Now don't get me wrong i am crazy about my husband love him so much. I know he loves me but he has not made love to me in over a year. He says he is stressed but even on vacation he did not. I know it is not me he says i am still sexy and desrible. I think maybe he had EDand is araid to tell me.
OH and i KNOW he i not cheating i alreadh had that checked out.
2006-11-15 10:46:02 · 17 answers · asked by l_iwoman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You didn't say how old he is or how long you've been married.
You should talk to him about how much you miss the physical closeness because you love him so much, and ask that he please see a doctor, if not for his own sake, then for yours. ED is probably a lot more common in men than they will admit.
While stress or external factors can interfere with sexual desire and performance, it is also possible that a serious medical condition exists. Perhaps it's something easily treatable, and getting a diagnosis can relieve his mind and improve the quality of your marriage. On the other hand, it could be due to a serious condition, such as prostate cancer, and delaying a diagnosis because of assuming it's just stress or because of fear of hearing bad news can be deadly. Problems only get worse when you don't face and resolve them.
This is one time when it's okay to nag your husband. Men are notorious for neglecting their health by failing to seek appropriate medical care, and trying to "tough" things out. It's not just about the sex; it's about his health.
Best wishes.
2006-11-15 11:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by gseeband 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could be ED, and ED is often caused by stress. I think the only way to deal with it is to sit him down, tell him how much you miss being intimate with him (after going for a year without, you're a saint), and tell him you're not up for another year. That the two of you need to find out now what's going on. Tell him if he's having trouble getting erections and is embarrassed, you understand but still need him sexually. Encourage him to see a doctor to make sure it isn't physical - like insulin resistance or diabetes...both of which can also cause ED. If those things are ruled out, then you need to encourage him to talk to you about what keeps you two apart physically. And all the way through this, keep telling him how much you miss his bod.
2006-11-15 10:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by sonofstar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could be something as simple as a medical condition that needs to be corrected. Tell him how you feel and that you are worried about him andthen go with him to the doctors if needed...some guys are such big babies when it involves personal things, they think they are the only ones that can have a problem. Try to encourage him to do something as soon as possible, because if it is something serious then he will have gotten a jump on it...sooner the better, if this isn't the problem and if it is something that is bothering him mentally, then tell him to do the same...go to a doctor and talk this out. The longer he waits the worse your situation will get, don't let it go any longer or heand you will regret time lost being together. Good luck to you and you husband.
2006-11-15 10:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by MiMi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you. i'm sorry yet ovulating isn't an excuse for that kind of habit and hormones are in no way and excuse for undesirable habit. no count number if that's promiscuity or bitchiness or overeating or regardless of. i'm stunned that the scientific institution hasn't asked her to be greater expert. As a girl I specific could be asserting something the two as a affected person or coworker to somebody. As on your husband no longer noticing her no longer donning a bra, till he's punctiliously blind and clueless, he observed.
2016-10-04 00:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by banowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people here talked about possible physical issues or ED. No one mentioned that some guys use sex, or withholding sex, as a form of emotional cruelty. Do you feel that he is subtly manipulative in other areas? Do you sometimes feel confused by what he's talking about? Does he blame you for problems in the relationship that you don't feel you should be blamed for? Look into passive-aggressive behavior if you feel your guy is doing any of these things. Because if he's a mind-f*cker, no doctor can cure that.
2006-11-15 11:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetheart if he hasn't had sex in over a year u really need to get to the bottom of it.I don't know your age because that can play a roll in it.So if he is still in his 30's then u need to find out what is going on with him.If it's 40's then take him to the doctor.If 50's well then that can be normal.Sorry....Good luck Oh and u can email me if u need more information.
2006-11-15 11:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably right that he has ED and won't say...but it could also be that he has no libido. Desire and ability are often quite separate. So he could be depressed and lost desire. Or he could have a medical situation that results in either loss of libido or ED or both. He needs to see a doctor about this, so that anything that is medical is taken care of, including depression. If it is just simple ED owing to age, which I don't think it is but could be, he still needs to see a doctor about Viagra.
2006-11-15 10:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by sonyack 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm interpreting this as low sex drive. It can be caused by many things both psychological and physical. It is possible that it's been long enough that on vacation he didn't even know how to approach the subject any more. At any rate, I'd try to get him to open up to you or a professional.
2006-11-15 10:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
O.K. Honey: Your missing the whole point, it's called "communication" that's what's wrong with most marriages today, communication.
Get together with him and explain your fears to him, not us, talk to him, not us.
If it's ED there's nothing wrong that today's medicine can't correct and, if he's hiding something medical on you, let him know you'll be supportive.
Talk to him and. If he still won't talk, you'll have to decide what corner to turn on but remember, once that decision is made, it's made for life and, life is short so be careful.
2006-11-15 10:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
could things possibly have gotten boring in the bedroom? You know the same old thing? Or maybe he does have ed. He needs to see a doc though if he does have ed. how old are you guys? Young guys typically want it more often than older guys. when ppl get older there sex life dwindles down.
2006-11-15 11:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋