Marriage & Divorce - 15 November 2006

I had lunch with an attractive woman I met at a local Toastmasters meeting and we've both shown mutual interest in each other. If I were single, I would hit it like the hand of an angry God! But I'm married, so I didn't pursue it any further and just flirted over some chicken chou mein. But by most accounts, just because I had lunch with the woman without my wife's knowledge, I've cheated already. If that's the case and I've already cheated, should I just go ahead and do the deed? After all, I'm a worthless, lying, cheating SOB with no feelings for my wife, right?

2006-11-15 12:07:22 · 28 answers · asked by edward_the_l0ngshanks 4

2006-11-15 12:07:18 · 6 answers · asked by tinakay_83 3

I want the best for our son truly I do. I want my husband to be apart of his life completly in everyway I can facilitate but he has a history of drugs and alchohol and when he is not clean and sober he is abusive, and neglectfull. He has not been sober for longer than 2 months in our marriage of 2 years. He has been in and out of jail and I think if we go throught the divorce process I would win because my evidence is substantial but I hate fighting, and just want to settle this but he refuses anything other than joint custody and wants my son in his mothers house (whom is also a drug attic) with him 50 percent of the time. I can not get him to see the concerns or that it is unrealistic, he is not in treatment and not always sober but fighting is going to take so much money I dont know what to do, he got drunk and left his niece alone...any suggestions?

2006-11-15 11:59:42 · 9 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2

I been with my husband for 4yrs and I hate having sex with him. I want to know what can I do to even want to have sex with him. I know that I want to have sex because I sometime want it so bad but when I have sex with him its the worst sex and I don't even care if we don't have it again. I want to know what I can do to try to make it better before someone make it better for me, don't get me wrong I love my husband but I hate his sex.

2006-11-15 11:57:20 · 11 answers · asked by pecan 1

found out in 2005,my mum did not let me get married. then in 2006 i called my girlfriend a big peanut.

is this OK?

2006-11-15 11:54:00 · 7 answers · asked by Minami Iwasaki 2

If wife had husband sign a Power of Attorney while he was under the influence of medication and she decided to reduce the price of the house by $10,000 to sell quicker- is he obligated even tho he doesn't want to? (The house belonged to husband before marriage and they haven't been married but 4 years)

2006-11-15 11:41:54 · 9 answers · asked by Silky 1

I have no intention of getting married. I have anger problems and problems with commitment. Plus the fact that I've never been close to anyone in my life. I am not gay, but just, I don't know. I hate the world, sadly in some ways. I hate love and I view it as pathetic.

2006-11-15 11:39:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

after my divorce i contacted my high school love.had not had contact with him in many yrs and did not know what to expect.he told me he was married w/child but after talking to him he told me he had thought about me often and was very unhappy in his marrage.one thing lead to anouther and we had sex(not planed just happened) and he left his wife for me.he spent many nights crying to me about how mean his wife was but stayed for thier son.we have been together for about 5 mos. and things seemed like a dream.he would spend hours just looking at me and saying things like "i can't believe its you","you are the most beutiful person in the world","i love u baby" and would brag about me to everyone we met.well i just found out he has been sleeping with someone at work!i also know he told her he would never leave me for her so its just sex hes after.when i asked him about it he denied it and i did not push it.if a man really loves his gf why would he cheat on her even if it was just sex not lov

2006-11-15 11:36:21 · 17 answers · asked by jimmymack09 1

OK I have gone veggie about two months ago... it will be a forever thing, and I am doing it for health reasons. I am just ready to be healthy! Now my husband has just informed me that he can not stay married to a vegetarian. He said I was not one when we met, and he won't deal with that. I don't want a divorce, but I am not going to just start eating meat again to keep him happy. It shouldn't matter to him how I eat. I don't push anyone else to eat how I do, I make my own veggie meals along side their meat meals... Help! How should I handle this??

2006-11-15 11:35:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

i need tips on making my husband go crazy, madly more in love w/ me. Girls, guys if your married give me some tips please. i just think that my relationship is becoming a routine.i'm 25 and he is 29 and been married for 7 years. and sometimes i feel that he forgot how wonderful he was.

2006-11-15 11:30:54 · 9 answers · asked by melissa p 1

My Fiance is in Japan because he's in the army and thats where he was stationed...He has only been gone not even two weeks and its so hard already. He's not going to be home until June when we are getting married.... does anyone know anything that helps it not be so hard to be away from him?

He was gone for three months and came home for 12 days...I thought that might make it a little easier at first but i think it only made it harder...

2006-11-15 11:20:06 · 22 answers · asked by Melissa 1

We've been married 2 months so I want to make christmas special,but the problem is through the years I've bought him everything he could ever want and I am out of ideas for new gifts he likes baseball,football,fishing he's really an all american guy...help me

2006-11-15 11:15:33 · 7 answers · asked by kelly 3

Serious answers only please. I have seen it wreck not only homes, but childrens' lives. May be I am not seeing the "good" divorces, but I can count about 15 of my friends who were involoved in divorces, most of them with children, in the last 6-7 years, and almost all of them ended up with lawyers, courts, custody fights, money fights, children torn apart.

I know divorce lawyers will disagree, but is it often them that goad the parties to fight and get the best of each other? I heard many people say most of them act like leeches.

2006-11-15 11:12:58 · 6 answers · asked by paanbahar 4

who does it involve? what is the setting?

2006-11-15 11:12:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have a new born child and i feel very overwhelmed,as we can not afford a nanny at the moment,we have discussed about this and each time he would promise to change his behaviour but nothing really changes.If i am too tired to cook he just buys take-away food for himself even though we agreed that our budget doesn't accommodate this on a daily basis since we eat out every weekend.What should i do?i feel like i am alone in this marriage and that unless i accept to be his slave cooking,picking up after him,cleaning,caring for our baby and bringing part of the bread home our marriage is headed for a divorce.He doesn't want to see a marriage counselor either.Please let me know what you would do if you were me.

2006-11-15 11:04:34 · 16 answers · asked by sherie 2

I accidentally deleted this question a moment ago and I lost one answer before I got to read it. WHoever you were, please repost! :)

2006-11-15 11:04:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I AM IN A CRISIS SITUATION. My mom is cheating on my dad, and I know this because they woke me up one night at midnight, and they were screaming at each other. I was in my room while this was happening. Then I heard fists land and my mom was hitting my dad because he wouldn't let her leave. Then my dad started yelling again, and he hit her back, about 10 more times that she hit him. I started crying right then, and I tried to stay quiet, and thankfully, they didn't hear. My mom left walking and my dad got a phone call from my aunt, and he told her what had happened. Then both of my aunt's (mom's sisters) came over and went to look for her.
Last night, the cops were here because my mom got a scary phone call. They (my dad and a cop) were talking and my dad said that they were having problems. The cop asked what kind, and my dad answered that my mom was cheating. Then the cop asked if they were getting a divorce, and he said they might. I cried the rest of the night and told my friends

2006-11-15 11:01:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

being extra sweet instead of just taking out the dam trash (or whatever the thing was)????

Doesn't this seem kind of childish?

2006-11-15 11:01:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

(Parental descretion advised)

I enjoy giving my husband head =) and I was curious..I mean ofcourse not all men think the same way and have the same thoughts while enjoying getting head from their loving wives...and yes I am cool with my husband fantasizing while engaged in making love/sex ...My question is, I looked up at him and noticed he was literally zoned off somewhere into space...lol..it was pretty funny...I asked him if he fantasized, but he said no he was feeling it...I mean c'mon it does turn me on to know that he did but if he was just feeling it wouldn't he be looking at me while feeling me and if he was then why did he zone into space like that? What do u guys think!? lol

2006-11-15 10:53:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have this friend who is a guy. Not my boyfriend but just a friend. We have been friends for all of our lives and i look up to him as a brother. The other day he asked me to marry him and i just stood there with a blank expression on my face! i have no idea what to do.....

2006-11-15 10:52:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

How many women out there have constant trouble with the ex-wife? I would like to hear you stories and how you deal with it. It seems like every time we start to move forward in our relationship, she starts medaling.

2006-11-15 10:49:16 · 10 answers · asked by shyone 3

If a man came from a poor family/background and worked hard to teach himself to type and learn office procedures, then got a good job as an Administrative Assistant (secretary) or Legal Assistant, which paid well and had benefits, would you think it was a "girl" job? Guys would you say "That's a chick's job" or something like that?

2006-11-15 10:48:55 · 21 answers · asked by Ade 6

I cheated on my man over a year ago, it was a mistake that I am not proud of and we got married a couple months ago. I just told him now about it a week or so ago. I can understand the upset, the pain and tears but we were doing better for a few days. But now he treats me like dirt even after he said he forgave me. He's turned into complete monster. I don't even want to be with him anymore. Mentions of divorce? What should I do? :'(

2006-11-15 10:48:10 · 8 answers · asked by mrschrisbennett 1

Now don't get me wrong i am crazy about my husband love him so much. I know he loves me but he has not made love to me in over a year. He says he is stressed but even on vacation he did not. I know it is not me he says i am still sexy and desrible. I think maybe he had EDand is araid to tell me.

OH and i KNOW he i not cheating i alreadh had that checked out.

2006-11-15 10:46:02 · 17 answers · asked by l_iwoman 3

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I am 22 and he is 27. I love him, but he has a drinking problem. He also smokes pot and gambles. I want to break up with him because I can't take it anymore. He has gotten better eg less drinking and less smoking and gambling. But even that is not good enough. We live together so I would have to ask him to move out. I feel that we could have a good relationship if he stopped doing the above, but I am not sure he can. I have given ultimatums and they work for a few weeks, but then he starts up again. He drinks about 8 beers a day. I feel that that is excessive and it affects the quality of our time together. Am I being mean by not sticking by him and trying to get him help? I think his life will go down the toilet when I break up with him, but i don't know if I can be his crutch.

2006-11-15 10:43:52 · 9 answers · asked by Stellar_Girl22 1

my mom and dad talked me in to it i never cheat on her she is my best freand so i could never hurt her what do i do

2006-11-15 10:39:17 · 17 answers · asked by arc 3

2006-11-15 10:39:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

She thinks we should get one less expensive, (I purchased it at $1300, not too high or low), and prefers one that is one solid color; in other words, a similar ring with identical diamonds, but white diamonds instead of yellow and white, and yellow gold instead of white gold. I feel like she is rejecting the ring I got her for something different, am I being foolish?

2006-11-15 10:39:06 · 17 answers · asked by politechaos 2

my partners ex has just got married and has changed their childs name with out speaking about it. is it correct that he should still be paying csa. or is it now up to the new dad to support his family

2006-11-15 10:38:16 · 21 answers · asked by gilly_marty_bailey 1

Once they are married I think a women's goal should be to get back home. My husband and myself have a year to go (of living on one income and saving and paying off debt) so that I can be a stay-at-home wife and someday mother. I don't want to hear that people can't afford it, b/c they can they are just greedy. There is a great need for more women to be completely involved in the home and not careers. Women are so strong and powerful and that is being wasted on careers that men can handle just fine. Women need to go back home and take charge of the family again and build a better world. Don't you agree?

2006-11-15 10:29:11 · 24 answers · asked by Julie 3