Marriage & Divorce - 16 November 2006

this will be my last question.intended for those of you out there who have been throught something like this.I have been married 14yrs I'm 32 and my wife is 33.we are still married and she is up north living with her parents but coming home soon or so she says.I found out she is having an affair with some guy in his twenties who lives with mommy and seems to be whispering candy in her ear.I'v givin her affection support and never abused her in anyway.we have a house together and 2 beautiful children together ,a daughter 12 and son 6 who she has taken with her to see her secret love,thats a big no,no dont we all agree?any way she can't seem to make up her mind at times about wether she is coming or staying up there,maybe because this guy has no foundation and is supposedly going through a divorce.she does suffer from deppresion and drinks alot.can I save my marriage,I want to,remember we have 14 yrs history together and I do not want to start all over agian.I want to grow old with them

2006-11-16 04:52:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

There isn't much more to say other than that. He hates me. We've been married for 10 years. We have 2 kids. for years now he's become more and more narcassistic. There was a time when he was depressed and verbally and emotionally abusive and dating other women. i eventually filed for a legal seperation. he since has wanted to make things work, however, has gone right back to treating me poorly. He seems to want me to fee like i'm this mean aulful person, but i know i'm not. he has no friends. i have tones! i know i am a much better person than he percieves me to be. he acts as if i annoy him. i don't want to get divorced, but how do I be with someone who obviousely doesn't want to be with me. how do get through the days with someone who doesn't speak to me or sleep with me. i think he has some seriouse control issues and simply doesn't respect me or women in general. i feel like he's play so many mind games. i feel like he's plotting against me to some how take my children from me.

2006-11-16 04:43:55 · 26 answers · asked by goodtalkin' 1

I am happily married with 2 kids..6 & 8 years.
We are financially able for me to stay home.
BUT
I work from home making xtra money by sewing boutique clothing...sometimes 30 hrs. week..sometimes just 5 hrs...
I keep the house clean (okay okay.."picked up" )
Cook dinner each night, make hubbys lunch & breakfast each day.
Kids have dr.s appointments (dear daughter meets with therapists 2 times a week for some behavior & neurological disorders)..plus reg. appts.
cub scouts. PTA. Church missions group. Sunday school.
Of course then there is all other weekly stuff like groceries...laundry..homework & playing with the kids.
Oh..and i help take care & cook for my 77 year old grandma...
I'm exhausted!

BUT...it never fails~Someone asks me (Usually a female, once they've asked me where I work..and I say home..) at least ONCE a week... "DON'T YOU GET BORED?".

HOW on earth do you tactifullly handle this question...cuz i think i am about to start getting mean!

2006-11-16 04:43:15 · 52 answers · asked by Shakira 3

Is it inherently passive to be penetrated? Is it inherently non-active or non-passive to penetrate? What do women who have strap-on sex with their partners/bfs think?

2006-11-16 04:39:08 · 22 answers · asked by naiveidealist 2

How old were you when you lost your virginity..................................

(I'm not a sicko just tring to get a adverage age)

2006-11-16 04:34:05 · 37 answers · asked by DEBBY'S BABY 4

Wife left. Her name is on the mortgage. I don't want her back, I just need to know how I can get her name off of all of my stuff, like mortgage and other household bills. Can she legally come and go (into my home) whenever she wants?

2006-11-16 04:32:51 · 17 answers · asked by PhoenixRising 1

2006-11-16 04:29:21 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean, we all keep secrets but why can't we be honest to our husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend? Even innocent secrets can hurt, as well as, "small lies".

Why do YOU lie?

2006-11-16 04:29:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wife walked out after giving me an ultimatum. She wasn't even reasonable to ask me to do something that I just can't do. Then she calls me just to say hey and tell me that she misses me. What's up with that? Does she want to work things out now or what? She won't say what's on her mind, never has.
What do yall think?

2006-11-16 04:27:34 · 12 answers · asked by Wondrin Dude 3

My husband and i have been married almost a year and dated 6 months before marrying.We have a 3 month old daughter together. But our relationship is not going well and has not for a while he has a very bad temper and can be verbally abusive. The worst thing he has ever done is to pin me to a wall and to shove me but i was angry with him for leaving for 3 days without a word.Another problem is he holds it over my head that my family is well off (upper middle class) and he does not respect them and calls them names.Recently the police came to the house looking for him because they have reopened and investigation on a case (Homicide).I now my husband had a shady past but i thought that ended years ago when i asked him about it he would not answer.He did not come home again last night i called his mother to talk and found out when he was younger he was put in( jeuvy) was a drug dealer , a stole car/parts and was a memeber of Crypts?not sure who they are?what can i do?confused?

2006-11-16 04:26:38 · 30 answers · asked by Persephone H 1

I have known my husband for 6 years and we have been married for 4 years. I can say I am truly not happy and we have a 3year old and thats why we are together today. I like one of our friends and I just dont want to cause trouble between my husband and this friend, but I cant help what I feel. Tha said guy is very sweet and I have know him for about 7 years and we have never been more than friends. My husband has always given me everything I have ever wanted, but nothing I have ever needed.

2006-11-16 04:24:32 · 30 answers · asked by wvdevilgirl06 2

Can you just leave a letter and go?? Legally? of course morally you cant I wish

2006-11-16 04:15:10 · 29 answers · asked by jules 4

2006-11-16 04:14:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just curious to find out how many woman in relationships find it hard to trust their boyfriend/husband if they had children from a previous relationship when the other woman is extremely attractive?? What did he do to make you trust or not trust him??? Did you actually have communication with her or did you trust him enough to handle his business??

2006-11-16 04:14:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been dating this guy for about 6 months now I really like him and he has showed much affection towards me and he has told me that he has fallen in love with me and I feel the same way he also tells me I make him happy .... Now he is married but not happy and knows he has much to lose if he would divorce but I am in love with him now and I know I need to break it off and I know for me it is going to be difficult ... Can anyone help how should I go about this .... Now remember we have feelings for each other

2006-11-16 04:13:27 · 24 answers · asked by flipper 1

I have been seeing this lovely guy for just over a month now. He is 42 and i am 22. He has told me he loves me and that he wants to marry me/move in with him etc. He is a cop and even turned down a big opportunity to go away for a year(just so he could stay with me). So what i want to know is,do you think he's saying he loves me etc just to hold onto me(cuz i'm alot younger than him)or do you think he genuinely loves me?

2006-11-16 04:11:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married 8 months and notice my huband gives his 10 year old son more affection than he does me. He baby talks to him calls him baby and honey. Kisses his neck and tells him how much he loves him. At bed time he has to lay with him until he falls asleep. And in the morning wakes him up with hugs and kisses all over. The boy is with us 3 days a week. Is this normal?

2006-11-16 04:05:31 · 8 answers · asked by 1Spanky 1

even though u r married have u ever had a fantasy that made u feel kind of bad for thinking that way?tell me!

2006-11-16 04:03:16 · 14 answers · asked by nate's wife! 3

2006-11-16 04:00:34 · 6 answers · asked by ~*MiSS MiLLER*~ 2

From reading some of these questions, it is obvious that many people feel they are "stuck" in their marriage. No explanaion needed, but how many people would divorce their spouse if they "could"( if for whever reason they think they can't). yes for would divorce...no for would not. Just trying to get a poll on how many people are in unhappy marriages.

2006-11-16 03:56:41 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my loved one for 3 years now and have 2 beautiful kids. They are under the age of 2 and I think that it is crowding him. He is not the same any more with me, I try to do everything that I can for him but he still yells and treats me unfair. He leaves whenever he feels like it and leaves me with the kids an does not come back for days. When I ask him where he goes he just yells at me and tells me to leave him alone. He has put his hands on me and tells me he cant stand me. I have lost my friends and is always telling me I am dumb and when I tell him to help me with the kids he tells me no and that it is my problem and that i should have never had kids. I do everything for my kids from getting them ready to go to daycare to picking them up, even when he does not work or gets out early. Please advise.

2006-11-16 03:50:26 · 28 answers · asked by mickey16_60160 1

I have been in a serious realtionship with a woman for about 8 months now. She has been separated from her husband for quite some time (3-4 years). They have not gone through with an official divorce yet for a few reasons (some related to children and some financial).

Our relationship has gotten quite serious and we would like to get engaged in the near future, but I have also been saying "I'm not going to get engaged to you until the divorce is final". It just doesn't feel right getting engaged to someone who is STILL legally married.

This was not a big deal until a recent meeting with a lawyer has her now thinking the divorce would be another 20-21 months at which point we will have been dating for over 2 1/2 years. When the divorce was only 3-4 months away, my view of waiting to get engaged seemed reasonable..Now it's leading to tension..

Am I being ridiculous here?? Is it OK to get engaged to someone still legally married??

2006-11-16 03:45:24 · 15 answers · asked by ajmebay37 1

but I don't know how we should celebrate it - does anyone have any good ideas? (5 years)

I asked this in singles & dating but I didn't get serious answers, so since my bf & I are pratically married I thought I would ask again in this category

2006-11-16 03:39:28 · 11 answers · asked by River rock 3

2006-11-16 03:38:01 · 23 answers · asked by Andrea S 1

Other than the obvious (marriage vows). I'm trying to understand why some people will leave and some won't.

2006-11-16 03:37:46 · 14 answers · asked by charleston chew 2

2006-11-16 03:36:37 · 15 answers · asked by dominicaquilino 3

my partner left his wife 2yrs ago and he came to live with me but am still a secret coz he says she will bleed im dry and be acquired with the kids he did go back last year 3 times e asnt this year yet! will it ever be different will we be a normal

2006-11-16 03:35:46 · 50 answers · asked by purdy 1

2006-11-16 03:34:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am frustrated with my husband's lack of maturity or concern for anyone beyond himself. I feel like I need a break from him.

2006-11-16 03:32:32 · 17 answers · asked by littlelady 1

What are your considerations when it comes to dating a separated (heading for divorced) or a divorced man? I am currently separated (11 months) and heading for divorce. I made a lot of mistakes in my marriage some of which I have done counseling for and the goal is to be the best man I can be. I just recently started to try to make friends but not trying to move to fast while in the divorce process.

What I have experienced is women who don't want a man with more than 1 kid (I have 4 who are loved and well taken care of). I've run into the "players" who want as many men around them as possible. I don't have time for that. Etc. Etc. My point is that I would like to know what it is women look at when you encounter someone such as myself.

2006-11-16 03:26:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous