am all he has in his life. I know that if I divorce him he will be destroyed. What should I do? Compartmentalize my life? I don't want to be out of his life, I just need more than he can give me. It is all so confusing and I don't want to hurt him. Give me input please.

2006-11-16 02:39:54 · 26 answers · asked by Sue P 1

i want to know if my man is cheating on me.

2006-11-16 02:38:58 · 8 answers · asked by murphy 1

Don't you think there are a few really nasty people on this site...?

2006-11-16 02:38:10 · 19 answers · asked by dawn 3

When my wife and i have make love i can go for hours at in, but when i get ready to have intercourse and i put it in her i only last for a minute then it goes limp. And i cant get erected for awhile. This is not fair to my wife what should i do to cure this problem?

2006-11-16 02:37:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

i moved in w/ my best friend of 5 yrs from college and since we have been living together it has been strained. We had a big blowout 6 months ago and have pretty much lived separate lives. We barely spoke. We talked about it and are trying to start over from trying to open the lines of communication. The thing is, I feel like I can't tell her anything and that it is very hard to tell her what is going on in my life b/c she uses it to her advantage and manipulates situations, which is why we started to not talk to begin with. She deliberately tried to break my boyfriend and I apart and started spreading things that were untrue. I don't think I can trust her again but trying. Just not working

2006-11-16 02:37:23 · 18 answers · asked by coolgirl729 1

Been married for 5 years, together almost 10. We started out very happy & in love. We have grown apart as some do....have been to counseling about 4 years ago. Both wanted to save the marriage....it seemed to help. But last couple years have been trying & I think it is now getting worse by the day. I love him but am not sure I am in love anymore & it tears me apart inside. He has been my best friend & love him with everything, would do anything for him. Unfortunately I don't feel it from him.Says he loves me but I really have hard time seeing/feeling it anymore.
He walks in front of me, wouldn't notice if I got hit by a car. TV blaring so I can't sleep at night..a lot of disrespect. I feel invisible, useless & ugly. No romance & no intamacy for at least a yr. Teases me like a little sister. I miss what we had but am unsure I want it back which kills me to even think about. Can't imagine being without him but I can't go on like this either.Have told him but he doesn't seem to care.

2006-11-16 02:29:52 · 16 answers · asked by purple 2

2006-11-16 02:25:22 · 10 answers · asked by amy r 1

Can divorces me done online and then sent to the other spouse? What if there are 3 children and not much money in the mix?

2006-11-16 02:23:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

iam 32 years old and i just got married on may 25,2006.
i finally moved out on my own. before i moved out when
my husband and i were dating, when we had a disagreement
my mother seems to know. she would come in the room
and hound me about my business with my husband. i dont
go to my mother with my problems between me and my
mate we always work them out. my mother forces me to
tell her whats going on then she starts jumping to conclusion
and planting negitive thing in my head and i always go back
and confrotnt my husband on account of something my mother
told me when she dosent even know what our situation
or business is because i dont tell her. well i confronted my
husband recently on something she said now he wont speck
to me or have anything to do with me and its hurting me.
i know whats going on between me and my husband my
mother dosent know the truth about our business. but she
always has something negitive to say everytime we have
problems. iam i wrong or is she?

2006-11-16 02:22:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-boyfriend informed me that he was getting married. I told him that i was'nt happy for him and he wants to see me so we can talk. I don't feel like hearing his reasons for not marrying me but i know that if i see him i might cheat on my husband. Please what should i do? i think i still have feelings for him

2006-11-16 02:15:32 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend is active military and stationed in another state. We are talking and would like to live together. I am nervous about leaving my home and starting over, you know doctors, schools, all of the things I am used to. We are in a committed serious relationship. He also will be deployed again soon, this summer. I love the area where he is at and I know that we will be together because we have made it through one deployment already, and even though we are 5 hours drive from each other, we still see each other every weekend he is in the US. It is getting expensive to travel all the time however. We have an absolute blast together and we were friends way before he did the military thing, but I guess I am wondering if it's going to be hard. Anyone had any experience with this? He will probably continue with deployments, etc., but even though its hard I love this man so much I can't imagine not having him in my life.....any advice?

2006-11-16 02:15:07 · 4 answers · asked by hooahgoarmy 1

iam a 32 year old woman and i just got married on may 25, 2006.
my mother was not happy from the get go when i finally got married and moved out on my own. when im having problems with my husband or disagreement which are not very serious ones it seems like my mother always knows when we get into a
disagreement. iam married and grown now and i learn
to take care of my own problems and responsibilities and
i dont go to my mother with my maritial problems because
she has her own problems. my husband and i alway work them
out. but it seems that every time we have ups and downs
my mother comes into my room and hounds me about
whats going on between us, she puts her two cents in
not know what our situation is and i always listen to
my mother and confront my husband on account of
what she is putting into my head. now my husband
dosent want to have anything to do with me because
i accursed him of something my mother put in my head.
im i wrong or what?

2006-11-16 02:14:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am seeing a great guy who is currently going through a divorce. On average, how long does this take?

2006-11-16 02:14:06 · 14 answers · asked by Natalie_276 2

I just want to know if I can able to get a copy of the insurance policy of my husband and me as the beneficiary from where my husband is working. My husband is a fireman and two years ago we went to the Department of Fire at the City Hall and he put me as the beneficiary to his insurance policy. My husband is still alive. I just want to get a copy of the insurance policy and me as the beneficiary. I'm just doubting because we argue once and he might remove my name as the beneficiary and he put his adult kids from his ex-wife.
I want to know if he doesn't remove my name. Can I get a copy from the City Hall Department of Fireman Insurance Office/Finance eventhough I'm the legal wife. I just want to know if I'm still the beneficiary and never remove my name.

2006-11-16 02:10:55 · 4 answers · asked by pinaysapinas2004 1

2006-11-16 02:09:29 · 19 answers · asked by MICKEY M 3