Serious answers please?

Question

My wife is a teacher and she does have a track record for infidelity. The other day I was going through the phone bill on the cellphones and noticed some numbers that I was not familiar with. When I did a reverse look up on the net it was the number for one of her students mom. She is notorious for calling parents to talk to them about their kids grades, but I casually asked her and she said she had not called any parents this nine weeks.I have tried to forget the past and not be some jealous husband but her actions keep causing me to wonder.I heard this boys name mentioned at the end of last year in a message one of her female students sent her saying "kez wants to see you". Her reply was "tell him I will see him at his work". I can forgive her for being with another man when it happened in the past, but to me this is a kid and I feel like she should face the rath of the legal system if she is screwing one of her kids, it is not right. Help me! how can I catch her without her knowing.

I wouldn't be asking a question of how to catch her if I was just making assumptions she has cheated on me before. She teaches 10-12 at a inner city high school and is a sexy 27 year old female. When I say kids I should say YOUNG MEN but never the less still students

Communication isn't the answer she denied the first affair until I had the guy(who was my bestfriend) in front of her admitting it. I want to trust her and I do love her I just don't want to be a fool and be caught looking dumb. This has nothing to do with me I stayed because my son deserves to be raised by a mother and a father regardless of her indesretions. But this is a totally different situation than last time!! To me anyway

Answer 1

You are right, this is VERY serious. This could ruin not only her career, but her life, even if it is not true. Accusations often can ruin a good person so be very carefull here. With that said, if she is messing around with one of her students you most defenently have to stop her and protect this child. I suggest you keep a close eye on her, on the phone records and write down what you know now, and anything which you discover while watching her. You have a responsibility to the child before her. I am so sorry you are in this predictament. It is a sad commentary on our society when our teachers destroy the trust between then and their students.

I know some teen boys do not look like teenagers, appear with mens bodies, but they are still children. Adults do not have a right to seduce chldren, and we all, as individuals have a social responsibility to protect our children.

This is a tough situation, watch her, write down what you find out so you have a record to present if it ever comes to that. If you must hire an investigater to follow her and find out the truth. You are right, if she is betraying and molesting a child, she needs to face the justice system and get personal help, as she is obviously sick.

I am sorry for the pain you are in, but am respectfull of your maturity and responsibility in wishing to do the right thing by this child. I hope it turns out not to be what you think it is, but I am afraid you have every reason to think the worst at this point.

Good luck and bless you for doing the right thing. We need more people like you who make the difficult choices in doing what is right, rather than avoid the mess, the discomfort, the embarresment, etc, and do nothing. I wish you the best and a wife who will treat you as you deserve, I hope you and she do not have children, but even so, you still have to do the right thing. often the right thing is the most difficult to do.

Answer 2

What kind of marriage do you have?
No trust, no open communications, no friendship...
Speaks a lot of about yourself.
Do you love your wife? If it's so, does your wife know about that?
You speak about her as you do not know her at all...
I think you have problem inside of your marriage, then of course, other problems will come from outside too...

Sorry to say that, but it seems like your wife has stronger personality than you are. In such situation women usually do not have real respect for their man. You have to be loving, but also must be strong and do what you are like a man have to do.
Gain respect from her whatever what, otherwise your marriage cost a big "zero" and your children will learn nothing, but unhappy, sick relationship.

Answer 3

Be discrete and mention Mary Kay &Debra.Like say did you see that they both got in WAYover their heads screwing some little boy.Mary Kay married her bue he is now only 22 or 23 has 2 children and stepchildren damn near as old as he.Also look how they discraced the family's

Answer 4

Forgiveness is about getting it behind you as well! If you still do not trust her there is still some healing issues as well as another deeper issue...I would be skeptical to..... your feelings are valid. Being insecure with the one you Love is very difficult!! As hard as it may be....keep an eye out...it'll unfold and you'll do the right thing! But remember you make the choice either way to take it or leave it. They both have consequences!Sorry about that! It must be hard.

Answer 5

Have you confonted her about it. If you show her the phone bill and ask her then maybe she will confess. I am not sure if she is guilty or not but you need to talk to her. I work in the education profession and we would go to our principal immediately if we suspected something with a student. Most cheaters never change their ways and you would be smart to get out while you can. If you dont call attention to this with her student then it will look to others as if you condone it. Please talk to her school.

Answer 6

Well First of all, what u need to do is ASK her she is ur wife. the both of u should be honest and trust worthy and if she is doing what u think she is then she most not be trust worthy and she is not the wife for u. BUT if u can't be honest with her and ask her WHAT THE HELL ARE U DOING. then i don't know what to say. u shouldnt want to catch her with out her knowing u should want her to know u CARE and tell her how u feel u can feel like a jealous husban ur her husban be all the jealous u want she is urs and only urs. I hope i helped if not im sorry

Answer 7

This is a touchy situation..You can't accuse her without proof and you can't get proof...I would just leep an eye on her and the phone records and if the number appears again then I would confront her with it...You can't report her to the school cuz you have no proof but just keep an eye on her

Answer 8

You could confront your wife about the number on the cell phone bill. You could explain that you didn't recognize the number and did a reverse look up. Or maybe talk to a few of this boy's friends, to see if he is staying after school alot for extra help from your wife. It could be simply that she is giving him much needed help with his school work.
I wish I could be more helpful.

Answer 9

Trying to find out if your wife has been unfaithful to you with a student of hers???? This should be a wake up call to you!!

I hope you are wrong about your wife's actions, however..... right or not, having to investigate what she does with her time is what your marriage has resorted to.....this alone is not good.

If you want to save this Marriage.....talk to her about some cancelling maybe, tell her how much you don't trust her!!

Good Luck to you..........

Answer 10

There really are other women out there, this isn't a good way to be living your life. If you have to look over your shoulder & hire a private investigator to follow her, how in hell are you suppossed to trust her? My advice, get out of the relationship...before you're too damaged emotionally to ever trust a woman again.