I have been married 8 months and notice my huband gives his 10 year old son more affection than he does me. He baby talks to him calls him baby and honey. Kisses his neck and tells him how much he loves him. At bed time he has to lay with him until he falls asleep. And in the morning wakes him up with hugs and kisses all over. The boy is with us 3 days a week. Is this normal?
2006-11-16 04:05:31 · 8 answers · asked by 1Spanky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no jeleousy between me and my stepson. In fact he would rather spend time with me instead of his dad. And I love to see his dad express affection to his son. But my husband wants me to always be show affection to him and I would like some affection in return. He says he don't know how. Also his son has stopped talking like a 10 year old and talks like a baby all the time.
2006-11-16 04:53:52 · update #1
well why don;t you avoid him and pay attention to the kid to ignore your stupid husband i bet that will mess up with him and when i said ignore no kiss no hug no sleep together nothing and no talk to him to
2006-11-16 04:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes it is. He loves his son and is showing him affection, probably trying to show him that even though he is now married to you and not the boy's mom that he still loves him and that nothing will change that, that you are not a threat to him. You just need to talk to your husband and ask him to give you the same type of affection when his son isn't with you guys! Good luck, don't be jealous of the boy!
2006-11-16 04:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong or abnormal with what his is doing. Are you showing your son any love and attention? My wife and I have four children from our previous marriages and one of the best gifts she gives me is when she loves the girls. The girls came into the marriage with me and her son came into the marriage with her. The girls love her, because she loves the girls and for that I only love her more. Don't treat him like a step son, treat him like your son, love him like you gave birth to him and you will see your husband love you even more. My son and I were wrestling for 10 or 15 minutes in the living room, we had no idea his mom was there, we just kept having round after round and were having a blast. Finally we saw her standing there and I asked her how long she had been there...She smiled and just said, "Since round one"... She told me she could have watched us play like that all day long, so I know the same thing means a lot to her too... Why not tuck your son in some of the time, why not kiss him and tell him how much you love him, why not just the two of you go for ice cream because you want to? His daddy, your husband will love you for it...
2006-11-16 04:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i have a stepson as well, and my husband and i have hashed out many a time the emotions that are involved with having a child with someone else..... its a hard thing to cope with, and the bottom line is that being a step parent is the HARDEST thing a person could ever do.
so take pride in the fact that you are doing it, and do it to the best of your ability.. try to change your attitude concerning the child and try to think along the lines that children deserve that type of attention and its good to shower them with kisses when they are young, and when they have already had a rough time of it, going back and forth between households, and dealing with the changes of his fathers relationship with you, and on top of that, everything that his mom does.
i hate to say you are jealous of the child, but if that is what the emotion you are feeling is, you need to recognize that it is a VERY harmful emotion. it will turn into annimosity and hate and ultimately could destroy your marriage, so get the feelings in check.
2006-11-16 04:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, unfortunately, this is normal. Since the boy is only with you three days a week, Dad feels like he needs to overcompensate on the affection to make up for the times when he doesn't see his son. He may also want the kid to like HIM better than he does his Mom. Don't expect this situation to change. You can either become accustomed to it, or its time to bail.
2006-11-16 04:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by Harley 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No need to be jealous....he's just trying to make the child feel secure and loved. If more affection for yourself from your husband is what you want, maybe you should initiate. He may be unaware that you are feeling left out.
2006-11-16 04:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be normal for them. Sounds to me like you are just jealous. I was a stepchild and my stepmother resented every moment my dad and I spent together. She would praise her kids to him but point out everything I did wrong. Well, she finally succeeded in her endeavor. My father and I seldom speak and he lavishes her kids with gifts and attention. This boy is his son, don't try to get between them, after all blood should be thicker than water.
2006-11-16 04:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
no but not having a full time father and a step mom that is so insecure that's she is jealous of you either. i feel sorry for the poor boy
2006-11-16 04:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋