I am frustrated with my husband's lack of maturity or concern for anyone beyond himself. I feel like I need a break from him.
2006-11-16 03:32:32 · 17 answers · asked by littlelady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to take your vows seriously. You knew what kind of man he was when you married him. Find what it is you love about him and embrace that. Take some time for yourself and give time to miss each other. To many people take the vows for better or worse and don't live up to them. People also throw the word divorce around so lightly. You can't change anyone and you should have not gone into a marriage with that intention. You need to try to work it out because that is your responsibility as a married woman. Try to reconnect with him and accept his faults the same way he should do for you. Go on a vacation and try to find the spark that you had for him before you married him. Go to counseling if need be, but don't give up. If that is all that is bothering you then you have it good girl. All men are like that. My husband is the same way, but i love him and when i said for better or worse i meant it so when he is being a selfish jerk i tell him and he usually apologizes and makes up for it in some way.
2006-11-16 03:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that a lot of times when help is needed counselors are talked about. Well, that's what I suggest is a christian counselor. I have some friends who are going through counseling and their marriage is getting better. One of their first assignments was to just spend one hour in the first week communicating with each other. The next week it was to make a list of the things that they didn't like about each other. I know the wife didn't like it that the husband was always interrupting her for example. Just simple things like this can help your marriage. Seek help, especially if you have kids with him. Find something you can do together as a couple. Find that first love again that you felt the day you married him. Good luck, I sincerely hope that this helps you. By the way, there are books out there to help also. I recently bought a book that is about rescuing a marriage. Seek help from a religious minister or pastor and most of pray and ask God to help you.
2006-11-16 03:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a break is different than a divorce.... talk to your husband and tell him how you are feeling. He may not be aware that he is acting in a way you dislike. Honesty is the best policy. If he refuses to change , you will be forever fighting an uphill battle if you stay in the marriage. Advice is very easy for peole t give when they don't live each day in your situation. If you are unhappy, only you know what it will take to make you BE happy again. Talk to your husband and give him a chance to rectify things. If he does not or will not, you have to decide if his actions are something you can live with for the rest of your life....if not, it's better to cut your loses as quickly as you can. so that you can lead your life as happily as possible and the same be said for him.
Good luck!
2006-11-16 03:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well consider a seperation first. It may help him as well. You both will have time to think about things. It may help him with his problems as well. But if it doesn't work then I would say you are in need of a divorce. If you find yourself enjoying that time apart, then you are in need of a divorce.If you two lose respect for each other, and argue all the time then it is needed.
2006-11-16 03:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with a few days apart but only for it to be truthful and nothing unfaithfulness! Marriage is something to work at all the time. Work with yuor husband and try to get on the same page. Good luck and wish you the best!
2006-11-16 03:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by mamato5Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you do. If he doesn't care for anyone but himself then he needs time to grow up. Hence the lack of maturity. Tell him how you feel, if he doesn't care then you have your answer on whether to leave or not.
2006-11-16 03:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
needing a break is different from needing a divorce, so ask yourself some questions...
would you be ok with Never seeing him again?
are you fighting much more than you are getting along? are the fights ever physical?
are there kids involved? is the trouble in your relationship with your husband seriously causing them harm?
do you feel like you are losing yourself?
do your friends and family advise you to "lose the loser"?
i knew for sure i needed a divorce when my marriage was damaging me and my kids far more than it could possibly be helping us...
2006-11-16 03:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by waterlin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to get some counseling to improve things and you truely wants this to improve then I would say there is hope. If this is something he is not willing to do or you really don't want to try then I would first spend some time away and then make the final choice. Sometimes you just know when it's time to call it quits.
2006-11-16 03:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you need to do. If he is only worried about himself, then maybe you should do the same. Only you will ever know the right answer. Let your heart lead the way. Good Luck
2006-11-16 03:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by highrange101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a divorce is not a beak. It's a total break up. Go seek professional help (couple's thearpy) you know when divorce is the only option left when you have tried eveything on this earth to save your marriage. (if you want to)
2006-11-16 03:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by princesscutesmile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋