Should i cheat on my husband?

Question

My ex-boyfriend informed me that he was getting married. I told him that i was'nt happy for him and he wants to see me so we can talk. I don't feel like hearing his reasons for not marrying me but i know that if i see him i might cheat on my husband. Please what should i do? i think i still have feelings for him

Answer 1

Do you love your husband? If you love him you should not take the chance of loosing him just for a fling. Don't you think your ex-boyfriend is probably hoping you'll give him some before he gets married. He might just be running around to all his old girlfriends hoping to get laid by someone. Don't do it sweetie it's not worth it.

Answer 2

Talk to your husband about it... Be completely honest. Otherwise this will fester with you and contaminate your relationship with your husband. If you want to see your ex then work out something with your husband, even if he comes along.

Though he may be hurt that you have feelings for your ex, you might be surprised how supportive your husband is. And even if he isn't you are not hiding things from him.

Now, the one thing I am going to criticize you on is this. It is completely and totally crap that you wouldn't have self control around your ex. You don't choose your feeling but you do choose your actions. There is no "might" here. You have already decided that if you meet that you will have sex with him if the opportunity arises. You need to understand the emotional basis for the actions that you choose. These feelings have very little to do with how you feel about your husband but he needs to understand them and so do you.

Meet him only after you have had a full discussion with your husband and have worked things out with him first. Your responsibility, at this time, is first and foremost to your husband here unless you don't want to be married to him any more.

Answer 3

If you are married then you don't have any business talking to your ex anyway, especially if you think you still have feelings for him. If you are this confused then you need to talk with your husband about this and maybe even spend some time alone until you can decide what you want and who you want. Don't do something stupid that will affect a lot of people's lives.

Answer 4

I question your supposed love for your husband. People who are in love and are happy don't cheat, and don't let themselves be in a situation where they could be tempted to cheat, it really is that plain and simple.

Don't make this more than it is. Whether you love your hubby or not will be reflected in this decision. If you love your hubby then don't see or talk to ex-boyfriend. There is no conundrum or moral dilemma here, just your inability to let go of the past.

In closing, remember your ex-boyfriend is an ex-boyfriend for a reason. Perhaps you need to review the circumstances and facts surrounding the dissolving of your relationship with the ex-boyfriend again.

Answer 5

do you still love this man?
why have you married someone else if you do.
did you tell your husband the truth about your relationship with this man or did you decieve him into marriage by lying and claiming you loved him instead?
If this guy is willing to be marrying someone else than he isn't a realiable person to be with, granted, However you can't use other people in the proceeds of doing this.
Don't see him. time will draw it's own conclusion to this problem. Stay with your husband at present and wait for things to change. Attitudes of people change during life as we get older, at now i think things are very confusing for you. Leave this man to take responsibility for his own life and actions.

Answer 6

Then don't go see him...Why would you want to cheat on your husband...You need to sit down and think about this..Either you want your ex back or you want to stay married to your husband..No one can make this decision for you ...

Answer 7

Stop. Take a deep breath. You are a married woman. Your ex is in love with someone and about to get married (he couldn't marry you now anyway; you are taken). Do NOT go talk with him. BE happy that he's found someone to marry...YOU did!!! Your feelings are old ones and based on who you WERE. Not who you are now (a married woman). Don't risk losing your husband over this.

Answer 8

You already know the answer to this. If you still had "feelings" for your "ex" why did you marry your husband? You're jealous because he's going to marry someone else, that's why you told him you "aren't happy for him". He didn't "marry you" because he didn't "love you".

Anytime you look "outside" the marriage, for any reason, it's wrong, and it never solves anything. You should have taken some time for yourself "before" you got involved with someone else.

Marriage is based on love and respect. Obviously you don't feel either for your husband or you wouldn't consider "meeting up" with your "ex" for any reasons. You already know what will happen so why even ask?

I'd tell you to be honest and talk to your husband but I don't think you're capable of that. Good luck.

Answer 9

Stay away from him if you are thinking of cheating. He had is chance to ask you to marry him and now it is to late. You should not be unhappy because he is marrying someone else you should be happy for him. You chose to marry your husband and respect and be faithful to your husband. You do not want more drama in your life do you?

Answer 10

You need to leave your ex alone...you are married now! Let him move on with his life 2. Could it be the only reason you are not happy for him is because its okay for you to move on but you want him to keep himself open incase you decide your life isn't working out the way you wanted it to?
You are acting very selfish to the ex boyfriend and most of all to your husband!
And uhm isn't there some reason he is an EX?