my partner left his wife 2yrs ago and he came to live with me but am still a secret coz he says she will bleed im dry and be acquired with the kids he did go back last year 3 times e asnt this year yet! will it ever be different will we be a normal
2006-11-16 03:35:46 · 50 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like he doesn't want to pay child maintenence or anything - loser. Sound like theoretically you area mistress but not really.
2006-11-16 03:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Katie G 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Mistress...hard to say. I'm not into labels or judgments. I understand how these things can just evolve and there never seems like a good time for him to tell his wife that it is really over and he has moved on. So, he is a chicken. This guy needs to grow a pair. He's been gone for 2 years, so the wife must know that he could be doing whatever...and he is...with you. Although it's been ample time, you remain his dirty little secret because he just doesn't want to deal with having to tell his wife and kids. It's the path of least resistance to just put it off until tomorrow. It's not as much the money as he makes it sound to you...his story is massaged in an effort to make you feel a certain way. If this really bothers you and you need it to change, then you'll have to make change happen. I suggest you move out until he comes clean to everyone with all this. He will either make it work or you'll be free from this quandary. I mean if he's a liar and a manipulator, then he is capable of doing the same to you later on. If he won't be up front with his wife and kids about his realities, then who needs it?
2006-11-16 03:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar situation only my dude is not married things c`hange if you have the patience to wait soon hell become tired i don't feel that you're the mistress if he is staying with you but no one wants to be a secret he's hiding you for more than just her bleeding him dry there is always a way around that like going to court and getting a divorce if they have not already. A dude always back tracks it's in their nature they think once they leave they are missing something but that's the way it is
2006-11-16 03:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not say that you are a mistress, but I would say that you need to pay attention. Things will most likely not change for him because you have proven to him that they don't have too. He gets to have you in secret and then go to her anytime he wants. You allow this to happen so there is no reason for him to change. Sorry!
2006-11-16 16:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Renoguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a wife and your not her so yes your a mistress. He's living with you but yet he's gone back to her a few times. What does that really tell you? He's either to cheap to pay what he'll have to pay when he divorces her or he doesn't want to divorce her. Why should he he's got it made how things are right now. Your there for him, his wife's there for him. You allow him to come back when he feels like coming back to you and he'll just continue to do this as long as you welcome him back.
2006-11-16 03:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistress/dirty little secret/bit on the side/ - hun WHERE is your self respect? Thats the most bullshit excuse Ive ever heard - his wife will bleed him dry - there are courts for this kind of thing and being perfectly honest - he left his wife 2 years ago - Im quite sure she couldnt give a continental about what he does or who hes with. xx
2006-11-16 03:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are a mistress, because if you were truly in a relationship with him, and were viewed as the number one and priority, then he would accept whatever came along with that decision. You are just the distraction, and pleasant ego boost he needs while the wife and him get themselves together and figure out their relationship.
No good. You should send her a letter with some photos, or a video tape. Tell on him.
2006-11-16 03:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you are a mistress to me
2006-11-16 03:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always be his second choice. He is never going to tell the wife about you because he is still lying to her as well. I don't know what's wrong with you, but you sound pathetic. How could you allow a man to call the shots? It's pretty sad you are allowing him to cheat on his family and won't put your foot down. If you are willing to put up with it, then you should be willing to be treated like crap. I'm sorry to be so blunt about this, but you shouldn't allow anyone to continue to lie to you and allow him into your bed knowing his family has no clue. You will get everything you deserve and so will he. GOD help you.
2006-11-16 03:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are a mistress. Ask yourself if this is all you deserve?
2006-11-16 04:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by tryinghard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your live-in lover. If he is still married to her, then of course he is committing adultery. 'Mistress', 'lover' etc are just words. Sort out what you want from this relationship and tell him!
2006-11-16 05:07:17 · answer #11 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋