2006-11-16 04:00:34 · 6 answers · asked by ~*MiSS MiLLER*~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just need to realize that they will be happier apart than together.... Your life will still be good, you will just have to go visit the other parent that you don't live with. My parents got divorced when I was 6, and me, my brother and my sister were all fine... You just have to look at the big picture. It does have its advantages too...you get 2 birthdays...2 christmases...etc etc... If your parents are happy (together or not) your life will be better...guaranteed!
2006-11-16 04:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, let a LOT of people hug you (dont pull away). It's a very tough time. This is a major loss in your life just like a loved one dying. Go ahead and feel the pain. That is the only way to get through it to the other side where there is happiness again.
My parents decided they had enough of each other when I was 17 and sold our house, put me out on the street and disapeared. I could not even finish high school. I had to live alone and go to work. Nice. But now I have a degree in biology, a nice house of my own and two horses! You CAN get through this. And you will be stronger.
A lot of young people turn to drugs, drinking or something else to block out the pain right now. Dont. Feel the pain and get through it. Turn to friends. Talk a lot. Cry a lot. If you dont have someone to talk to - find someone. Go to a local chruch and talk to the minister. Find a support group in your area - groups are great cause you dont feel so alone. Tell your parents you want to go to a counselor. There are free/sliding scale counseling centers all over.
Most of all take very good care of yourself right now. Realise that you are going through a very hard time and pamper yourself. When your feeling better get into something new you havent tried before. Meet new people. Get your college degree!
And throughout your life remember that your parents have divorced each other - not you. Make sure THEY remember that and act like adults. If you want to see them together on your birthday or other special occation, tell them so. They need to grow up and get over it. They had you together and that will never go away. This may take time but it will get better.
You will be great. Hang in there!
Peace and Hugs!
Diana
2006-11-16 12:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Blondana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not say how long they have been married and how old you are.? If you are real small then you will not know much, if older it will hurt not to have them together. If mature then you will see how much better off they are apart from each other and then they can be better parents for you.
2006-11-16 12:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are your own person. Your parents will always love you Occupy your time with something to get your mind off the situation.
2006-11-16 12:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god, my dad is cheating on my mom, and she doesn't know.. its horrible but i kinda wish they got a divorce.. just that my mom wouldn't want a divorce ever.. so i don't know whats going to happen.. but i guess for you its better that they get a divorce then argue every day and for your parents to make your life even nastier then it already is.. sorry for you.. just try to be there for them i guess and don't forget they love you even if they don't love each-other...
2006-11-16 12:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by confused1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it..you cant change what you cant control.
2006-11-16 12:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by yourmygoodfeeling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋