What the hell is wrong with wife??

Question

First of all she gets pissed when i masturbate even though we have not had sex in almost year! she wants backrubs and footrubs while my penis actually hurts because of lack of use.
Anytime i try to start something she refers to me as a pervert and says "is that all u want from me?" even though we are ****** married and have not had "good" sex in more than 2 years..
am I alone? what the hell is going on? We are in our mid 20's and i fell like we have the sex life of a 90 year old couple.
P.S. i lover her as a person.. noquestion i just cannot understande her point of view.

I want to make it clear that not 1 week goes by without me bringing her home flowers, tofee (she loves), or a nice wine (she also loves). I am also the chef of the couple and cook dinner 97% of the time....and i make every dinner to cater to her likes.

I am not some fat slob that ignores her and calls fro sex..... far from it...she is treated like a princess...even her mother tells me i treat her too good!

Answer 1

That's crazy! Sex, and the intimacy that goes with it...should be part of marriage! Something is going on ....!

Answer 2

Many couples do not have the same urge for sex. In marriage, unless there is an illness that prevents one from making love, it is usually expected that the two of you will "Couple". Your wife may have a low sex drive or she may have insecurities or anger problems that keep her from being more intimate. I suggest you speak to a counselor, or Doctor to rule out any emotional or physical problems. If this is not possible, I suggest taking a gentle approach to the time you spend with your wife in bed. Many women must have desire within the mind, be refreshed, and feel secure, before both can be satisfied with the lovemaking.
Don't let power plays get in the way of good sex. Leave your troubles out of the bedroom and relax.

Answer 3

OMG! I wish I had that problem. I give all the massages and the foot-rubs dude... and I am now the one complaining... because we havent had sex in almost three weeks. I also feel like we have the sex life of a 90 year old couple. My question to you would be... are you romantic and do you show her you love her? Do you take her out and appreciate her? If you do... and she is doing this... then stop caring and just act like she doesnt mean a thing to you anymore. See if that works. I bet she will wonder why your no longer the kiss in her a**

Answer 4

Uhhh, why are you still married? If your just spanking it, then their is no reason to have a girl around. If she's gonna tell you what she wants and never give it up to you, then you should get out before your paying for kids. Oh wait, you probably won't have any kids if your not having sex. But yeah dude, I'm with you. If she's not putting out, then your gonna freak out and find sex from some girl who's flirting with you. That's the problem with women. I had a girl like that, but she did like to give oral pleasure whenever I wanted which kind of made up for it. Truth is it gets old for us too, that's why we creep. Women seem to think men have no feelings. Then we have to be totally wrapped up in and understand their feelings, while they go on treating us like we are less than them. Screw it dude, heres the deal men age better and look better for much longer then most women. I'm 34 years old and the last girl I brought home was 21. The young girls are fun and out for fun. Girls my age all have kids and jealous ex-husbands. Truth is if your wanting something you aren't getting at home, you will eventually look elsewhere. You are man so the ball is always in your court. Women just keep looking older and sit home and eventually become bitter old single women. Men on the other hand buy a sportscar and a tan, then cruise around with the bitter old ladies daughters. So, all in all the ball is always in our court. We are men they are women and we always held the uper hand and always will. Thats why they are pissed all the time. Because the only way they can control us is by not giving us what we want. But their is always a neighbor or co-worker who is willingly and ready to give some up. This is why so many men cheat. Then women are always asking why he doesn't pay attention anymore. Are they stupid or what? Just ***** all the time, make demands and never give up sex. Thats why I say screw it man go for the girls who like sex. So what, at least you get some and don't have share your bed with the same girl who wears spongebob pajamas and ear plugs to bed. I want the sexy girl who is in the thong. Young girls bring out your energy and keep life fun. Older women ***** because the car is out of gas and the car seat isn't in right. They older they get the worse it gets. If your not getting it now you never will. So if you want to spend the rest of your life sexless then stay married.

Answer 5

No offense...but I know couples close to their 90's that are gettin' it more than you are...I know that doesn't make you feel any better. Not sure how long you have been together, but were there problems in that area before...even "minor" ones? Has she had any negative or traumatic sexual encounters or experiences in the past? It could be a lot of different things....I wouldn't jump to conclusions...Does she not say why she doesn't want to have sex? If she does, what are some of her reasons?

Answer 6

Okay I don't know if I can help you but I feel like I'm in the same situation -- except I am in the position of your wife.
Sometime I feel the only physical contact my fiance wants is sexual.
For woman it is difficult to have a physical experience without mental.
So every time you touch her -- it shouldn't be for the purpose of having sexual activity-- although in your heart , mind and soul you want to.
Sometimes a woman just needs to be held -- for whatever reason -- without the premise of sexual relations.
I find myself asking the same questions -- Is all you think about is your d***?
It could be something that you have done or said -- but I hate to tell you she'll probably never tell you what it was -- whether it was she looked fat in those jeans or you just didn't wash the dishes on the night she wanted you to.
There is no rhyme or reason -- just hormones.But I'm sure she loves you -- but the lack of sexual activity for a male is frustrating -- just as the lack of a tender kiss, touch or roses [without SEX] is equally frustrating to a female.
GOOD LUCK. It is difficult for us [women ] to understand your plight -- hang in there.
If you can take a short/mini 3 day vacation to a tropical island and just drink and f*** all day long.

Answer 7

Wow, do we have trouble in paradise, or what?

You guys really need some counseling BADLY. You are on two different planets talking different languages and you need to sort this thing out or it will ruin your marriage.

Tell your wife that you are really unhappy with the physical relationship. Assure her that you love her, but that there have to be some changes of things are going to go south quickly. Be willing to change yourself - at least as much as you expect her to change.

Finally, understand that there may be no resolution to this problem. But, do all you can so that if you do split up, you will leave with the feeling that you truly did all that you could to make it right.

Answer 8

She has some issues w/ sex. It's not you. She feels everyone uses her. I'm not sure how to get past that if she won't admit there's a problem. She definately needs a lot of reassurance. The best way to make love to a woman is to start every day complimenting her and making her feel loved and worthy, don't wait until it's bedtime to tell her you love her.

Answer 9

U SOUND LIKE MY HUSBAND LOL no it just might bc you do not show her during other times that you love her you have to show her in other ways that you love her like clean the house take her out to dinner make it ROMATIC moment not just ******* her. Make her feel appreciated. She could be like me and not be all that interested in sex i am 24 and i could care less about it. I do do it but it has to be the right settings and i do not want a slam bam thank you mam kinda deal either. Just make it romatic try new things if possible and do not push the subject and show her that you love her by doing other things then begging for sex and if she does get upset about you masterbating THEN DO NOT DO IT WHERE SHE CAN SEE. frankly i do not care if my husband does but just bc it bothers your wife do it in the bathroom or in the shower do it where she can not see.

Answer 10

I think guys have much higher sex drive than girls in general. However I suggest you guys sit down and have a serious conversation. Don't just ask her why she can't give it up when you are horny, but express how you feel and all and don't forget to listen to what she has to say also. Good luck!