Other than the obvious (marriage vows). I'm trying to understand why some people will leave and some won't.
2006-11-16 03:37:46 · 14 answers · asked by charleston chew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The one thing is kids an the other is they do not realy want to go threw the hurt
2006-11-16 03:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by bigdogrex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that some people stay in these marriages because they are scared of being alone, and they think that if they leave this one person even though they are unhappy they won't be able to find anyone else. Guess that stems down to low self-esteem and a feeling of low worth.
Also if they have children some people feel that they need to stay together so there children don't come a broken home, however what they don't realise is they are doing more harm than good to those children
Too scared to leave because of what the other person might do to them, especially if their spouse beats them up. You just don't know the abuser might have threatened to kill them if they do try and leave.
Also for many people it is a lot easily just to deal with it and get carry on doing the boring and unhappy things instead of leaving
Bottom-line is there are a number of different reasons, and each person reason is different.
However it is those people that find the courage to get out and leave that should be commended. Because they are doing something that they know if the long run will make them a lot happier
2006-11-16 03:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people stay because of kids, because of being stuck, financial reasons. The reasons are numerous. A lot of people that stay would rather be unhappy or bored rather than take the jump and leave.
2006-11-16 03:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Brian F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WAS in one that I wanted out badly and couldn't get out of. I was in it for 17 years. He was very abusive with me and I was scared to leave him afraid that he would come after me. I finally got my family and the state in it and they all helped me get out and I ran for my life and I do mean ran for my life. He did come after me with a gun. But things are better now that I am away from him. He was very abusive, controlling type of man. Once all the people were behind me and I felt safe enough, I got out of it and filed for divorce and after a year and1/2 went by, I finialy got my divorce. But he still harassed me even after I got the divorce from him for the next 10 or 12 years and nothing that I could do about it as I had his daughter. Yes I even had a restraining order put on him and it did no good, the police would just pat him on the hand and say don't do it again. I turned him in no less than 21 times for coming around when he wasn't suspose to be there. Once she got of age I stopped talking his calls altogether and moved yet to another place. Haven't heard from him now in over 2 years, (knock on wood)!
2006-11-16 04:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because although it isn't happy or is boring they have developed a comfort zone with that person.They are used to having that person around them. They also may not be able to leave that person. Sometimes, women depend on their husbands financially-that's who take care of them. Sometimes, when they try to separate they find themselves infactuated in thinking about one another,missing each other too much.
2006-11-16 03:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self esteem, fear, desperation, low self image, stuff like that.
Sometimes it may be a matter of them being used to dysfunctional relationships, it's all they know, so something 'better' doesn't come to mind.
They may feel that they cannot do better, or are afraid of being alone. It is all rooted in self esteem, and if they have someone who manipulates, and plays around with their head and emotions by validating their low image of themselves.....then they are basically prisoner to their own dysfuntional issues, and the person who knows how to push their dysfunctional buttons.
2006-11-16 03:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What amazes me is that people marry and assume their partner is going to change. Then when they don't, they say, "Oh my gosh we've been married 20 years and my husband is a complete bore and I don't know what to do."
It's absolutely ridiculous. You either accept your partner or you just don't get married. I think most people are just extremely dumb and incredibly desperate.
I'm glad to be married to a great guy.
2006-11-16 03:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are afraid of the unknown or being alone. Basically, what you do know always seems better than what you don't.
2006-11-16 03:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by littlelady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Comfort!
2006-11-16 04:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the above! Everyone has good reasons and I can't think of anything they haven't listed.
2006-11-16 04:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋