Hi... I've been friends with this bengali muslim girl for more than year already and we see each other in school... and recently for the past 2 months we've been calling each other everyday and talking for 2-3 hrs every night about anything and everything and she is someone I can see myself with. However, she's muslim and she can only marry another muslim I think? I never brought up about me liking her or what not.. but I just really like her company and I would do anything for her. Can anyone give me any thoughts on this and if there are any muslim girls, can you please give me your opinions? I'm chinese and I would marry her, but I wouldn't want to bring it up until I get some clarity on this issue because I wouldn't want to jeopardize what we have now. Also, I noticed in school, she doesn't really talk to me much when her muslim friends are around. But when they aren't, we would always talk... And I would also like to know if us talking so much on the phone means anything. Thanks!
2006-11-15 17:58:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And I don't know if some of you know this, but muslim women can't date, so I can only get married.. And I am chinese and I have no religion =X so... I wouldn't mind converting
2006-11-15 17:58:20 · update #1
I read somewhere that very strict muslim families will accept anyone as long as they convert.
2006-11-15 18:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by aixime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres the thing...it varies...I know my family doesn't allow dating...but some Muslims do anyway...I know people who do. And you MUST convert...but even if you do convert there is a great chance her parents will be against her marrying outside of her race...and you'll have problems. I know that some Bengali families ONLY marry Bengali's, but again, it depends on her family. Just make sure she really is into you like you're into her, and your not just a 'friend'. Ignore the things that guy said about more than one wife, because that stuff doesn't happen anymore...get real. Any sane woman would not allow that.
2006-11-18 14:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A muslim girl can only man another muslim man so unless you're willing to convert yourslef to a Muslim...there's little chance that she'll marry you. Besides her not talking to you in front of other muslim girls might just mean that she's trying to keep you a secret but just because you talk on the phone doesn't mean that you're ready to spend the rest of your life with her. Plus her parents might not let her get married to you so you have to be careful.
2006-11-15 18:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to talk to her if she want to marry you before you confuse yourself. I'm a Muslim sister and if i was in her shoe i wouldn't want my boyfriend or my friend talking about us or asking advice without talking to me first so talk to her she is Muslim and she knows what to do. but as far as converting or any other religion ask your self if you are ready. talk to her she will help you or even talk to her parents or people in the Muslim commuinty. trust me if you try to get answer form the internet it will be hard because everyone will try to give you their own opinoin. here is a good website that can help where you can send all the question you have. this web is where all the big muslim lead who know the religion well help people like you and muslim poeple who have any question about the religion.
good luck and wish you and your firend all the best
reply back to me what you find out
thank yo
2006-11-17 13:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by sha_fw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you convert to islam it is very possible ..... but her family wont allow it if both of you had diffrent religions .. muslim girls are only allowed tomarry muslim guys because they want the kids to be muslims .. in most cases children follow their father's religion.... Converting might take you several steps closer... however ... if you do like her alot .. ASK her... Ask her parents... before you do anything.... Keep in mind a muslim cant convert, its a huge sin .. and he/she will get in trouble.....
2006-11-15 18:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are talking about mixing two very different cultures. I think that it is really great that you have a good relationship. However, you are very young and you do not need to make life decisions at this point. I think that talking on the phone means that she values you as a friend and confidant. I suggest that you continue what you are doing and see how things work out. I think that it would be important if she invited you to her house and if she were allowed to come to your house for a special event.
2006-11-15 18:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a malaysian?
If you are, yes, you both can get married but with the condition tht YOU CONVERT to Islam.
Do your parents approve of that?
Are you willing to give up everything - your parents, siblings, etc?
Are you willing to give up pork and an occasional beer/alcoholic drink?
Are you willing to fast during the Ramadhan month? (go without food and water from sunrise till sunset?
Are you willing to change your name to "xyz bin Abdullah"?
Are you willing to pray FIVE (5) times a day?
Do you know that once you've converted to Islam, you CANNOT convert back to be a Chinese in Malaysia?
Yes, muslim girls can go on a date.
Who told you that they cant go on a date?
Go around the shopping malls, places of interest, everywhere...
You can see them dating.
On a brighter note...
You can have 4 wives :P
(My uncle converted and he has 3 wives... but after a while, the 3rd wife urged him to divorce the first 2 wives and he did... bad man!)
You and your children will enjoy the 'special privileges' offered to "bumiputera" in Malaysia - Amanah Saham Nasioanl (the ygive you monthly divident!!! D*mn it! We chinese have to slog so hard and pay taxes, but the 'bumiputera' get money for free!!! Sh*t!
Buying houses / apartments -you get special rates.
You get better treatment at all the government offices compared to us, the malaysian-born chinese.
YES!!! Singapore's Lee Kuan Yew was right!
we're treated as secondary citizens here...
Think about it...
2006-11-15 18:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by kittenheart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
absolutly u can marry. and muslims can date depends on d family. If u both r of marrigeable age, and love each oter and r sure tht u want to stay together then y cant u maary? ur willingness to convert will smoothen the road considerbly. But u both will need oddles of courage to stand up against d pressured tht will *** ur way.
Best of luck.
2006-11-15 18:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by danny's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about marriage and your desire for conversion to islam. One before the other...You might check into the religion first...tell her that youre interested and ask her for some information during one of your phone chats with her...she likes you but consideration for marriage isnt possible without your coming to Islam. Peace. Islamtheway.com
2006-11-15 18:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are free to marry her. You will likely have to make a compromise on your religion,
2006-11-15 18:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by icantfindaname50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋