Marriage & Divorce - 15 November 2006

Am i wrong to be angry and feel betrayed? This is one of the many lies he has told me. He has been paying his ex-wife more than he told me for the past 12 years. Why lie? His kids and i have a great relationship as he has with mine. We spoilt them and i dont care how much he spends on them, im the first one to go over board when i go shopping with them we live in seperate countries so we make the most of it. We spend 1000's on flights and it doesnt bother me. The thing is he lied about the amount, then his son turned 18 and he said he would stop paying his ex-wife, (he didnt stop paying) but as i thought he had, i was ok with him giving his son money to live on, now his son is 21 with a job, he is still paying child support to his ex-wife cause his son lives at home. When is it my turn ?? It hurts me that he lied and it hurts me that he doesnt care to save up for our future togeather. He has lost a lot of money through bad debt too , sick of his lies now he is begging me to stay ,

2006-11-15 19:45:41 · 8 answers · asked by angel 2

2006-11-15 19:40:53 · 13 answers · asked by Ayoub K 1

And please don't give me any crap about revenge being a bad thing to do. I just want ideas to make me feel better!

2006-11-15 19:35:16 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think I will not tell him, I understam\nd that I did something that was wrong and I will get mine some way or another. I think that even if the other relatonship didn' t end the way it did I would have left. With everything in my life I have had to deal with my boyfriend is the one person that has been there through thick and thin. I have also been there for him while he was having problems of his own. I know in my heart that this will never occur again, . I know that some of you judge me from my mistake and that up to you I have told this to my mother and my sister and friends and they say not to tell him, I can not explain how I feel inside but it hurts. I have confessed to God what I did and have promised to never repeated it. I hope what I have choosen is right, But Thanks to everyone for taking the time to help me out,

2006-11-15 19:30:56 · 5 answers · asked by ashloveus 1

if i want to get divorce can i get a man who really cares me from deep of his heart,if so how can i find him and where can i .how can i believe him,i am 25 marrried before 3years,and i want to quit as i got wexed.help.

2006-11-15 19:27:52 · 6 answers · asked by saratvsb 1

My sister in law let my brother get into a hot tub without proper attire w/ other people who were also lacking proper attire why would anyone let their spouse do that?

2006-11-15 19:24:27 · 21 answers · asked by primamaria04 5

I have been recently married and living with my inlaws. yesterday, my mother in law severely reprimanded me calling me all kinds of bad names like 'bi*ch'/wh*re' and all.

My fault: I was wearing a pink nighty during evening inside the house (which my husband bought for me). according to me MIL, she can clearly see the outline of my bre*asts/pant*ies through the satin material..and I am "distracting" my father in law and brother in law by wearing such "bad" clothes.

Even if the outline is visible - so what? does it mean, they HAVE to look???? Am i to blame???

She is forgetting that her son bought it for me. Should i fight back or let it go?

2006-11-15 19:21:48 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-15 19:14:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-15 19:14:02 · 15 answers · asked by flavorlicious 2

2006-11-15 19:12:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

wanna divorce but feel pitty for him ..what should i do?

2006-11-15 19:11:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife every now and then digs up my past and reminds me about my ex-girlfriend. I dont like remembering the times that i've spent with my ex-girlfriend, b'coz the thought that i diched her hurts me (i had reasons to do so). I had an arranged marriage with my wife and have told everything about my ex to her, just to be truthful (i dont like to hide things). She is well aware that i am hurt when we discuss my ex. then why does she have to keep doing it? Please help me resolve this...

2006-11-15 19:09:48 · 23 answers · asked by RN 1

I am married person and i interested in chat through internet.
i want make new married girl freinds for chating and flirting

2006-11-15 19:02:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-15 18:43:13 · 10 answers · asked by Kane 1

My husband keeps getting a text message every morning between 7.30a.m and 8 a.m.Should I worried?He always keeps his mobile phone with him now

2006-11-15 18:41:57 · 21 answers · asked by JUSEve 2

Monday my husband and I went for a walk. I told him I planned on having my family watch our children while we went to a meeting the next day. He told me that was good I was teaching his mother a lesson. I told him,"You say that and then you change your mind." He doesn't stick to anything. He kept bugging me about talking to his mother about her having him again. I told him I'm dealing with too many things right now. We got home. Watched TV. I made us dinner. His cell phone rings. It's his mom. I asked why she was calling his cell phone and not our home phone. He told me he asked her to. Then he runs off into another room to talk to her. Later on he bugs me again to talk to her. I said,"Sure, when?" He tells me he doesn't know. Then she shows up!! She's crying. Trying to tell me that she told my husband that she told me that she had apologized for not feeding my son. (She didn't). Then she tried to blame ME for her not feeding him! What do I do?

2006-11-15 18:15:37 · 6 answers · asked by Jenna 4

Does age is a big problem between a relationship?

2006-11-15 18:12:42 · 10 answers · asked by Qucci 1

The sex is for the most part, great. But I can never get her to fully "enjoy" herself. Are there any tricks of the trade to get "her motor running?" Any help is appreciated greatly and the best answer will be chosen subject to whether it worked or not. :-)

2006-11-15 18:09:01 · 18 answers · asked by jokerscard692000 4

My husband and I have been married two years. In this two years.. he hasnt EVER tried to wine and dine me... or do anything romantic. Sexually... its all about him. I love sex with him... but here is an example of 99 percent of our sexual coitus... he rubs my butt for about 15 seconds... takes off my underwear and slides it in. If I want an Orgasm... I have to be on top and do it myself. I am 8 mos pregnant and we have a 10 month old daughter. Yes... pregnant for two years. I have put him down out of such anger and frustration.. I have told him he sucks in bed, has no ding dong... etc.... and that is also because he ran me down all the time in the past .., telling me how awesome his ex-girlfriends were. HE especially went on and on about this one girl that was so perfect... yet everyone if his girlfriends and ex-wife cheated on him. HE is really into himself. I sit on the ground talking to him... while he watches television, or playing on the computer. He is more concerned with how

2006-11-15 18:08:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anna Q 1

I want it to be something really special and memorable....budget no constraint...but at the same time not very expensive too.

2006-11-15 18:05:43 · 12 answers · asked by MK 1

Hi... I've been friends with this bengali muslim girl for more than year already and we see each other in school... and recently for the past 2 months we've been calling each other everyday and talking for 2-3 hrs every night about anything and everything and she is someone I can see myself with. However, she's muslim and she can only marry another muslim I think? I never brought up about me liking her or what not.. but I just really like her company and I would do anything for her. Can anyone give me any thoughts on this and if there are any muslim girls, can you please give me your opinions? I'm chinese and I would marry her, but I wouldn't want to bring it up until I get some clarity on this issue because I wouldn't want to jeopardize what we have now. Also, I noticed in school, she doesn't really talk to me much when her muslim friends are around. But when they aren't, we would always talk... And I would also like to know if us talking so much on the phone means anything. Thanks!

2006-11-15 17:58:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am unhappily married. I have children though. My wife is excellent, though she has betrayed me in the past, a very long time ago if the truth be known. However, I have a problem with forgive and forget. I feel as if my life is contaminated by another man's sperm. I am sickened by all of this. I am sick from it. BUT, I don't want to leave my children and like I said, she is great to me now. And even when it happened, we were separated. But I just don't know how to let go and as a result, I just don't know what I want. I do know that I hate KNOWING what she did over 10 years ago. I am absolutely sickened by it.

What the HELL am I going to do?

2006-11-15 17:57:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just married, lived together 4 years, dating since H.S., we are in mid 20's, love her to death...but our sex life is not there..
EX. We have not had sex since we have been married (several months) truthfully we havent had good sex since we dated in High school. I treat her like a queen> i get her cofee every morning, I make dinner 97% of the time, buy her flowers, candy, wine constantly. she always says i am "sooooooo sweet" even her mother tells me i am the best thing for her.....but at the end of the night she is ALWAYS "too tired". I try foot massages and back rubs but it always ends up as "you just wanted sex didnt you?"
and she actually gets mad at me because i tried! She says from time to time she does not want kids yet so it is "not worth it" even though we use condoms.
I am stumped people anyone else in this same bind????

2006-11-15 17:55:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband of 15yrs,had a affair with a 18yr old he is 38 with 4 kids,he told me he loves me but not in love with me when it happened.but wanted to stay so we could work it out,yesterday nearly 12months on i find out he is still seeing her,he says they are just friends nothing has happened,now he does want to go,and leave me with 4 small children,part of me belives she is dragging him away,i really do still love him or am i just scared of being alone.what hope does he have with her.

2006-11-15 17:51:26 · 11 answers · asked by chris b 1

should i ask this question to him. my wife says that if controled her surgar the baby will be born healthy i really hope that is true.

2006-11-15 17:41:50 · 18 answers · asked by Barser k 1

I did w/ my husband. Then I woke up and asked him why he stopped.

2006-11-15 17:38:52 · 13 answers · asked by uknowme 6

2006-11-15 17:37:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married two years. In this two years.. he hasnt EVER tried to wine and dine me... or do anything romantic. Sexually... its all about him. I love sex with him... but here is an example of 99 percent of our sexual coitus... he rubs my butt for about 15 seconds... takes off my underwear and slides it in. If I want an Orgasm... I have to be on top and do it myself. I am 8 mos pregnant and we have a 10 month old daughter. Yes... pregnant for two years. I have put him down out of such anger and frustration.. I have told him he sucks in bed, has no ding dong... etc.... and that is also because he ran me down all the time in the past .., telling me how awesome his ex-girlfriends were. HE especially went on and on about this one girl that was so perfect... yet everyone if his girlfriends and ex-wife cheated on him. HE is really into himself. I sit on the ground talking to him... while he watches television, or playing on the computer. He is more concerned with how his

2006-11-15 17:36:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anna Q 1

First of all she gets pissed when i masturbate even though we have not had sex in almost year! she wants backrubs and footrubs while my penis actually hurts because of lack of use.
Anytime i try to start something she refers to me as a pervert and says "is that all u want from me?" even though we are ****** married and have not had "good" sex in more than 2 years..
am I alone? what the hell is going on? We are in our mid 20's and i fell like we have the sex life of a 90 year old couple.
P.S. i lover her as a person.. noquestion i just cannot understande her point of view.

2006-11-15 17:28:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend with benefits relationship with this guy, but since I was new to the whole concept of friends with benefits I kinda treated it like a one-night-stand. I don't want any strings attached, I don't want a relationship, and I am not emotionally involved. I think that's why I was ok with treating it like a one-night-stand. What I do want however is to pick up the phone if I have had a stressful day, and say can you come over for about an hour or can we meet somewhere because I need to relieve some stress. I want to know what he does for a living, and I also want to know his last name that way if anything funny ever goes down I can tie it back to him. Since I have treated this like a one night stand so far I don't know how to go back now and ask those things without coming across as though I want more when I really don't. I just don't want to f**k a stranger for the next 6 months. So I am asking you guys what is the best way to approach this, and what questions should I ask.

2006-11-15 17:25:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous