i moved in w/ my best friend of 5 yrs from college and since we have been living together it has been strained. We had a big blowout 6 months ago and have pretty much lived separate lives. We barely spoke. We talked about it and are trying to start over from trying to open the lines of communication. The thing is, I feel like I can't tell her anything and that it is very hard to tell her what is going on in my life b/c she uses it to her advantage and manipulates situations, which is why we started to not talk to begin with. She deliberately tried to break my boyfriend and I apart and started spreading things that were untrue. I don't think I can trust her again but trying. Just not working
2006-11-16 02:37:23 · 18 answers · asked by coolgirl729 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to her in person, whether or not it's awkward or emotionally filled.
you were best friends for a reason... moving in together sometimes strains those relationships, but it shouldn't be the end of the friendship.
she is worth it, so are you. so try to reach out to her this way. if her heart softens, great. if not, at least you tried and you should keep the invitation of friendship open for her to give her some time to mull on it. once you've done everything you could to make things right, you will be able to walk away knowing you did what you could.
tell her you are sorry of what happened between you two, you care about her and love her, and in order for you two have any friendship to salvage- you both need to live separately. it'll take a while, and things may never be exactly the same (and you definitely don't have to have her as a BEST friend, especially if you have lost trust in her), but time WILL heal things. It will be awkward/difficult to do, but it has the best possible outcome. good luck and God bless
2006-11-16 06:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her face to face and also send an email and keep it for your records so you have proof of it. Legally, you have to give a 30 day notice to vacate in most states and it should be in writing. Do this the right way. If you are working on opening up the lines of communication, you should definitely talk to her face to face. You'll have the email just in case since you aren't sure about the trust level right now.
2006-11-16 02:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the dreaded living with your best friend situation. It never works, or least it didn't for me in college. I had the same issue with one of my friends/roomies and she was simply unaproachable after a few months..
I wouldn't write it down in an e-mail, but a simple hand writen note is showing a little bit of respect and a little more personal. You will look like th ebugger person.Truly explain that the living situation is not a healthy one and explain to them what you said to us. Try to pay for the next month of rent after you move out as a gesture and to give them time to find a new roomate or give them a chance to move soemwhere like a 1 bed room place.
Best of luck
2006-11-16 02:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key thing there is "ex" so do it however you feel best. Just be sure you cover yourself legally if there is a contract involved. If she is the only one requiring notification a return email from her would do the trick as that would acknowledge receipt however be sure the lease isn't renewed! Move on and get on with your life a backstabber will never change.
2006-11-16 02:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, explain to her in the email what you just said about why you couldn't tell her face to face, and give her a far enough in advanced notice.
I had a similar situation when i moved in with a friend, and she was trying to sleep with my man when i left for work and started spreading rumors about thing i was doing knowing i didn't have time to do anything but work and school. When I left I just packed and left, didn't say a word to her or even tell her i was leaving. Shady gets shady as far as I'm concerned.
2006-11-16 02:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-mail is not a good way to end things. Just have a talk with her...tell her you think it is best if you move on. It would save the friendship if you no longer lived together.
2006-11-16 02:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the owner is unfastened to hire to everyone the owner needs. the owner needs to offer you the two with a termination of hire by utilising the 10th month of the hire. - no rely if that's previous that, she will stay to tell the tale a month to month, yet he grants 30 days hire termination on the 1st day after the top of the hire (so which you will have lived there 13 months). He can then start up a sparkling hire with you, the two a protracted tenancy (ie. set era of months) or month to month yet I recommend something in writing between the two considered one of you. If she does not leave on the top of the hire, the owner will would desire to pass by way of formal eviction tactics. 3-day observe (or in spite of the time is on your state), accompanied up by utilising suing her in courtroom, accompanied by utilising a sherrif lockout etc.
2016-10-15 15:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by wheeington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda like when Radio Shack emailed their people that they were fired - kinda tacky - try taking a minute to let the person know personally. You'll be glad you did.
2006-11-16 02:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Been there 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just politely say that you are moving out. Email will create communication gap.
2006-11-16 02:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to give her an advanced notice---LEGALLY.Call the landlord and ask. It will depend on the state that you live in.Are you on the lease? You may have to notify the landlord also.Make sure that there's not legal action that can hurt you later......Good luck..
2006-11-16 03:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋