But about 5 months ago, he left his company and decided to start a business. Well, he actually began 12 companies and is working on a 13th. He is a workaholic, and that is fine if thats what he wants. However, he is using our home as his office and people are in and out at all hours (as early as 7:30am and as late as 2:00am) almost always without any notice. I am stressed as we have two very active twin boys that are in elementary school. I have very little privacy or home life. It is wearing on me that I want to cry all the time. My husband will not listen to my concerns or respect any rules (nobody in home until I get boys off to school). He gets angry and shouts. To make it worse, his employees know everything about us: Whats in our refrigerator, when we pay our bills, who calls, etc. and they gossip about us...which really upsets me as we have been so open and giving. Any advice???
2006-11-16 03:13:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him to section off a room for an office for him to conduct business
2006-11-16 03:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how they know your business. BAsically it sounds like yall need to have some home management. Such as for one they should only be allowed in a certain part of the house. Period. Yall should have that esstablished already. I understand that sometimes you want to be nice, happy & friendly with your customers but there has to be a limit.
They shouldn't be sitting on the couch,using the kitchen etc. I undersetand how you feel because i dated Kasaun Henry for 3 yrs and we are still grrreat freinds. Anyway he has about 3 business dykon', The harlem World Talent Show etc. I helped him with his business as fas as ideas but i mostly handled the money. When we were living together it was a little bit too much for me to see a chic coming over at 10 pm to make a track and beat. Sometimes it can get out of control if they wanna usse the kitchen to keep something cold or if they want to put something in the fridge. etc.
2006-11-16 03:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not and would not tolerate a situation like that. He needs to take his work life somewhere else and let his home be a home. If he can't do this, then you need to get out of there. It's not a good environment for anyone! All he is, is a workaholic - he's not anything of a husband or father. You deserve better!
2006-11-16 03:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time that you called your husband on it. He has no right to have people invading your privacy and it's not safe! Tell him to either get a new office or get a new house because you won't live like that anymore. You need to tell him that you are proud of his success and you respect his career but you refuse to live in a hotel anymore, people in and out staying at all hours. Make sure he knows that you love him with all your heart and you just want him to be happy but it is stressful and if he's going to work from home, you need to have rules. Try to set some rules and if he refuses to listen to you or compromise, I hate to tell you, but you won't be in a safe situation. Take your boys and stay with a friend or with family until he clears the house out, or at least until he promises to work a normal schedule. You need to know that it's not healthy for you to be in that situation, or for your little boys, and it doesn't sound very healthy for your husband. Youneed to jus talk to him, and if that doesn't happen, take action! People have no right to be inconsiderate of your hospitality and you have every right to let them know that. It's your house, kick them out if you're fed up. I know this was kind of spastic advice, but I hope you follow it because I lived that way for a long time and I grew up pretty messed up.
2006-11-16 03:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his business' are starting to become profitable, it's time to get a small office space somewhere. If you're in a house with a garage, tell him to convert that into an office if he doesn't want to spend the money outside. Or take it into the basement and have a seperate entrance so people aren't walking through your house at all hours of the day.
2006-11-16 03:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a seperate room/area or door entrance so the employees can get to the room designated for work without disturbing you or your children... or get your husband to change his work hours... (I mean he does own the buisness so couldnt he change the hours) wouldn't 1 more hour of sleeping in be ok- i.e. starting work at 8:30am instead of 7:30am? (then the children would be out the door)
2006-11-16 03:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if u will fight with him on this topic it will make the situation worst.
as u have mentioned that he is a workaholic naturally he will give more importance to his work than Ur privacy ...
he wont understand til u give him a better option to think on .....
you can suggest him to shift his office at a better place which is favorable for his business which may help him to flourish
convince him ne how that its very unprofessional n not good for Ur image to have office at home
im sure he will listen to u if u show him that Ur asking him to shift the office for his betterment not Ur
2006-11-16 03:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by sonali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you are really going to have to work through. Its going to mean fights and not being happy. Dont cry about it, that doesnt mean **** to a man. They think we are cry babys as it is already. How about you really get firm with him! Get mean, Tell him... I didnt marry your workers and your work! I married you! Its time you start acting like a husband and a father to me and your kids. I dont feel like see your workers and hearing about work all the time. Where do I stand in all of this? Dont back down on it either!! Stand your ground. If it means dont talk to him dont make love to him. Dont kiss on him. ect. Do whatever it takes!
That really sucks, I hope the best for you and your family!
2006-11-16 03:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you can't handle this. Then pack a few days worth of supplies so you can go to a relative/friend's house. Or even go to a hotel/motel. He should definitely get the point that you can't stand this way of living.
What's the point of making money if you can't keep your family happy?
His family should be a more bigger reinforcer than money.
2006-11-16 03:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by joruaishiteru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is ask yourself do you really love him! Then you need to force him to sit down and listen to you. If that don't work ask your kids how they feel about there dad doing what he does and then tell your husband what they say and maybe they need to tell him there self. Then you decide to stay with him or leave him. Sometimes you have to make hard decisions for your happiness and your kids.
2006-11-16 03:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by Katie W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋